Mariposa10 Posted December 21, 2013 Share Posted December 21, 2013 I just got some horrible news... Some of my dreams have been broken because of the news I got today. Plus, let's not forget how I had the most painful breakup in my entire life this year. I rarely get depressed, but I'm feeling pretty depressed right now. I will not tell my family the news until I'm really to talk about it. If I tell them now, I'll won't be able to stop crying... How does one cope when everything goes wrong? I know I will probably feel better in the future, but today I couldn't stop crying. Link to post Share on other sites
LadyM Posted December 21, 2013 Share Posted December 21, 2013 What news did you get? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mariposa10 Posted December 21, 2013 Author Share Posted December 21, 2013 What news did you get? I don't want to go into details, since I've already said everything about my breakup... But it's something that destroyed some of my dreams... Or will make them harder to achieve...Idk. Everything keeps going wrong, family problems are increasing (in general). Everything is so overwhelming... Link to post Share on other sites
LadyM Posted December 21, 2013 Share Posted December 21, 2013 I'm sorry you're going through such a difficult time. I know for myself, life seems to cycle around. I go through sad times when nothing seems to be going right for a period of time, and then things turn around where life seems to fall into place better. The way I cope is to hope to get distracted by something else so less of the focus is on me and my problems. After you tell your family the news, as hard as that will be, you may feel better and they will be able to comfort you. Things will work out somehow and I hope you feel better very soon! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LostConfused123 Posted December 21, 2013 Share Posted December 21, 2013 I just want to send you ((hugs!!) I agree, one of the WORST times of my life!!! good riddance!!!! 2013!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mariposa10 Posted December 21, 2013 Author Share Posted December 21, 2013 I'm sorry you're going through such a difficult time. I know for myself, life seems to cycle around. I go through sad times when nothing seems to be going right for a period of time, and then things turn around where life seems to fall into place better. The way I cope is to hope to get distracted by something else so less of the focus is on me and my problems. After you tell your family the news, as hard as that will be, you may feel better and they will be able to comfort you. Things will work out somehow and I hope you feel better very soon! Yes, that's true, things are constantly changing I should keep that in mind!! But right now it's so hard! But then again, things can't get any worse than this. It's just not possible. Oh no wait, I guess a death in my family, so I should keep that in mind that at least we're all still alive... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mariposa10 Posted December 21, 2013 Author Share Posted December 21, 2013 I just want to send you ((hugs!!) I agree, one of the WORST times of my life!!! good riddance!!!! 2013!!! Thank you for the hugs! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LadyM Posted December 21, 2013 Share Posted December 21, 2013 Yes, that's true, things are constantly changing I should keep that in mind!! But right now it's so hard! But then again, things can't get any worse than this. It's just not possible. Oh no wait, I guess a death in my family, so I should keep that in mind that at least we're all still alive... The real truth is, as long as you and your loved ones are healthy, anything and everything else can be overcome. Wish you the best...! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Noproblem Posted December 21, 2013 Share Posted December 21, 2013 I only have this to say... A quote from the TV series Dracula which I watched yesterday and that saying stuck to my mind. “When it comes to dreams, one may falter, but the only way to fail is to abandon them.” #Dracula 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Omei Posted December 21, 2013 Share Posted December 21, 2013 2013 was a very hard year also hardest breakup of my life, issues finding work, finace and trying to find myself again and come out unscathed by my break up is proving to be a tough one. I can relate worst year of my life thus far but... There is still so much good 2014 is coming I am so excited about it I have a list of goals maybe you can make a list too... Lets be whole new people. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted December 21, 2013 Share Posted December 21, 2013 ... things can't get any worse than this. It's just not possible. Oh no wait, I guess a death in my family, so I should keep that in mind that at least we're all still alive... Things can always get worse. The deeper you are drawn down below the better life also can become. I learned from close illness and death in my childhood that everything I choose to get into where emotions are involved has a prize: pain will come at some point. If you want to experience highs you have to anticipate lows. Happiness is something to be grateful for, it surely is not a given (well at least not in my life). Those small moments can make life worth. Pain sometimes make you remember how lucky you were to have experienced happiness at all. Even pain will be something you will be grateful for at one point. Pain makes you remember and make you realize how those moments have become a part of you and that you can look back to with a smile because you have been able to live them. New dreams will come. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Robbyrob Posted December 21, 2013 Share Posted December 21, 2013 I have had something similar... ranging from death within the family, break up etc...2013 has not been my year, and probably years neither. what i am trying to do is to grow and to get stronger. 2014 will be our year and the time will heal everything. ill be starting a new life in another country and i cant wait to do so! set yourself new goals for the year what youd like to achieve and maybe also how. im very sure itll make you stronger. plus im very sure youll get to know someone new so that your ex will remain nothing but the past 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BC1980 Posted December 21, 2013 Share Posted December 21, 2013 2013 was easily the toughest year of my life. I'm so overwhelmed with the future and all the "what ifs." I have no clue as to the direction of my life. I had hopes and dreams with another person, a life with him, a future with him. Now, I'm left to figure it out on my own. I'm worried about finances, will I ever meet anyone else, I'm lonely at times, I feel like I have no purpose or direction. It really has to get better right? Life can be wonderful and awful at the same time. Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted December 21, 2013 Share Posted December 21, 2013 (edited) It really has to get better right? Life can be wonderful and awful at the same time. In my experience life gets better, it can take days or sometimes even decades. Yes, I think life almost always let the best and the worst happen at the same time. Edited December 21, 2013 by Itspointless Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mariposa10 Posted December 21, 2013 Author Share Posted December 21, 2013 2013 was easily the toughest year of my life. I'm so overwhelmed with the future and all the "what ifs." I have no clue as to the direction of my life. I had hopes and dreams with another person, a life with him, a future with him. Now, I'm left to figure it out on my own. I'm worried about finances, will I ever meet anyone else, I'm lonely at times, I feel like I have no purpose or direction. It really has to get better right? Life can be wonderful and awful at the same time. This is how I feel about my life. Thinking I was gonna get good news is what made me stronger to face this breakup. But after having gotten bad news, I just don't know where I'm going with my life now. I guess, like someone said I just need to set new goals, smaller goals and keep on going... Yesterday I kept reminding myself that it's not like I got cancer or something like that. I need to see the big picture. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mariposa10 Posted December 21, 2013 Author Share Posted December 21, 2013 I'm gonna let myself cry and scream for the rest of this year, but as soon as 2014 starts all of that will be forbidden! Link to post Share on other sites
AlphaC Posted December 21, 2013 Share Posted December 21, 2013 I'm gonna let myself cry and scream for the rest of this year, but as soon as 2014 starts all of that will be forbidden! One day you will find a gentleman that will be there with you through thick and thin, when this happens you will look back and bless your last break up... Truth! I know it's hard, but only you can take the pain away, like tupac says, "tomorrow is a brighter day." This is what I would do if I were you, starting today, I would allow the break up to consume 30 minutes less of my thoughts. Figure, if you sleep 8 hours and are awake for 16, you will forget about that cat in about a month. By valentines day you will have exited your cocoon and become a new mariposa/butterfly. Buena suerte! Link to post Share on other sites
Noproblem Posted December 21, 2013 Share Posted December 21, 2013 2013 wasn't a good year to me as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mariposa10 Posted December 21, 2013 Author Share Posted December 21, 2013 The thing is that it's not just about the breakup... I was actually doing pretty good about healing and moving on. The most painful months had already passed. But now that everything just keeps going wrong. It's so hard... Now I wish I was only dealing with the breakup! Not with the rest of the stuff... What a horrible year! But like I said, it's not like I got a terrible disease or something... So I try to see the big picture. One day you will find a gentleman that will be there with you through thick and thin, when this happens you will look back and bless your last break up... Truth! I know it's hard, but only you can take the pain away, like tupac says, "tomorrow is a brighter day." This is what I would do if I were you, starting today, I would allow the break up to consume 30 minutes less of my thoughts. Figure, if you sleep 8 hours and are awake for 16, you will forget about that cat in about a month. By valentines day you will have exited your cocoon and become a new mariposa/butterfly. Buena suerte! Link to post Share on other sites
TrappedWanderer Posted December 22, 2013 Share Posted December 22, 2013 Ugh, I feel the same. The breakup has been hard enough....but there's other stuff that's happened during/since and it just all seems to add up to a totally sh$t time. Makes it hard to fully move on and heal when things keep piling up. I, too, try to put it in perspective and look at the very big picture, but man, that's hard sometimes when it all seems like an uphill battle. When it rains it pours, huh? Here's hoping for a better 2014! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mariposa10 Posted December 22, 2013 Author Share Posted December 22, 2013 The good thing to remember is that it doesn't just happen to you or me, but to many people!! I have already started trying to come up with some solutions/new goals... I hate how I have started missing my ex, even just as a friend. More pain Ugh, I feel the same. The breakup has been hard enough....but there's other stuff that's happened during/since and it just all seems to add up to a totally sh$t time. Makes it hard to fully move on and heal when things keep piling up. I, too, try to put it in perspective and look at the very big picture, but man, that's hard sometimes when it all seems like an uphill battle. When it rains it pours, huh? Here's hoping for a better 2014! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lil hoodlum Posted December 23, 2013 Share Posted December 23, 2013 The thing is that it's not just about the breakup... I was actually doing pretty good about healing and moving on. The most painful months had already passed. But now that everything just keeps going wrong. It's so hard. My heart goes out to you. ((((HUGGGSSS)))) I am 1.5 years out from my BU and I still struggle with it sometimes. And like you, I have done pretty well healing and trying to move on, but it seems like the road has had soooo many obstacles in it. It seems everything has been such a struggle for me. I saw this quote on the interweb and it really spoke to me: Those with the biggest hearts, suffer the most. I keep telling myself that everything happens for a reason. I firmly believe that God has wonderful things in store for us but sometimes it takes awhile for that work to be done inside of us. In the meantime, I keep putting one foot in front of the other. Sometimes it is all we can really do. Hang in there! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ravssss Posted December 27, 2013 Share Posted December 27, 2013 i agree ... first time in my life i faced such a tragic loss .. through break up ... but yea atleast am happy my eyes did open and have moved on a bit ... but jobwise its been a great year ... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mariposa10 Posted December 27, 2013 Author Share Posted December 27, 2013 Every aspect of my life is pretty bad right now. How I wish I was only dealing with the breakup now. I'm thinking of solutions and letting things flow. Nothing ever stays the same. Things can't get any worse (except death), well, I should be/ and I am happy to be healthy. i agree ... first time in my life i faced such a tragic loss .. through break up ... but yea atleast am happy my eyes did open and have moved on a bit ... but jobwise its been a great year ... Link to post Share on other sites
ravssss Posted December 27, 2013 Share Posted December 27, 2013 Every aspect of my life is pretty bad right now. How I wish I was only dealing with the breakup now. I'm thinking of solutions and letting things flow. Nothing ever stays the same. Things can't get any worse (except death), well, I should be/ and I am happy to be healthy. oh damn health isnt in right shape ... am back to smoking trying too hard to quit ... hoping this new year's resolution works .. Link to post Share on other sites
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