Britain Posted December 19, 2013 Share Posted December 19, 2013 While browsing the posts I see the word love mentioned many times and this word particularly sticks out to me. I do not understand it. Please do not take my asking the wrong way. A person other than my family would have to go through extraordinary measures in order for me to grow fondly of them enough to fall in love. What the MM has to offer does not measure close, not a distance close to possibly turn my thoughts and feelings toward love. He would have to deliver and this he does not. He fails measurably. Maybe I am missing a love chip or two. Trying to understand. Link to post Share on other sites
Nothisgirl Posted December 19, 2013 Share Posted December 19, 2013 No, i dont think youre missing a "love chip" in fact, I wish I had protected my heart more and not allowed myself to develop such deep feelings for MM...for us, he said it first, I held off for about a month after that and it drove him nuts...ill tell you that it felt (feels) like deep, raw emotion and we really do connect in a different way...what I am learning and figuring out is that "love", even love that feels so perfect, isn't enough to satiate me while he goes home to his wife, or enough to replace the deep feelings of guilt and shame for falling in love with another womans husband 2 Link to post Share on other sites
yellowmaverick Posted December 19, 2013 Share Posted December 19, 2013 You are perhaps the most rational OW who has ever posted on this site. A MM who took vows of love, fidelity, and honor and then cheats on his spouse has no idea what real love is. It seems that you get this. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
happy stillmore Posted December 19, 2013 Share Posted December 19, 2013 (edited) I know it is odd thing that most do not understand. I think it depends on whether people believe they have a "true love" or soulmate out there in the world. Sometimes you connect with someone and it feels like you knew them before or you just "get" each other. You tell yourself you are the right people that meet at the wrong time. The problem is your heart doesn't listen to your head. Your head tells you it is wrong but your heart tells you it is so right. Well, the truth is you both should be honest with yourselves and end your current relationship before allowing your heart to be open to another. If you are not happy in your current relationship, end the relationship first out of love and respect for that person. Edited December 19, 2013 by happy stillmore 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britain Posted December 19, 2013 Author Share Posted December 19, 2013 Great responses, I have a better understanding now even in regards to my own feelings with MM. Link to post Share on other sites
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