Should I Tell My Wife

[John-Dough]

Keep it up, dude. You gott be getting to the point where it's more psychological than physiological. You're breaking the physical addiction and so that means it's pretty much all in your head.

 

That's exactly what I have been saying - at this point it's all mental. The amount of nicotine I have been getting is negligible. Today is my first day on 1/2 cigarette a day. What that works out to is basically a couple puffs twice a day.

 

I'm not on this forum very often so I missed your updates but I do come back to check on you.

 

What's the wife say? I'd suspect it's common knowledge at this point.

 

Actually, she still hasn't noticed or at least she hasn't said anything. I really think she hasn't noticed, but may just think I have cut back. She has seen me smoking, but very little. And she heard me saying I was going to get some cigarettes - but, I just got one pack and that was over a week ago. I am going to wait until she says something or until I feel I am out of the danger zone of restarting. This is definitely working much better than any of my other attempts. I really feel I will make it this time.

[BetrayedH]

You got this, dude.

[AnneT1985]

Your health comes first:)

 

 

Without that other things can not be properly dealt with. Congratulations on your efforts

[John-Dough]

OK, this is it - first day of the rest of my life, smoke-free.

 

Day 1 - no cigarettes.

 

And BTW, still no comment from W.

 

I plan on staying on Chantix for another month, then getting off it. Keeping my fingers crossed.

[BetrayedH]

OK, this is it - first day of the rest of my life, smoke-free.

 

Day 1 - no cigarettes.

 

And BTW, still no comment from W.

 

I plan on staying on Chantix for another month, then getting off it. Keeping my fingers crossed.

 

Best of luck. You've done exactly what you set out to do. Nice work.

 

Curious that your W has said nothing. It must be noticeable, particularly if she smokes, too. I smoke less than you used to (if I recall correctly - I'm about 3/4 of a pack per day) and I think my GF would notice on day 1 of cutting back. Perhaps she's just quietly letting you do your thing.

 

Oh, I'm also curious for a review of Chantix from you. Think it helped? I think I have literally tried everything else (even wasted $300 or something like that on laser therapy). Ugh.

[John-Dough]

Best of luck. You've done exactly what you set out to do. Nice work.

 

Curious that your W has said nothing. It must be noticeable, particularly if she smokes, too. I smoke less than you used to (if I recall correctly - I'm about 3/4 of a pack per day) and I think my GF would notice on day 1 of cutting back. Perhaps she's just quietly letting you do your thing.

 

Oh, I'm also curious for a review of Chantix from you. Think it helped? I think I have literally tried everything else (even wasted $300 or something like that on laser therapy). Ugh.

 

Yes, I was a bit surprised that W did not notice either. But, we haven't been in a situation where we would go take a smoke together. I mean sitting around the house, she would normally see me smoking more. Anyway, she is a bit self-absorbed.

 

I think Chantix has really helped. At first, I had a little facial pain, which I guess is pretty uncommon, but that went away and now really don't notice anything. No depression, no bad moods, no bad dreams. I have been dreaming a bit more or at least remembering some of them. I would say no bad side-effects. From what others had told me, I expected just to stop wanting a cigarette and for the cigarettes to start tasting bad to me, that never happened. So, about 2 weeks in, I figured I need to help it along. So, I removed all the ashtrays and moved my cigarettes to an inconvenient location. That really helped and I tried to cut back and in one day went from 2 packs to only 6 cigarettes. It really wasn't that hard, For me, the main thing Chantix does is, it makes it so I don't dwell on wanting a cigarette so much. The thought will pop into my mind, but if I push it aside, it will pass and I will forget about it. Before when I tried to quit, it was constantly on my mind. And not telling my W was a big help as well. You would have to know my W to appreciate this. But, she is kind of obsessive and if she knew, that would be the main topic of conversation.

 

And thanks for support on this, I appreciate it.

[BetrayedH]

Yes, I was a bit surprised that W did not notice either. But, we haven't been in a situation where we would go take a smoke together. I mean sitting around the house, she would normally see me smoking more. Anyway, she is a bit self-absorbed.

 

I think Chantix has really helped. At first, I had a little facial pain, which I guess is pretty uncommon, but that went away and now really don't notice anything. No depression, no bad moods, no bad dreams. I have been dreaming a bit more or at least remembering some of them. I would say no bad side-effects. From what others had told me, I expected just to stop wanting a cigarette and for the cigarettes to start tasting bad to me, that never happened. So, about 2 weeks in, I figured I need to help it along. So, I removed all the ashtrays and moved my cigarettes to an inconvenient location. That really helped and I tried to cut back and in one day went from 2 packs to only 6 cigarettes. It really wasn't that hard, For me, the main thing Chantix does is, it makes it so I don't dwell on wanting a cigarette so much. The thought will pop into my mind, but if I push it aside, it will pass and I will forget about it. Before when I tried to quit, it was constantly on my mind. And not telling my W was a big help as well. You would have to know my W to appreciate this. But, she is kind of obsessive and if she knew, that would be the main topic of conversation.

 

And thanks for support on this, I appreciate it.

 

Thanks. I always seemed to be pretty good until after work. Once i got in my car to head home, it was like I was on 'my time' and I just couldn't stop obsessing. If chantix helps with that, it's good news.

 

My time is coming.

[John-Dough]

I just couldn't stop obsessing. If chantix helps with that, it's good news.

 

I would say that was the main thing Chantix did for me. If you try, good luck, my friend.

[John-Dough]

5th day smoke free - going good.

[John-Dough]

19 days no cigarettes. Well I started to cheat, got real stressed out and lit one up last night. Smoked half and put it out. So, 1/2 cigarette in 19 days, but I am saying no cigarettes, but one minor slip up.

 

STILL NOTHING FROM WIFE! She is really in tune to my life.

[BetrayedH]

19 days no cigarettes. Well I started to cheat, got real stressed out and lit one up last night. Smoked half and put it out. So, 1/2 cigarette in 19 days, but I am saying no cigarettes, but one minor slip up.

 

STILL NOTHING FROM WIFE! She is really in tune to my life.

 

Glad to hear you're still going strong.

 

One tip: Try to avoid rewarding yourself with them (or at least the thought process that justifies it). As with alcohol, some alcoholics will reward themselves with a drink when they're stressed and alternatively, reward themselves with a drink when things are going well. It makes for just about anytime being a good one to have a drink (or in your case, a smoke). Thinking of it as punishing yourself might be smarter (and closer to the truth).

 

I do find it odd that your wife hasn't noticed (or perhaps she's just chosen not to say anything). That said, I do remember when I was married and we both had FT management jobs and two kids - it's hard to really be in tune with one another in that situation.