2013 Is Too Painful

[Lisa22]

The good thing to remember is that it doesn't just happen to you or me, but to many people!!

 

I have already started trying to come up with some solutions/new goals...

 

I hate how I have started missing my ex, even just as a friend. More pain

Hi Mariposa,

 

I too feel like 2013 is getting more painful by the month. I thought 2012 was the worst year of my life after a miscarriage and my fiancé's emotional affair. But since Oct, my fiancé became my Ex, I found out he was having a baby with the same OW in a month time, I lost my home, I was had to find money to support myself and find a place to live...and just when I thought the year couldn't get any worse....I find out my academic standing in my phd program is in jeopardy (because I've been so out of it these past months and have allowed things to slip).

 

My point in saying all this...is that you are not alone. I do not know what horrible thing has now been added to your plate. And I'm glad to hear you still have your health but know that you are not alone and will get through this; as we all "here" hope to get beyond the pain of 2013 and look forward to the new year!

 

A good friend recently told me that sometimes everything needs to fall apart so you have no choice but to rise up and begin to put everything in your life back together.

 

As for missing your ex, I understand this very much. My ex and I officially split in Oct when I found out about the affair and baby- but we only moved out of our condo 2 1/2 weeks ago and I hate how much I miss him and wish I could turn to him as a friend - as I got more bad news around me. It really does suck and i'm learning its okay to be sad and its okay to feel this way - and I don't have to hate myself for missing him or our friendship...its only natural.

 

I hope you can get the support you need in this forum to help you pull through!

[Mariposa10]

Thank you so much for your post. It does help to be reminded that I'm not the only one going through so many horrible changes in my life.

 

I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I can't even imagine how that must've felt like and finding out about your fiance's emotional affair must've made it impossible for you to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

 

I have just started working on smaller goals, and be grateful with what I have.

 

Thanks so much for your post again

 

 

Hi Mariposa,

 

I too feel like 2013 is getting more painful by the month. I thought 2012 was the worst year of my life after a miscarriage and my fiancé's emotional affair. But since Oct, my fiancé became my Ex, I found out he was having a baby with the same OW in a month time, I lost my home, I was had to find money to support myself and find a place to live...and just when I thought the year couldn't get any worse....I find out my academic standing in my phd program is in jeopardy (because I've been so out of it these past months and have allowed things to slip).

 

My point in saying all this...is that you are not alone. I do not know what horrible thing has now been added to your plate. And I'm glad to hear you still have your health but know that you are not alone and will get through this; as we all "here" hope to get beyond the pain of 2013 and look forward to the new year!

 

A good friend recently told me that sometimes everything needs to fall apart so you have no choice but to rise up and begin to put everything in your life back together.

 

As for missing your ex, I understand this very much. My ex and I officially split in Oct when I found out about the affair and baby- but we only moved out of our condo 2 1/2 weeks ago and I hate how much I miss him and wish I could turn to him as a friend - as I got more bad news around me. It really does suck and i'm learning its okay to be sad and its okay to feel this way - and I don't have to hate myself for missing him or our friendship...its only natural.

 

I hope you can get the support you need in this forum to help you pull through!