Wife Cheated on me with friends 16 years ago

[samsungxoxo]

I don't understand how a man that stands in line to do a girl can call her a hoe when he's acting like a hoe himself. What puts a man above her, he's doing it too?

 

Does your wife know you used to do that?

 

I don't like the double standard that it's ok for the man but the woman is a hoe. Sounds to me like you both made the same mistake in your youth.

 

Why does your wife have to live to a higher standard than you?

I know right and just like I mentioned it, the irony is the OP end up marrying one of those very same women who he used to pump and dump, hate and perhaps during his youth claimed he would never marry nor have kids with her. That must be a real slap in the face, how those self-entitled men act and get what they hated the most in return.

[samsungxoxo]

You weren't married at the time. You were teenagers.

 

Is this the woman you love or not?

 

F*ck those other guys. What do they have to do with your life now?

 

This was a looooong time ago, bro.

The OP has that sex double standard and he can't get over a woman letting other guys pump and dump her but he used to be a sloot-shaming, pump and dumper himself in the past. He already admitted to that.

[samsungxoxo]

How many women would marry a guy whose been in trouble with the law and was in jail?

 

I'm a man who has two daughters and gotta tell you, I would not be a happy Dad knowing that my daughter picked a guy who did jail time and would encourage her to find another guy.

 

Now to be fair, the guy paid for his wrong doings and after getting back on track, he made something out of himself and has every right to be proud of himself but he carries a record with him.

 

She on the other hand has a sexual past that a lot of people would consider over the top for what she did, but she's been with her husband for 16 years and hasn't strayed and has been a good wife and mother.

 

Both made mistakes and it was a long time ago. In all good faith he can't point a finger at her without her pointing one back. It's a draw.

You said it so well. That's what I hate the most in hypocritical men, they get to shame and cast insults all they want to but can't even look at themselves in the mirror. My father would practically throw up if I were even being friends with some guy that had a police record. I wouldn't date a man like that either.

[peruano99]

Jeez quadruple posts. I don't think you guys realize you are most likely posting in a troll thread.

Edited December 26, 2013 by peruano99

[tiredofitall2]

Jeez quadruple posts. I don't think you guys realize you are most likely posting in a troll thread.

 

 

He has been replying, but I have my suspicions too.

[samsungxoxo]

Jeez quadruple posts. I don't think you guys realize you are most likely posting in a troll thread.

I'm starting to believe so too because the story doesn't really add up. Not many that get cheated on badly would even have time to concentrate on the ''tainted'' part and how he wants to pass her around as revenge. They would be focusing on the betrayal overall and being lied to for years.

 

If someone cheats, what difference does it make if was done with a stranger, a friend or 2-3 others. They cheated either way and betrayed your trust.

[lollipopspot]

It doesn't really matter to me if it's a troll post. I give my advice based on the story, and for anyone who is reading.

[samsungxoxo]

lollipopspot: This shows you don't understand what "man pride" is all about. It is self-esteem and self-value. Once destroyed a man becomes depressed and angry. He may turn to alcohol or other drugs. He will have contempt for his wife - something that kills any possibility of love. He will never be at peace because he will never accept the fact that he let this slut disrespect him to this extreme degree and stayed with her. I'm not judging his WW as a slut - just pointing out what he will be thinking about her whenever he triggers.

But yet we're suppose to be very forgiving and tolerant if a man has gone to jail, was a bad guy in the past or cheats on us. We're suppose to accept all the disgusting flaws he may have, be their fixer-upper and don't even question it else we're being harsh on him. However, once a woman presents a flaw esp if it relates to sexuality, dang she's rotten suddenly and even if he wasn't no saint himself, she is the scorned one and it's suddenly all about his ego getting hurt. I would be hurt too if a man cheated on me and would want nothing to do with him.

[Oldspiceywolf]

This is a good subject that deserves exploration. I think OP might not be troll but I'm sure he got more than he can handle and bounced. He stopped replying a while back and this won't go any further without an update from him.

[samsungxoxo]

This is a good subject that deserves exploration. I think OP might not be troll but I'm sure he got more than he can handle and bounced. He stopped replying a while back and this won't go any further without an update from him.

Indeed and what he got is the truth being called out on him. There is a difference between a man who is hurt over getting cheated on like anyone else would and a man who isn't focusing on the cheating itself but on the ''tainted part'' and applying the sex double standard and even worst a cheating hypocrite as he mentioned about cheating with her cousin in law in the past.

[peruano99]

First of all:

 

1. The OP says girlfriend was in a gang bang.

 

2. He says she can't remember how many guys had sex with her.

 

 

3. He says he wants to run a train with his friends on her for revenge.

 

4. He says he also was having orgies with girls.

 

5. He says he cheated with one of her relatives.

 

 

6. Now he says, she told him a lie and it was just for his fantasy.

 

 

Too many tragedies here.

[samsungxoxo]

Many tradegies indeed and I would say he gets what he deserves. It really seems like even to me.

 

OP is very delusional into thinking that with all his past, he felt entitled be get a nearly virginal, decent woman with high morals. Sounds like two peas in a pod.

