veritas lux mea Posted December 22, 2013 Share Posted December 22, 2013 Last night I had a seemingly unprompted dream. It has been a few weeks since my seeing xMM and all concern over it melted away as we got reqdy for christmas. In the dream I moved into a house that turned out to be near my xMM's new house in the dream (neither of has moved recently in real life). xMM and I chatted and it was like everything was okay. No feelings beyond friendship and we decided to take our dogs for a walk. I didn't feel like I was cheating on my husband or even concerned about his reaction. It was like he was not around anymore in some ways. So we went on this walk and chatted and all that normal stuff and we ended up at my place and there was a whole group of people there. Not his wife or my husband. We sat down on this couch and xMM put his arm around me. I snuggled in to him and felt safe and calm. I wondered breifly (first time in the dream) if someone was going to tell his wife but decided I didn't care. And then I woke up with nothing sexual happening but I had this very warm fuzzy feeling that slowly slipped away as i realized it was a dream and then I was filled with a sharp pain on loss and an overwhelming desire to contact xMM. The day has went well so far but I feel at loose ends. xMM and I never had a romantic relationship. Now I am wondering if my dreams are how I really feel. Like I must be surpressing my true feelings and it is coming out in my dreams. I always thought that even if xMM wanted me to leave my husband I wouldn't because my husband is by far the better man. But... But... Maybe I am in love with xMM and even though, if he wanted me, life with him would be a roller coaster ride... A roller coaster ride is the life I need. One stupid dream and i am so confused. Link to post Share on other sites
MuddyFootprints Posted December 22, 2013 Share Posted December 22, 2013 I completely understand why the dream had such an impact on you. It can be difficult to understand what our subconscious is trying to tell us. Over thinking our dreams tend to make them more complicated than they actually are. What stands out for me is the safe and calm feeling you had. This time of year can be hectic and stressful. Perhaps it's not so much suppressed feelings for the person, but rather a subconscious expression of your need to make time to relax and bring some of that peace and calm into your daily routine right now? I'm thinking that the roller coaster ride is something you definitely do not need! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author veritas lux mea Posted December 22, 2013 Author Share Posted December 22, 2013 I completely understand why the dream had such an impact on you. It can be difficult to understand what our subconscious is trying to tell us. Over thinking our dreams tend to make them more complicated than they actually are. What stands out for me is the safe and calm feeling you had. This time of year can be hectic and stressful. Perhaps it's not so much suppressed feelings for the person, but rather a subconscious expression of your need to make time to relax and bring some of that peace and calm into your daily routine right now? I'm thinking that the roller coaster ride is something you definitely do not need! I never thought about being under Christmas stress. I have no big plans, cooking or gifts to buy. Just a couple to wrap. I don't feel stressed over the time of year. But I do feel stressed in general over life and my feelings. I don't see any future signs in dreams but I dreamt of my xMM for a reason and I felt... Happy... Content. I never felt happy or content during my affair. I felt in turmoil and desperate like a drug user... I feel like the dream was a step back and well confusing. I have only dreamt about him twice. The first time was a week after I confessed I had a sex dream about him and when I woke up felt really yucky. Link to post Share on other sites
blue963 Posted December 23, 2013 Share Posted December 23, 2013 perhaps the dream was just what you wanted in your subconscious to feel warm and content and not connected to the x mm. (It was the feeling, not the person). Link to post Share on other sites
lilmisscantbewrong Posted December 23, 2013 Share Posted December 23, 2013 I think with dreams our subconscious is working out problems we have in our lives. It is not necessarily an indication of what we should do or are going to do although I have had what I would call prophetic dreams before - but those generally happen within a month of the dream. I had dreams about xmom afterwards and sometimes they would come out of the blue and shake me up, but what I discovered was that it was what the message was of the dream and for some reason in the start I was in, the xmom was the one I could receive the message from. It always pertained to some decision I needed to make in my life or some conflict I needed to work out in my life - not necessarily related to xmom. Look for the deeper meaning - it's usually there. If you can't figure it out the first time, it will present itself later in a different form until you do get the message. I think dreams are amazing! Link to post Share on other sites
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