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Why do you care if he deleted you?

 

You know that you can't maintain healthy contact with this man.

 

I know, myself.

 

It is REALLY hard to shut that door and keep it closed. And, when you are leaving someone not because of lack of love or wishing the relationship would work but because you have to do it because it is an unhealthy relationship to stay in....it is hell.

 

For me....I have wanted my ex to chase me, tell me how wrong he is, miss me, fight for me....Ugh.

 

I know, logically, none of that is going to happen. We wouldn't be broken up if that would be something he is capable of doing...being vulnerable...not having the control. But, I still have wanted it.

 

And, if you have never left before....well, leaving can feel like playing your final trump card. I am leaving, you don't have any control anymore. And, we futility hope that they will awaken and realize the errors of their ways.

 

I broke a couple days back and I ended up with a big ol reality check.

 

He just gets meaner all the time. More blaming, more withholding....ugh.

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Why do you care if he deleted you?

 

really? because I care and love this man. It was rejection, of course I care.

 

It is REALLY hard to shut that door and keep it closed. And, when you are leaving someone not because of lack of love or wishing the relationship would work but because you have to do it because it is an unhealthy relationship to stay in....it is hell.

 

yea, pretty much either way hurts. but the outcomes are different.

 

For me....I have wanted my ex to chase me, tell me how wrong he is, miss me, fight for me....Ugh.

 

ME TOO, and I didn't get that. more rejection...

 

I know, logically, none of that is going to happen. We wouldn't be broken up if that would be something he is capable of doing...being vulnerable...not having the control. But, I still have wanted it.

 

EXACTLY!

 

And, if you have never left before....well, leaving can feel like playing your final trump card. I am leaving, you don't have any control anymore. And, we futility hope that they will awaken and realize the errors of their ways.

 

I know, I still realize if he will one day realize he lost someone special. But I won't be around to know...

 

He just gets meaner all the time. More blaming, more withholding....ugh.

 

I think he blocked me so he could get his power back. Good for him.

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I wish my ex think the way like u do but don't think is gonna happen , because all I'm trying is to win her back by changing my own **** that she dealing with but is not . She said is over and will remain friend and never get into relationship with me anymore ever :(

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I wish my ex think the way like u do but don't think is gonna happen , because all I'm trying is to win her back by changing my own **** that she dealing with but is not . She said is over and will remain friend and never get into relationship with me anymore ever :(

 

I'm sorry, what did you say?

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They way u love this man like I love my ex sorry I'm not good with English also forum quote

 

OOH I see. That's okay. :-)

 

Yes, l love him, but it's time to let him go.

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Good to see that he's taking this break up seriously. He would never have been the one to do the crawling because you already did that for him. And you don't want him to "fight" for you. You fight for a person in the relationship, not once it's over.

 

So very hard to hear.

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OOH I see. That's okay. :-)

 

Yes, l love him, but it's time to let him go.

 

That's good for u for let go , I'm still in the fight and try to let her go :(

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I understand. I didn't do anything to him. I didn't bother him or text him, so why does HE have to delete me!.

 

 

 

He probably would ask you the same thing if he knew you deleted him from your phone.

 

 

He needs to heal too, and he is making that step. Like you made, by deleting him from your phone.

 

 

Don't take it personally, it is the process to heal.

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Everything goes to the keeper.

 

If he wants any contact at all, he's got to grovel for it.

 

And at this point, with how he's acted, he doesn't deserve it.

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Yes, any number that you do not recognize, do not pick up. Let it go to voicemail.

 

Do not break NC. This is like breaking an addiction. Detoxing. You have to resist and push through.

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Now he just called me...

 

If you decide to let him go u shouldn't pick up the call unlike me right now still struggling and try not to call her and see what she doing .

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Dear Ms. Cotten Socks,

 

I have been following your threads. Hahaha. He calls you while we discuss or read about you torment of being deleted! Honey, I'm inspired by you! Your courage to come to LS rather than act on impulse, and I'm sure I'm old enough to be a more distant relative than your mom I bet!

 

Control of impulse - I'll never get. I think that ability could be somewhat innate. If u change your phone, I'll change mine!!! Keep up the great work doll!

