Heartbroken Eagle Posted December 24, 2013 Share Posted December 24, 2013 Hi again folks... As you may be aware my 7 year old son had chosen to spend Xmas with myself and my mother rather than with his mum and her fiance. He's been with us since last Friday and I have him until 4 Jan. He has been a really happy boy, always laughing until last night when he went to bed. He started crying hysterically. I naturally tried to comfort him and asked him what was the matter. He replied that he misses me and that he does not want to leave me. After some hugs and reassurance that I will always be there for him, he settled down and fell asleep. After he was asleep, I left his room and felt really down and angry towards my ex. I questioned myself about my ex if she realised how much hurt her cheating has caused my son and to me. I can cope with this (just about) but my son?. Apparently he has had similar outburst at home so she is aware that he is still hurting from our split but has chosen not to notify me about it. With the speed she had taken to get a new bloke to move in and to get engaged,has she has any thought about how this may effect our son. Mind you, remembering how selfish she use to be, does she care? Link to post Share on other sites
Shocked Suzie Posted December 24, 2013 Share Posted December 24, 2013 Hi again folks... As you may be aware my 7 year old son had chosen to spend Xmas with myself and my mother rather than with his mum and her fiance. He's been with us since last Friday and I have him until 4 Jan. He has been a really happy boy, always laughing until last night when he went to bed. He started crying hysterically. I naturally tried to comfort him and asked him what was the matter. He replied that he misses me and that he does not want to leave me. After some hugs and reassurance that I will always be there for him, he settled down and fell asleep. After he was asleep, I left his room and felt really down and angry towards my ex. I questioned myself about my ex if she realised how much hurt her cheating has caused my son and to me. I can cope with this (just about) but my son?. Apparently he has had similar outburst at home so she is aware that he is still hurting from our split but has chosen not to notify me about it. With the speed she had taken to get a new bloke to move in and to get engaged,has she has any thought about how this may effect our son. Mind you, remembering how selfish she use to be, does she care? Short answer to your title is no, talking from my personal experience my ex went from being a loving father to a detached, self absorbed idiot ... Puts the OW 100% before his own kids! Sad and confusing as it all is just have to do the best we can to make it as good as possible SS x Link to post Share on other sites
TheBladeRunner Posted December 24, 2013 Share Posted December 24, 2013 No, she doesn't care. Mine did the same damn thing....."she" came first! Things are different now, but in the early stages getting nuked with her skanky friends from work and chasing some new loser was always the priority. I went through the same stuff with my daughter being upset and confused. All you can do is reassure then that YOU will be there. Your child will see over time even at the early age he is at that who the real parent is. I don't disparage my XW to my child but I do get the anger you talked about. All this get's easier the more time passes.....maybe not better as she'll always be selfish.....but easier. Glad you have your son for the holidays, I have mine tonight and she goes to her moms for Christmas. Link to post Share on other sites
RightThere Posted December 24, 2013 Share Posted December 24, 2013 I'm in the same boat. My STBXW decided she was going to go away for Christmas. She even assured me she was going by herself (as though I care) but I know her and her new loser boyfriend are making the trip together. Her excuse is that "Christmas really isn't her thing" and that my daughter (4) will have lots of my family around. I don't even engage it, but it pisses me off to no end. I could care less that Christmas isn't her thing. But it's our daughter's thing! And I do the same. Don't badmouth my STBXW and just let my daughter know that I'm always here for her. The selfish knows no limits. Link to post Share on other sites
Yasuandio Posted December 24, 2013 Share Posted December 24, 2013 The answer to your question is a big NO. Yas Link to post Share on other sites
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