greenfairie Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 if a guy you're starting to date was like "I don't want to see you as a baby" when you tried showing him childhood pictures, what would you think?
Noproblem Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Maybe he is jealous because he didn't have good childhood photos or maybe he hate kids maybe he will feel less attracted to you if he saw you as a kid maybe he is just selfish and rude maybe he didn't feel like at the moment maybe he had a horrible childhood maybe you are over thinking! I really have no idea. Ask him!!!!!!!!!!!! 3
Fondue Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 It's really not a complicated issue/reason. I disagree with Noproblem completely. It's simply about boundaries. I would feel very awkward if a girl I just started to date was trying to show me baby pictures. I think that requires a certain level of bond (be it small for you, but maybe higher for the person you are with) that will dictate comfort level. If someone is not comfortable with it, then you should probably respect. It isn't because he dislikes you, it's just because he hasn't crossed those boundaries. Nothing bad. 2
d0nnivain Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I would think that most men have no interest in stuff like this. Women . . . we want to know & see everything. Men just don't care. It's not about the women. It's just not something that interests them. Don't sweat it.
StanMusial Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I would think that most men have no interest in stuff like this. Women . . . we want to know & see everything. Men just don't care. It's not about the women. It's just not something that interests them. Don't sweat it. I agree. But if she asked I would say "Sure", it's not like it would traumatize me or anything. 2
d0nnivain Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I agree. But if she asked I would say "Sure", it's not like it would traumatize me or anything. I would expect many men would also say "sure" just to avoid being perceived as a jerk but the fact that this guy demurred isn't an indication by itself that he doesn't like the OP.
Shepp Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I agree. But if she asked I would say "Sure", it's not like it would traumatize me or anything. Me too!! It's just polite really! I don't think it was a massive deal he wasn't that interested, I just think he made a obvious schoolboy error in being blunt about it. 1
rocketman122 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 men saying no to seeing childhood pics.. meaning? Where exactly are the MEN you are asking about? I wouldnt have an issue? its interesting to see, but usually its meh. those old ugly crap rez pictures are very boring to look at. im a photographer so instead of enjoying the picture my mind criticizes the composition and horrible color casts those warped curved paper photos have.
veggirl Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I mean, it's weird to be showing a new person your baby pics. like why are you even doing that? I can understand a guy not wanting to see them (or just not caring either way) but actually saying no is pretty rude when it's early on and you'd THINK he would be wanting to impress you. I agree that baby pics are personal and it's very weird to be busting them out to show new guys on a whim. I mean like..."look at how cute I was!" or something? lol I don't get it. 1
Keenly Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Because men do not care about pictures the way women care about pictures, no matter how Much you want us to . I would have no interest at all in going on a photo album binge unless I had been dating the girl for a good long while, aka years. I'm just sitting there going " yeah that's cool " ZZzzzzZzzzZzzz 2
runningfar Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I'd be weirded out by that in a new relationship but saying no seems rude. Why were you trying to show them?
FitChick Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I mean, it's weird to be showing a new person your baby pics. like why are you even doing that? She wants him to know that they will have cute babies together because she was a cute baby. 1
stillafool Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I would think that most men have no interest in stuff like this. Women . . . we want to know & see everything. Men just don't care. It's not about the women. It's just not something that interests them. Don't sweat it. I'm a woman and I would really have no interest in sitting and looking at baby pictures. Maybe one but that's about it.
nomadic_butterfly Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 if a guy you're starting to date was like "I don't want to see you as a baby" when you tried showing him childhood pictures, what would you think? LOL I've shown friends and exes and guys I've dated a few baby pictures. As a matter of fact, when my first love came to meet my parents, my mom whipped out EMBARRASSING AS EVER baby pics that made ME cringe and he thought I was just as cute as a child. That was a douchey move on the guy's part but not a huge deal to me. It's just pictures for crying out loud!! In today's environment where men can inconspicuously (sometimes) transform into women, I'd think it to be awesome gender verification that the gf was indeed "born that way" :lmao:
veggirl Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Because men do not care about pictures the way women care about pictures, no matter how Much you want us to . LOL true that. I've asked my BF a few times to see his baby pics and he's always like "what? why?" So, I've never tried to make him look at mine, lol.
MalachiX Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 If I'm on a first or second date with a girl, I'd find it a bit odd for her to bust out the baby pictures. If I'm falling for a girl, I actually probably would be curious to see what she looked like when she was younger. Why not if I'm in love with this person? All that said, I think it's rather rude and disconnected for a guy to say, "I don't want to see any baby pictures of you." As others have said, you'd think he'd just go along with it to be polite and not seem like a jerk. The fact that he's actually resistant says something about him that could be worrisome. Wasn't this a plot point in the movie The Departed? When Matt Damon wouldn't let his GF put childhood pictures of her in their new apartment? I always thought that was mean to show that he was emotionally disconnected and not really in love with her.
winny Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 if a guy you're starting to date was like "I don't want to see you as a baby" when you tried showing him childhood pictures, what would you think? Don't think so much... I don't think it means anything... I think he meant... I like to see you more as a woman... But why in the world u want him to see your baby pictures???
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