drifter777 Posted December 30, 2013 Share Posted December 30, 2013 Do you think when she said that , she also meant she had other affairs that she didn't tell the OP yet? Yes, that's possible but validating the gang-bang is more likely at this time. Of course, maybe it's both. The thing is, I think OP should focus on himself and his personal recovery from all of this. Right now he is in denial of just how much damage this has done to the marriage and his own psyche. It has destroyed the life he knew and will forever tarnish the future of this relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Fluttershy Posted December 30, 2013 Share Posted December 30, 2013 Do you think when she said that , she also meant she had other affairs that she didn't tell the OP yet? I think the OP should do the polygraph. As it stands there is no trust and the marriage is over. At least with a polygraph he will learn if the demise of the marrige was because he kept a secret for years or because he nuked it with his must have cuckhold fantasies. I don't like your attitude OP, not because you are angry or hurt but rather because you would actually want to do such disgusting things to your wife and mother of your child who may have screwed up real bad as a young person. And because you tried to appear like such a better person even though you engaged in similar sexual behaviours, were incarcerated, and cheated with her cousin. Pot kettle situation? I'm not saying she didn't betray you and you can't feel hurt. But I don't think you are in a place to gloat about the moral high ground. If you approach your wife calmly and tell her the only chance you guys have is if she is 100% honest and then let her tell you everything while controlling your emotions you may get somewhere. If you are unsatisfied with certain details take her to a polygraph test. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Iguanna Posted December 30, 2013 Share Posted December 30, 2013 I'm wondering what this man will say to people who ask him why he divorced his wife (if he does divorce her at last). Only the fact that he will have to hide the real reason and be embarrassed of it indicates how bad what his wife did was. how can you explain this to her and his parents? How do you explain that to the kids? Nightmare... Link to post Share on other sites
Fluttershy Posted December 30, 2013 Share Posted December 30, 2013 I'm wondering what this man will say to people who ask him why he divorced his wife (if he does divorce her at last). Only the fact that he will have to hide the real reason and be embarrassed of it indicates how bad what his wife did was. how can you explain this to her and his parents? How do you explain that to the kids? Nightmare... People don't need details. It is perfectly acceptable and normal to say "I found out my wife cheated on me and kept it a secret for years. It was too much for our marriage to survive." some will think he wa crazy to throw away all te good adult years and others will agree with him. Everybodies reactions will just be their own opinion and should have nothing to so with him or his life. Link to post Share on other sites
peruano99 Posted December 30, 2013 Share Posted December 30, 2013 Op where are you from? Link to post Share on other sites
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