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So is your dad in jail right now? What's going on? Is anyone in your family doing anything this time or are you all just going to let him come back home and do it again? Are you guys getting together to discuss what to do, or just pretending it's not happening?

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Yeah, I don't get how he can get away with it this time especially since there is an eyewitness. I am pretty sure that at least in NY striking someone in the face is a felony (especially when it's that hard).

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He's out, but staying with one of his partners. My brothers, my grandparents and I all went over and talked to her. She said she knows he can't come back until the order is up. She said that he's the only one who understands her... Whatever that means. My grandparents want her to come with them for a few days. I know that my grandpa is really upset about the whole thing. He hates my dad.

 

I've been looking into it and he could get anything from a six grand fine and probation to four years in prison.

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He's out, but staying with one of his partners. My brothers, my grandparents and I all went over and talked to her. She said she knows he can't come back until the order is up. She said that he's the only one who understands her... Whatever that means. My grandparents want her to come with them for a few days. I know that my grandpa is really upset about the whole thing. He hates my dad.

 

I've been looking into it and he could get anything from a six grand fine and probation to four years in prison.

 

The entire family needs counseling. Each deserve to group it up and learn how to have empathy without enabling your parents. Neither are well.

 

The judge will decide the sentence . One condition whether he does jail time or not is counseling (court ordered).

 

Has the Liason been administered to speak with your mom? The Court Liason reports back to the judge on their professional finding of the victim. It goes with the report to the judge...They are object and somewhat compassionate to the victim giving them options for healing or providing information on programs. They are not counselors per se.

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I don't think she's spoken with anyone from the court yet... I'm not sure. She tends to keep us out of the loop if it has to do with "her husband" what's funny is when this happens, he isn't our dad. She says my husband. Then when it blows over, its back to "daddy" again. It must be some sort of coping thing.

 

I'm going to see her later. She's got a cast on from him slamming her in the door. My ex and I are taking the baby over. I hope it cheers her up a little.

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I don't think she's spoken with anyone from the court yet... I'm not sure.
That's not what I asked. I asked can't YOU go to the POLICE and make your own claim against him? Regardless of what SHE does? You already KNOW that SHE won't file against him. If you want to save her life, YOU have to do it.
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My ex, my daughter, and I went and spent Friday night and most of Saturday with her. She was really sweet with the baby, she was holding her, kissing her and kept saying things in Spanish to her. She's bilingual, but when my dad's around Spanish is not aloud. Ever. As a result I only know about two words but just the way she said things made them sound loving, you know?

 

I made a joke that he should move out and the three of us should move in. She kind of laughed, but my ex got really upset so I apologized. I had fun with the three of them. I kept getting up in the night to check on them but at the same time I felt more relaxed.

 

I will everything that is reasonably in my power to help her.

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He's not living there, but I know he's been there. His watch was on the table on Sunday. I want to protect her, but I can't control her. My brothers are going to work with the court system to get her out. What scares me is the company without him. He started it, and it's everything. Income, my new job, basically everything I've worked for who knows what will happen if he goes to jail. My mother is more important, I know that. I have to remember she comes first.

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