Dumbest OW on earth? You thoughts ... Self reflecting now.

[nicepuzzle]

He was sleeping with multiple woman and was too emotionally intense with me. He would still meet with me even though I wouldnt let him penetrate and will make out. I was not going all the way since at times, I felt guilty, didnt like his roumors with othe woman and yet it felt the most real thing. He showed intensity that I never felt with any other available men. it felt complete. Was it me or it was indeed complete or was I too much in love and understand him beyond all his mistakes. I didnt even expect him to leave his wife and was just happy to be in those stolen moments.

 

I broke up nice and moved on and he came back again after 6 years just to do the same. Give minimal, be emotional intense and all the way sex this time. I let myself go finally. and than I heard during those 6 years he still had rumours with same other OWs and he was travelling on business with them. When I asked him he said he loved me and thats all should matter. All these OW shouldnt matter since its not important.

 

AM I the one who was crazy? With all other single men I dated I didnt have that low self esteem. Some MM give very less to keep women wanting and keep it minimal to the sex and limited contact to keep them wanting. I never saw a sick man like that again but what was wrong with him. After breaking with him, telling all to his wife, I do self refelcting now and feel what was wroong with me to put up with that. I dodged a bullet to break up with him for life by telling his life. Dont feel very proud but something was wrong and I was in a web that couldnt be broken otherwise. I saw him with his family and the games and the hints were ever ending.. and the show that how miserable he was his wife who cheated too and bore a child with someone who he is raising. And they are still together. How disgusting the whole story can be and I became part of it. One year NC and I am proud of it. Finally feels everythign better.

 

Thoughts?? Why did I get into this crazy person's life?

[Denton2406]

MM lay it on so thick. They woo and give so much emotion. More so than most single men in most normal dating relationships. They have too - otherwise the OW would never have anything to do with him. MM has to charm and woo and ILY ILY ILY, with the texts and beautiful words, the compliments, the baring of emotions, the fun and wonderful sex, etc in order to Draw the OW in. He has to offer something more than a regular, single guy so that the OW can justify being with him in her mind.

 

That is why so many OW say they've never felt his way with any other man, never felt such a good connection, never felt so much love. the MM has to be that way. No one can charm like the MM.

 

As for why you did it? Most OW at the time have some sort of vulnerability, emotional weakness, low self-esteem, etc of that sort that make them susceptible. The MM's charms feel SO GOOD....that they ignore the glaring red flag that is his marriage.

 

Thanks Shining Autumn....that is spot on!!

[lilmisscantbewrong]

MM lay it on so thick. They woo and give so much emotion. More so than most single men in most normal dating relationships. They have too - otherwise the OW would never have anything to do with him. MM has to charm and woo and ILY ILY ILY, with the texts and beautiful words, the compliments, the baring of emotions, the fun and wonderful sex, etc in order to Draw the OW in. He has to offer something more than a regular, single guy so that the OW can justify being with him in her mind.

 

That is why so many OW say they've never felt his way with any other man, never felt such a good connection, never felt so much love. the MM has to be that way. No one can charm like the MM.

 

As for why you did it? Most OW at the time have some sort of vulnerability, emotional weakness, low self-esteem, etc of that sort that make them susceptible. The MM's charms feel SO GOOD....that they ignore the glaring red flag that is his marriage.

 

 

This is the absolute truth.