cocorico Posted December 22, 2013 Share Posted December 22, 2013 Actually, the original definition of the word means a woman with poor standards of cleanliness!................................. A UKIP politician recently got into hot water for referring to women who don't clean behind their fridges as sluts. He omitted to mention whether or not he cleaned behind the fridge. Having moved into a house my H's xW had lived in alone for a year, I can confidently say that my standards of cleanliness are way stricter than hers, so accusations of sluttiness could be made in one direction only. Goodyblue, she was likely just trying to be mean and hit you with whatever insult she would most hate to have been hit with herself. It's useful information about her own self-image, but I would not invest any energy on it. Jealousy makes you nasty, as the kids say on the playground, and she's showing that to be true. Link to post Share on other sites
whatatangledweb Posted December 22, 2013 Share Posted December 22, 2013 I truly wonder. I don't think that I was/am a slut, but according to my guys ex wife, I am a slut. Don't worry that I have sexually been with far less people than she. I'm still a slut. Do BS's really think this or is it just a jab? As a BS I don't consider all OW sluts . I do consider the OW who had an affair with my husband a whore (I don't use slut, I use whore). I also considered my husband one during his affair. Now she and her friends may not think she is one. I may be the only person who thinks of her that way . Is she one? To me, yes....to others, no. It is like when someone considers someone a bitch. You may or may not be one but that person will always think of you as one. Words and names can not hurt you unless you give them the power to. If you do not think of yourself as a slut then you are not one. You are most likely a very nice person but you can not expect his wife to think of you as one. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
lilmisscantbewrong Posted December 22, 2013 Share Posted December 22, 2013 (edited) slut - definition of slut by the Free Online Dictionary, Thesaurus and ... slut - definition of slut by the Free Online Dictionary, Thesaurus and Encyclopedia. a. A person, especially a woman, considered sexually promiscuous. b. A woman prostitute. This is the definition. I guess I don't consider myself a slut because I have only had sex with two men in my life - my husband and my xmom. Could I have had a lot of partners? Yes I could have, but I am not wired to jump in bed with just anyone. I have to have an emotional connection - to love them. It is hard when your affair had been as public as mine and even though things are a whole lot better now and I really have had a restored sense of dignity and position in the community again, there are a few women that don't trust me - I can sense it - with their husbands. What these women don't understand is that I am not interested in their husbands at all. So no - I don't consider myself a slut. I consider myself a human being who made a very bad decision to let her boundaries down and develop an emotional connection and relationship with someone other than my husband. It is not something I will allow myself (god willing) to do again. Edited December 22, 2013 by lilmisscantbewrong 2 Link to post Share on other sites
happy stillmore Posted December 22, 2013 Share Posted December 22, 2013 Lilmisscantbewrong, Your words are exactly how I describe myself. I have never been promiscuous. My H was my first. XMOM was my second. I too need an emotional connection to have sex with someone. For me, sex is making love. Although the mention of the slut having dirt behind the refrigerator made me laugh. I admit it has been awhile since I cleaned behind my refrigerator. In fact, I'm doing it today. I certainly don't want to be a "slut." 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Cocochai Posted December 23, 2013 Share Posted December 23, 2013 No I def don't consider myself a slut. I didn't pursue the MM nor did I ever think i'd be having an affair with one. Link to post Share on other sites
Journee Posted December 23, 2013 Share Posted December 23, 2013 Lilmisscantbewrong, Your words are exactly how I describe myself. I have never been promiscuous. My H was my first. XMOM was my second. I too need an emotional connection to have sex with someone. For me, sex is making love. Although the mention of the slut having dirt behind the refrigerator made me laugh. I admit it has been awhile since I cleaned behind my refrigerator. In fact, I'm doing it today. I certainly don't want to be a "slut." I'm not trying to t/j but I had to chuckle at this. I guess I'm a little sluttish as I haven'tmade time to clean behind the fridge either. I will get It done before all the cooking for Christmas. Plus I took off my rings to do dishes and one flew under the fridge (I think...I hope!) Lol All the ways to compete with other women. Who has the biggest and cleanest house. Who has the most attractive figure. Who is married or not. It's exhausting. My M was pretty well non existent. On paper alone. We had been separated for a year and not even living in the same zip code. I was being stubborn and selfish about our reconciliation ( non A related). I became pregnant. He asked to move in and I was too busy trying to be right instead of happy. We continued the separation on my terms. Then when I had a change of heart ....along came OW. Anyway, 7 weeks later I found out. I called her and she accidentally answered. She was having sex and I thought at first it was my husband she was with. I grabbed my pregnant stomach and became physically ill. She and I spoke later on and met. She was married herself and was seeing a couple of other men at the time. Three other than my H ( but including her own H). Crazy to think back on. Her sexual behavior was questionable but I think all of our behaviors sucked at the time. Everyone thinking of themselves. I could call her a slut I suppose. She had a lot going on. Or I can learn from my own terrible behavior and that of my H in order to be a better person. Which will make me a better wife and partner. Making fun of OW's sexual behavior in an obviously very difficult time in her life gets me no where. I did have that attitude for a while. I let it go. I ran into her at a park near by. We were both busy being mommy's. Time marching on. I doubt she thinks much of H or me. She barely knew him. He barely knew her. She didn't know me at all. I hope she is doing better. She was not in a good place. None of us were. Calling her a slut won't change that. All she knew was H was separated and I was pregnant. I don't think she thought any further than that. Obviously H didn't either. Messy, messy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted December 23, 2013 Share Posted December 23, 2013 A UKIP politician recently got into hot water for referring to women who don't clean behind their fridges as sluts. He omitted to mention whether or not he cleaned behind the fridge. Having moved into a house my H's xW had lived in alone for a year, I can confidently say that my standards of cleanliness are way stricter than hers, so accusations of sluttiness could be made in one direction only. Goodyblue, she was likely just trying to be mean and hit you with whatever insult she would most hate to have been hit with herself. It's useful information about her own self-image, but I would not invest any energy on it. Jealousy makes you nasty, as the kids say on the playground, and she's showing that to be true. Oh good lord. What about the men who live in homes with no regard to the cleanliness of the area behind their fridge!?? Sluts them all! I had no idea one was supposed to clean back there. I hope that the cleaning crew does it. What is a woman called who pays someone else to take care of those chores? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Whisper Quiet Posted December 23, 2013 Share Posted December 23, 2013 Lilmisscantbewrong, Although the mention of the slut having dirt behind the refrigerator made me laugh. I admit it has been awhile since I cleaned behind my refrigerator. In fact, I'm doing it today. I certainly don't want to be a "slut." Giggle. Thank you for this. Reading here can be a bit serious at times and this was an unexpected departure. Link to post Share on other sites
BOREDouttaMymind Posted December 23, 2013 Share Posted December 23, 2013 anyone who calls someone a slut know in the back of their mind that they are too. Link to post Share on other sites
experiencethedevine Posted December 23, 2013 Share Posted December 23, 2013 Oh good lord. What about the men who live in homes with no regard to the cleanliness of the area behind their fridge!?? Sluts them all! I had no idea one was supposed to clean back there. I hope that the cleaning crew does it. What is a woman called who pays someone else to take care of those chores? Rather sensible I would wager! I have a cleaner who takes care of our household very well thankyou! Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted December 23, 2013 Share Posted December 23, 2013 Rather sensible I would wager! I have a cleaner who takes care of our household very well thankyou! You SLUT! Paying for it! How do you sleep at night!?! Link to post Share on other sites
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