[drifter777]

But yet we're suppose to be very forgiving and tolerant if a man has gone to jail, was a bad guy in the past or cheats on us. We're suppose to accept all the disgusting flaws he may have, be their fixer-upper and don't even question it else we're being harsh on him. However, once a woman presents a flaw esp if it relates to sexuality, dang she's rotten suddenly and even if he wasn't no saint himself, she is the scorned one and it's suddenly all about his ego getting hurt. I would be hurt too if a man cheated on me and would want nothing to do with him.

Huh? I'm not defending men - especially not down2earth. I was explaining "man pride" to those women who don't understand what it means. How this translates to you as "we're supposed to accept all his disgusting flaws" is ridicules. Do you hate men in general or is there a specific guy you have in mind?

 

I think OP is done playing here.

[FrankieFrank]

But yet we're suppose to be very forgiving and tolerant if a man has gone to jail, was a bad guy in the past or cheats on us. We're suppose to accept all the disgusting flaws he may have, be their fixer-upper and don't even question it else we're being harsh on him. However, once a woman presents a flaw esp if it relates to sexuality, dang she's rotten suddenly and even if he wasn't no saint himself, she is the scorned one and it's suddenly all about his ego getting hurt. I would be hurt too if a man cheated on me and would want nothing to do with him.

 

Supposed to what?

 

You are not obligated to date or marry anyone based on any criteria you see fit. Apparently this woman didn't think what was presented to her was a deal breaker. Nor did OP. But that was because he had some important bits hidden from him. And this hidden bits seem like they would have a rather big impact on a decision.

 

Assuming it's real that is, and I'm starting to have doubts too given the way story unravels.

[road]

What a horrible display of sexism.

 

 

the wife allegedly let her friends screw her

 

 

 

 

 

Get the facts straight. It was his friends that rain a train on her.

[samsungxoxo]

Huh? I'm not defending men - especially not down2earth. I was explaining "man pride" to those women who don't understand what it means. How this translates to you as "we're supposed to accept all his disgusting flaws" is ridicules. Do you hate men in general or is there a specific guy you have in mind?

 

I think OP is done playing here.

I don't hate men. I just don't like the sexism done on this and other forums over and over again when it comes to sexuality. There have been serveral male posters writting with the intention of sloot-shaming that we've gotten used to those contexts and call out on it immediately. Yes, there is a specific one I hate: the hypocritical, self-entitled sloot shamer.

[Fluttershy]

Get the facts straight. It was his friends that rain a train on her.

 

Forgive me for grabbin the wrong pronoun... We going to turn into grammar police on here?

[Oldspiceywolf]

No! No we are not, I have fat fingers and an iPhone. No grammer police.

[drifter777]

I don't hate men. I just don't like the sexism done on this and other forums over and over again when it comes to sexuality. There have been serveral male posters writting with the intention of sloot-shaming that we've gotten used to those contexts and call out on it immediately. Yes, there is a specific one I hate: the hypocritical, self-entitled sloot shamer.

Then save your vitriol for them.

[samsungxoxo]

Then save your vitriol for them.

The OP happens to also be one of them.

[Woggle]

How does not tolerating cheating equate to slut shaming? Nobody with self respect should tolerate being treated that way.

[samsungxoxo]

How does not tolerating cheating equate to slut shaming? Nobody with self respect should tolerate being treated that way.

He also admitted to cheating on her in the past with one of her relative and even made an excuse about it but suddenly her cheating is worst than his. Not only that but would also pump and dumped other girls and bragged about it to his friends. That seems like a hypocrite and slut shamer to me.

[Woggle]

He also admitted to cheating on her in the past with one of her relative. Not only that but would also pump and dumped other girls and bragged about it to his friends. That seems like a hypocrite to me.

 

I agree with you there but I am seeing this trend on here where men are expected to put up with being mistreated or else they are a misogynist and not a real man.

[samsungxoxo]

I agree with you there but I am seeing this trend on here where men are expected to put up with being mistreated or else they are a misogynist and not a real man.

They can always walk away from a woman that mistreats them. There is no reason to put up with any type of poor treatment.

 

From what I've seen in several posts on other sites and here too, is really more women that are conditioned to work things out if a relationship turns badly or a man is being abusive towards her. Some are are still living in the ''working it out'' period (part of the reason being it hasn't been too long since the chances; I was born in 1987 and that doesn't look too far from the 70's) and if they leave, they can be judged for being too harsh and why they didn't give the man a chance even if he's mistreating her. There was a female poster being abused for years and several families members would still advice her to work it out and stay. I think it goes both ways. Anyone being mistreated should leave immediately the very first time and never look back.

Edited December 27, 2013 by samsungxoxo

[Woggle]

They can always walk away from a woman that mistreats them. There is no reason to put up with any type of poor treatment.

 

From what I've seen in several posts on other sites and here too, is really more women that are conditioned to work things out if a relationship turns badly or a man is being abusive towards her. Some are are still living in the ''working it out'' period and if they leave, they can be judged for being too harsh and why they didn't give the man a chance even if he's mistreating her. There was a female poster being abused for years and several families members would still advice her to work it out and stay. I think it goes both ways. Anyone being mistreated should leave immediately the very first time and never look back.

 

Nobody should ever put up with being mistreated but in some cases where life's responsibilities get in the way of fun and a woman starts to get restless what is wrong with trying to save it if nobody did anything wrong?