A Year Later, I'm Finally Ready

[theothersully]

Ok. It's been a year since my divorce. I have had a blast. I have hooked up with tons of girls,all way younger and really had a lot of fun partying and drinking and stuff.

 

I think it's all out of my system now.

 

I'm just about ready to have a real relationship again, if not marriage.Prenup marriage, but marriage ultimately.

 

I am able to 100% open my body and mind to women I'm serious with. I am going to think back to my longest relationship, my marriage, and try to explain what I like.

 

We did everything together. Shared tons if not all the same interests. We made ourselves better people. We spent 24/7/365 together because that is how my life is. It's a little strange, but there is a very blurry line between work and home, but there are months off and plenty of money. So we spent all our time together, working, playing, enjoying a healthy life. As far as communication goes, it was like we had a cable connecting our brains. That cable hurt my head sometimes when her borderline personality disorder kicked in hard.

 

So.... I'm looking for this again. I've had it with other long term relationships. I'm ready again, to focus my efforts on someone.

 

But I forget how to get there. I can attract all sorts of random hot chicks to hook up and party with. But... I'm pretty rusty on finding a good person I can share my life with. School and work were great places, but I don't have school and my work is not in large companies.

 

I think I have to start trolling through online dating sites, but the people on them seem to be soooooo broken/boring, I like a little bit of a badass/rebel/anarchist who is into healthy living. A ”rebel without a penis." lol Who doesn't want to have kids.

 

Tall order. I think I enjoy "co dependent" relationships, if i am even sure what that is. I like to immerse myself 100% with someone. I don't care who says it's wrong. I love the intimacy.

 

So where do I even begin?

 

I'm in nyc. See lots of very attractive girls here. Looking for 30-35 yo girls or so this is my most compatible age range. I'm kind of a weirdo and love other weirdos like myself. I'm very open minded and find oddities and edginess interesting.

 

Where would you begin? And I need to find another co dependent type too.... that likes to do stuff together every chance we get. Also, helpful if she doesn't have a huge career that would keep her from enjoying life.

 

 

Online dating? Whole Foods cold approaches? Farmers Market cold approaches? Camp outside the yoga studio? lol Strippers? Not kidding there because they do have most of these qualities.

Edited December 20, 2013 by theothersully

[Khyla]

hmmm, you had a similar thread a few weeks ago, in which you had a list of specific qualities you were looking for.

I seemed to match most of them. So I might be interested in having a look at you.

 

Only problem is I'm not in your age range baby.

 

But I invite you to see for yourself; stop in and see me in my cam room. It's FREE and I'm told I have a fun room. Never know what I'll be doing. I dont do anything lewd in there. I am not usually completely naked either. You can read my profile there too (i think the pics are awful though. need new ones).

 

And I get a lot of young guys in there, a lot younger than you. lol!

 

I'm not allowed to post the link here, but you just need to google "Khyla cams" if you're interested and my homepage should be the first choice. It's on MyFreeCams.

 

This is not meant to be solicitation in any way, so please don't think of it that way. You can find out why I just started doing the cam model thing here: .... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/transitioning/search/446374-seems-healthy-way-cope-but-sometimes-want-real-life-bare-hug-am-i-messed-up#post5377703