SilentPrayer Posted January 5, 2005 Share Posted January 5, 2005 HERE IS THE PROBLEME! I used to date this guy we were madly inlove. For 2 years. We ended it about 6 months ago because I moved back to our home town. He moved to another city for work. We continued to talk. He comes back to our home town to see me and we spend all the time together. We have sex..the works. I found out a fiew nights ago that he is talking on MSN and on the phone with a girl that I know of. She is a flirt and a bit of a slut. (Its a small town, everyone knows everything). He hasnt slept with her...I found out from her best friend. DO I have a right to be jelious. Do i have a right to bitch him out? Do I have a right to feel this ****ING jeliousy? I love him more then words compair. I love him more then a present could show. I love him more then human kind could ever understand. What do I do? I dont want him near her. I dont want him to talk to her. It drives me insane. I need help[font=arial][/font][color=red][/color] Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 5, 2005 Share Posted January 5, 2005 Originally posted by SilentPrayer I dont want him near her. I dont want him to talk to her. It drives me insane. You do not need to 'bitch him out'. What if it turns out that it is not what you are thinking? Then you would have given it to your boyfriend with both guns for no real reason - and he will be angry and resent you for it. No one likes being falsely accused. You DO, however need to let your boyfriend know how you feel about the situation in crystal clear terms. Don't let it be driven by anger, rather concern. Tell him how it makes you feel to have him talking to her and why it makes you feel that way. Let him know that you are not comfortable talking to this girl and why. Give him a chance to have his say, as well. Remember: calm, logical, lucid. You may find that there is nothing to it, or you may find through his actions (overly defensive, angry, untruthful) that there may be something going on, or at least the potential for it. Either way - it is best to start with calm concern rather than explosive anger. The explosive anger can come when the time is appropriate. Link to post Share on other sites
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