liloldlady Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 So there's this amazing musician, and through the years, he and his band & I have become casual acquaintances, only within the context of concerts. Today is musician's birthday, and I wrote this on his wall: [/url] 7:02am The world is so blessed to celebrate yet another God given year of your talent, love, humor, positive good vibes, and kind will toward all of humankind. You are truly a gem, (his name)! You always have been! Happy Birthday! See you in January!! Imagine my shock to see it's been deleted. Immediately Backstory: yes, he's cute & we seemed to hit it off well, blah blah blah, whatever. But he adores his wife and family. We have never been alone together. Nothing even close to remotely inappropriate has ever happened. I'm just a music lover and an enthusiastic, loving, supportive audience member for these guys (though I have not seen them in so long!). Well, more backstory: there was some controversy years ago where some guy accused musician of messing with his sister on the road. It was ugly. This band have a pristine reputation, very polished, so it was alarming. Again: many years ago. Also, to further demonstrate my history with these guys (13 great years, off & on), back when people still used MySpace, his wife sent me a friend request. Does she suspect musician & I are having an affair?? ...and the subtext of my wall post was: we are lucky to have him. He almost died a few years ago, so... I mean it.
oldshirt Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Give her a little slack and don't take it personally or as a personal dig against you specifically. No matter how hard you try to maintain this is all platonic and on the up-and-up, she has to assume you would jump on him and ride him like a big white horse given the first opportunity. Just keep on keeping on and don't let it bother you. she is just doing what she needs to do to make it through the day with a musician for a husband. 2
Author liloldlady Posted December 21, 2013 Author Posted December 21, 2013 Yeah, I'm not mad at her at all. I did re-post it, though, LOL. Maybe she deleted it. That's out of character for him to diss a fan (though I hate that word because it means fanatic but you know what I mean).
Author liloldlady Posted December 21, 2013 Author Posted December 21, 2013 No matter how hard you try to maintain this is all platonic and on the up-and-up, she has to assume you would jump on him and ride him like a big white horse given the first opportunity. LOL, the truth is, we all know a female wet dream is incredibly rare, right? And I've experienced it exactly once in my life -- about him. But they don't know that!
anna121 Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Perhaps he found it a bit over-the-top? I know sometimes on FB when friends post extra-gushy stuff it makes me embarrassed. 2
oldshirt Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 LOL, the truth is, we all know a female wet dream is incredibly rare, right? And I've experienced it exactly once in my life -- about him. But they don't know that! Yes they do. And even on the off chance they don't know....SHE DOES! Give her some slack and let this one go. 2
Author liloldlady Posted December 21, 2013 Author Posted December 21, 2013 Perhaps he found it a bit over-the-top? I know sometimes on FB when friends post extra-gushy stuff it makes me embarrassed. Possibly. You're right. That's why I said WE are so blessed to have you. Us. His fans (or whatever you want to call us). Update: I'm horrified. It's again appearing to be deleted. Unless I'm seeing things!
Author liloldlady Posted December 21, 2013 Author Posted December 21, 2013 Give her some slack and let this one go. So should I never go see them in concert again? I haven't even seen them in years. And when I do, afterward, I stay up in the cut. I'm not in line asking for autographs. What is going on? I will leave him alone and give him space! But I do have plans to go to the show in January. No one will even know I'm there, shhhhh... Sidenote: he appears in my top 9 friend spot on Facebook. Maybe he's looking at my page too much? Oh, gosh, I hope he does not unfriend me. He's always been a straight up professional, so I was pleased when he added me.
oldshirt Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 So should I never go see them in concert again? Did I say that? How old are you???????????????
oldshirt Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 So should I never go see them in concert again? I haven't even seen them in years. And when I do, afterward, I stay up in the cut. I'm not in line asking for autographs. What is going on? I will leave him alone and give him space! But I do have plans to go to the show in January. No one will even know I'm there, shhhhh... Sidenote: he appears in my top 9 friend spot on Facebook. Maybe he's looking at my page too much? Oh, gosh, I hope he does not unfriend me. He's always been a straight up professional, so I was pleased when he added me. The problem here is you actually are a groupie even though you are trying to deny it. You are welcome to try to get any kind of back-stage (or back door) pass you want. She is perfectly within her right to mate-guard him and cockblock you in any manner she sees fit. If he wants to score some groupie poontang, that's on him. He'll just have to deal with the marital fallout if that ever happens. How the 3 of you play this little cat and mouse game is up to you. There is nothing wrong with going to concert, listening to the music and then walking out the door with the rest of the crowd. They'll appreciate your business and ticket sales. Whatever else you do above and beyond that is going to bring it's own risks and benefits.
Author liloldlady Posted December 21, 2013 Author Posted December 21, 2013 The problem here is you actually are a groupie even though you are trying to deny it. I deny that, and I deny the fact that you say that I'm denying it, LOL She is perfectly within her right to mate-guard him and cockblock you in any manner she sees fit. "Mate guard." Note to self. Thank you! Sincerely. No sarcasm. I totally get it. If he wants to score some groupie poontang, that's on him. He'll just have to deal with the marital fallout if that ever happens. He's always been friendly, never treated me differently than anyone else. How the 3 of you play this little cat and mouse game is up to you. There is no "three of us". He seems totally happy. He's not a personal friend. I don't have his number. We don't inbox. Nothing. Only one time he inboxed me I can think of: he said he saw I said I was going to a show and he wanted me to know he wouldn't be there (they have a revolving cast). I didn't read anything into that. He knows I dig his work, man. There is nothing wrong with going to concert, listening to the music and then walking out the door with the rest of the crowd. They'll appreciate your business and ticket sales. And that's all it is.
Realist3 Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Update: I'm horrified. It's again appearing to be deleted. Unless I'm seeing things! Sidenote: he appears in my top 9 friend spot on Facebook. Maybe he's looking at my page too much? Oh, gosh, I hope he does not unfriend me. He's always been a straight up professional, so I was pleased when he added me. LOL, the truth is, we all know a female wet dream is incredibly rare, right? And I've experienced it exactly once in my life -- about him. But they don't know that! You are a groupie. Accept it. He and his wife probably deal with many of these. Your note was a bit over the top.
Snipercatt Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Poontang! hahahahahahahaha'!!!!!!! Exactly right
Author liloldlady Posted December 21, 2013 Author Posted December 21, 2013 Your note was a bit over the top. Someone clicked like on one of the posts, so maybe it's there but I just can't see it? I thought I was toned down. I am not chasing him.
CrystalCastles Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Sidenote: he appears in my top 9 friend spot on Facebook. Maybe he's looking at my page too much? This is actually a misconception. There is no feature on FB which would allow you to know who looks at your page, how often and when (privacy stuff). So I doubt he's stalking your profile. You're overthinking. It's just stupid FB. Who cares.
crederer Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 (edited) To be perfectly honest and blunt, you turned the creeper knob to 11 and then broke it off. Most go to 10, but yours goes to 11. How much blacker can it get? None. None more black. (you seem to be a music fan so I assume you get the reference. It also seems to be a good metaphor to this whole situation). Edited December 22, 2013 by crederer
Author liloldlady Posted December 22, 2013 Author Posted December 22, 2013 (you seem to be a music fan so I assume you get the reference. Nope......... It also seems to be a good metaphor to this whole situation). OK. Thanks for sharing
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