Saw my husbands xmow today

[lilmisscantbewrong]

I just had to relay this story as it's been a very weird few months.

 

I went and had a manicure and pedicure and stopped at the grocery store to pick up a few things and as I came around the corner I looked up and right in front of me, just a few feet away was my husbands xmow. I haven't seen her since dday for them over two years ago. She obviously saw me first because when I looked up our eyes met right away and she spoke first and she said "Hi, how are you?" And smiled. I smiled back and said "very well thank you". I kept on going and so did she. I did see her at the check out in a different lane when I left. She appeared to have gained some weight, but she also carried herself well. She even seemed to be hiding something - like she had a secret behind her smile.

 

I texted my husband and said "ran into xmow at the grocery". He said "I'm sorry - I love you - you do know that" and I said "no worries. It was weird but okay and yes I do know. I do not hold any animosity toward her". And that is the truth. I don't.

 

On the way home, I passed my xmom's bs in a car - all I needed was to run into my xmom and it all would have been complete.

 

So in September, xmom's father approached my husband and hugged him and said he missed him. In October xmom's mother pulls my daughter aside at Halloween and shows pictures of xmom's kids. In November I ran into xmom's mother in the grocery store and now, in December, I run into my husbands xmow and pass my xmom's bs. Wonder what January will bring?

 

I had to share it all - so bizarre.

[Nothisgirl]

I'm not sure of your back story but that all must feel incredibly strange...I dread running into mm in public...all three times I have he's kissed me like he doesn't care who sees...and I've never ran into his w or the two of them together thank God

[vanellope]

I wish the god let me will never ever meet this man again, completely delete in my life.

 

if there is a method can delete this part of memory, I will just do.

[WrinkledForehead]

Comes with living in a small town! It sounds like everything was handled well and appears like it wasn't a huge trigger.

 

I've asked bf for the first digits of BS's cell & home number, and I've also asked about stores she frequents specifically to avoid ever seeing her or picking up a call from her, should she have found out. At some points I'd experience anxiety and bits of agoraphobia, so I asked for minor details to ease my mind, leave my house without being fearful.

[Journee]

You know one good thing about all of this is you do not have to wonder how you will act or feel in any of these situations anymore. You are passed it and on the other side.

 

How are you feeling now about the run in?

[lilmisscantbewrong]

You know one good thing about all of this is you do not have to wonder how you will act or feel in any of these situations anymore. You are passed it and on the other side.

 

How are you feeling now about the run in?

 

It was odd but okay. I, strangely enough, do not have any animosity toward her. Her smile kind of indicated to me she had some secret, but that was only a feeling, not any concrete proof. It is unlikely I will see her again soon. She lives 10 minutes from me but the opposite direction of any place I go, so I was a little surprised to see her, but it wouldn't be unusual for her to stop at this store, I guess.

 

Maybe it's because I am a FOW that I see things differently and want to handle things differently? I don't know. I mean it wasn't a time to have a long conversation for certain. I'm not sure what I would say. I knew her, but I didn't KNOW her very well at all - in the years she worked at my husband's office I would say that I had four conversations with her and she worked there over 10 years. So so wouldn't know where to begin with that.

 

I honestly think my husband was more worried about my running into her than me. He never said another word about it when he came home last night, which I thought was very odd.

 

Anyway - it was interesting to say the least. I am looking forward to what today might bring - lol.

[Fluttershy]

Is your gut telling you he is still in an affair or do you not trust him yet?

 

You saw or thought you saw a smile you translated as "secret".

You think is odd your husband didn't want to talk about it. Is it his nature to hash things out or is he the type who believes talking isn't always neccessary.

 

I don't want to make you paranoid. I am only wondering if you still are and don't realize it. Or if it was intuition. I think distrust and paranoa are quite commoj for yeara after an A. And I don't think reading of the multiple ddays on here helps or all the OW that got reeled back in after a Dday.

[lilmisscantbewrong]

Is your gut telling you he is still in an affair or do you not trust him yet?

 

You saw or thought you saw a smile you translated as "secret".

You think is odd your husband didn't want to talk about it. Is it his nature to hash things out or is he the type who believes talking isn't always neccessary.

 

I don't want to make you paranoid. I am only wondering if you still are and don't realize it. Or if it was intuition. I think distrust and paranoa are quite commoj for yeara after an A. And I don't think reading of the multiple ddays on here helps or all the OW that got reeled back in after a Dday.

 

Honestly I don't know. I can't say its paranoia - I don't feel like that. I am quite calm. I do believe he "sees" her far more often than I know because I do know she still stops in at the office from time to time to "see the girls".

 

I don't think he is actively in an affair - possible - but I don't think so.i know reputation is extremely important to him as well as his parents, who are aging and failing fast. He doesn't want an open scandal for sure and he knows that if it happens again it will be - I was very gracious when his dday hit - he wasn't with mine - he allowed it to go public and really could have stopped it. He also knows I would not want to do anything to hurt his parents either. So, in essence, I think he is smarter than that - right now.

 

There are things I am watching, but I also know I can't stop it - I watch and there are a few things I observe, but I don't really monitor that much anymore - waste of time and energy.