 

This a good day for you! Right? Yas

 

 

 

 

PS Mine does drive by's. Makes me crazy everytime I see him showing off the stupid covertable Mercedes. He is such a little guy - the thing looks like a huge silver boat with his tiny bald head barely sticking out! I cannot baracade the sub-division. Any ideas?

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I didn't answer! Sorry took a pill to go to sleep so haven't been on. I just need to distract myself for now, I'll be on later to reply. I'm staying strong.

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I didn't answer! Sorry took a pill to go to sleep so haven't been on. I just need to distract myself for now, I'll be on later to reply. I'm staying strong.

 

stay strong Cotton , now my ex is there on skype right now as usual after i finish from work . im not sure if i can stop calling her and i wonder is she's there for me ? because she didn't login until i finish from work (as she said before login skype all the time because of me)

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This may have already been brought up...I didnt read the whole thread just your OP. Is it possible hrs seeing someone else and the gf asked him to do so? Or maybe seeing you on his list and when you were online gave him too much temptation to reach out? If you ask him about it it will let him know you still care...

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He BycS,

 

Long time lurker (found this wonderfull site when my ex broke up with me 2,5 years ago). Just registered. Have read most of your posts and feel the need to reply.

 

Your ex is an asshat. Remember this forever:

- He broke up with you when you were about to move in. Leaving you homeless because you gave up your own place.

- You then had to move in with the asshat since you had no place to go. So nice of him, having a loving ex-gf in his house to cater HIS needs.

- He still got sex, you got heartbreak.

- He played with your emotions and made you think by his words AND actions that you two would get back together.

- Then he rejected you some more.

- Then he played you some more (to get sex, very nice asshat indeed).

- He told you he would be out looking for tight pussies.

- When you react, ofcourse, it's a joke.. How dare you be so sensitive (asshat behaviour, giant dick face).

 

You move out (you go girl, I apploud you), he has the nerve to ask you in a text:

- Where you are now.

- Who helped you.

Asshats don't need to know anything and have NO right to even ask you this.

 

He blocked you to get a rise: "Well if BycS won't respond, I will show her! Then she will com groveling back and I have my egoboost. Maybe I can trick her into sleeping with me again. I lik sex, I'm an asshat. Maybe I can play her some more? Maybe I can make her my FWB.."

 

And when you don't react, he is losing some power, and pride. You hurt his precious asshat ego. Good for you!

 

So now he starts calling you.. Trying to make HIMSELF feel better, not you.

 

Be strong, stay NC! You don't need that dick face!

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Today is a good day. Slept like a baby last night. Woke up and didn't have any sinking heart feeling. I'm actually feeling very "free" and "calm" lately. That could be the Klonopin they put me on. lol

 

TRAPITO,

 

Your ex is an asshat. Remember this forever:

- He broke up with you when you were about to move in. Leaving you homeless because you gave up your own place.

- You then had to move in with the asshat since you had no place to go. So nice of him, having a loving ex-gf in his house to cater HIS needs.

- He still got sex, you got heartbreak.

- He played with your emotions and made you think by his words AND actions that you two would get back together.

- Then he rejected you some more.

- Then he played you some more (to get sex, very nice asshat indeed).

- He told you he would be out looking for tight pussies.

- When you react, ofcourse, it's a joke.. How dare you be so sensitive (asshat behaviour, giant dick face).

 

This is great! So true. Thank you for pointing these out, I'm going to write em' down and keep them in my wallet. These are things I need to remind myself of whenever I get down.

 

But for the most part, I think I'm doing okay. I'm really excited about my future and getting a second job and moving into my own place. I really am motivated and hopeful and positive.

 

I was hurt that he deleted me but as time went on I realize that I shouldn't care and that it was a blessing that he did. Because it helps me forget him a little more. Now when I log onto my gmail I won't have to see his name there. I deleted his voicemails and his numbers. I haven't deleted pictures because I've done that in the past and regretted it. But I hid them in a folder that I won't look in.

 

Breaking up can be a positive, empowering thing if you want it to be. No contact is a blessing. It really helps the dumpee regain their power and sanity.

 

I got this.

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