crazybestie101 Posted December 24, 2013 Share Posted December 24, 2013 (edited) It's been few weeks i have been here. I have something weird and interesting to share. Well back in october , before i saw my ex last time i made this fake instagram to stalk my ex.I made beautiful , white girls fake instragram account( i am asian). YES YES i know you all will yell at me. After my last encounter with ex , i never went on that account . But recently like 2 weeks back i went on , stalked ex. Well , didnt find anything but at the same i met this another new guy. This new guy thinks me as that white beautiful girl. Well , he has been going through same relationship problems, find this fake account to be attractive so he started sending "hi" messages and some how i got into conversation with me. Yes , day and night i used to think this is NOT right because i am not what he think i am. But in midst of all that i couldnt stop myself but talk to him. I was pretty much with him when his fiance was ignorning him and giving him silence treatment ( his fiance cheated on him), may be somehow he started liking spending time with me. He started telling me that he likes me ( this fake account).His co worker said that this account is too good to be real. But he didnt listen , but after asking me for my facebook and my phone number . He realized that all this is fake and he blocked. Well , sad but i knew end will be like that. It's been week now. I feel like i want to come clean and tell this guy exactly what my intentions were and how things ended up. I know i lied to him , he wont trust me . But i atleast want to be his friend. I know he is alone right now and going through lot of pain , i do want to help him because i have been through such pain. After one week of thinking i sent him FB request but he doesn't recognize me so it's still pending . I am planning on writing him FB message explaining everything. May be he want to be friends in real life. Oh yes he is in Air force! Air Force guys are so cute ( just sayingggg) And I COMPLETELY FORGOT ABOUT MY EX AND UNFOLLOWED HIM AFTER ALL THIS Edited December 24, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
loveiswar101 Posted December 24, 2013 Share Posted December 24, 2013 Too weird my friend, not good leading people on even if have good intentions. :-( Link to post Share on other sites
David87 Posted December 24, 2013 Share Posted December 24, 2013 (edited) WOW! Just tell him the truth, it's the right thing to do, and it's fare to him. Edited December 24, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted December 24, 2013 Share Posted December 24, 2013 (edited) Wow....just wow..... Edited December 24, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
JDPT Posted December 24, 2013 Share Posted December 24, 2013 Sounds like an episode of catfish. At this point I would let things be, no need to twist the knife. However, learn from this experience and know that it's never good to lead people on specially when they are in a very volnurable position like him, like you, like me. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Iguanna Posted December 24, 2013 Share Posted December 24, 2013 If this guy wanted some good person to talk to cause he was sad he wouldn't find the hottest chick in there or he wouldn't care about beauty. He just used a sad story to get in your pants. Thank God he disappeared. You deserve better. Link to post Share on other sites
Author crazybestie101 Posted December 25, 2013 Author Share Posted December 25, 2013 Wow....just wow..... Ya , sure laugh @confusedhumanbeing. Btw , how are you? Merry Xmas! Link to post Share on other sites
Author crazybestie101 Posted December 25, 2013 Author Share Posted December 25, 2013 WOW! Just tell him the truth, it's the right thing to do, and it's fare to him. I want to but moment i am trying but somehow i am delaying it . Link to post Share on other sites
Author crazybestie101 Posted December 25, 2013 Author Share Posted December 25, 2013 Sounds like an episode of catfish. At this point I would let things be, no need to twist the knife. However, learn from this experience and know that it's never good to lead people on specially when they are in a very volnurable position like him, like you, like me. I know. I am planning on writing him FB message since he didn't recognize my FB friend request. But somehow i am delaying this whole process. Don't know why. And i never planned on lead him on , i didnt even know him. I just randomly followed him and conversation started. On honest note , i want to be his friend and help him get through this relationship BS. Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 Ya , sure laugh @confusedhumanbeing. Btw , how are you? Merry Xmas! Haha I kid with you Its pretty insane how far this story has gone tbh and this road isnt going to lead anywhere that is pretty and I think you know that. I'm not a doctor by any means, but this does seem pretty out there. I understand how one thing leads to another and we've all done some crazy stuff. Honestly, I think you just have to tell him crazy. Best thing for everyone. Happy Christmas to you too!! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
legion113 Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 If this guy wanted some good person to talk to cause he was sad he wouldn't find the hottest chick in there or he wouldn't care about beauty. He just used a sad story to get in your pants. Thank God he disappeared. You deserve better. Let me get this straight, she admits to wanting to stalk her ex, she lies and acts deceitful by putting up a bogus picture and profile, she continues to lie for some time with some guy who apparently is having relationship problems(could be true) and is needing an ego boost so is flattered by some "hot" chick that is talking to him. She continues to lie for as long as she can (even though she REALIZES it's not right) until he realizes it's a fake account, at which point his coworker is probably spreading that story to everyone at work about what a sucker he is and embarrassing him. She made him look like an idiot. She started a relationship off with lies. And HE'S the douchebag? Link to post Share on other sites
Author crazybestie101 Posted December 25, 2013 Author Share Posted December 25, 2013 Let me get this straight, she admits to wanting to stalk her ex, she lies and acts deceitful by putting up a bogus picture and profile, she continues to lie for some time with some guy who apparently is having relationship problems(could be true) and is needing an ego boost so is flattered by some "hot" chick that is talking to him. She continues to lie for as long as she can (even though she REALIZES it's not right) until he realizes it's a fake account, at which point his coworker is probably spreading that story to everyone at work about what a sucker he is and embarrassing him. She made him look like an idiot. She started a relationship off with lies. And HE'S the douchebag? First of all , i never wanted to start dating or relationship with this guy.I dont even know him or met him. My entire intention was dedicated to my ex only. Some how i came across this guy. This guy start sending me( fake profile) messages and as a well wisher , i answered and kept it like friend. I kept reminding him being engaged. I just wanted to help him in his down time. I already decided to end while seeing kind of replies i was getting. And this is too before he even realized. I didn't know he will fall for this fake profile after just week of talking. Yes , i did lie to him but i always kept it as friend or some well wisher. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author crazybestie101 Posted December 25, 2013 Author Share Posted December 25, 2013 Haha I kid with you Its pretty insane how far this story has gone tbh and this road isnt going to lead anywhere that is pretty and I think you know that. I'm not a doctor by any means, but this does seem pretty out there. I understand how one thing leads to another and we've all done some crazy stuff. Honestly, I think you just have to tell him crazy. Best thing for everyone. Happy Christmas to you too!! Haha, alright. Question to you: I want to reach out to this guy. Exactly telling him entire truth. I know he kinda took it hard but i don't understand how can you fall for someone whom you actually never saw in real. What do you think? I wont message right now as i don't want to destroy his Xmas but very soon. All in all, i am ready to apologize and do wish to be his friend( i know its difficult). He is going through down time and i really want to help him. He seems to be nice guy with morals and of course , he is cute . Thanks for your help! Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 Haha, alright. Question to you: I want to reach out to this guy. Exactly telling him entire truth. I know he kinda took it hard but i don't understand how can you fall for someone whom you actually never saw in real. What do you think? I wont message right now as i don't want to destroy his Xmas but very soon. All in all, i am ready to apologize and do wish to be his friend( i know its difficult). He is going through down time and i really want to help him. He seems to be nice guy with morals and of course , he is cute . Thanks for your help! Again, I'm not doctor, but I have had a friend who fell for someone he never met online. Turned out after years it was a hoax and it was a huge mess. Its almost easy to fall for someone you havent really met because....well you havent met lol. You can make them and mold them in your mind to really whatever you want. My friend put this "girl" in the HIGHEST of categories because she was being interpreted by his own thoughts. In this instance, it sounds like this guy was pretty lonely. He saw you (but not REALLY you) and you guys started talking and thus created that connection. You said his Fiance and him were kinda hitting it rough, so he confided in you. Now, the issue lies with YOUR lies. That was pretty bad on your part to keep it up without telling him the truth. He saw right through it after he asked to hang so I mean it's hard to really blame the guy honestly. With that said, none of us are perfect. I wouldnt take any of these avenues that you decided to take, but thats your journey not mine....If you feel it necessary to write him an apology and whatever you need to, I dont really see how much more it could really hurt. With that said, you seem to be pretty okay with the situation on here, so it makes me think that you are wanting this apology-be friends route to eventually lead to something else. In my honest opinion, starting a relationship with this guy knowing what you guys ALREADY went though sounds like a pretty bad time. I wouldnt go down that route BUT IF YOU ARE REALLY WANTING TO BE FRIENDS and help out and expect NOTHING, then I really dont see any harm. Best of luck 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author crazybestie101 Posted December 26, 2013 Author Share Posted December 26, 2013 With that said, you seem to be pretty okay with the situation on here, so it makes me think that you are wanting this apology-be friends route to eventually lead to something else. In my honest opinion, starting a relationship with this guy knowing what you guys ALREADY went though sounds like a pretty bad time. I wouldnt go down that route BUT IF YOU ARE REALLY WANTING TO BE FRIENDS and help out and expect NOTHING, then I really dont see any harm. Best of luck @ confusedhumanbeing , no wonder why i say you know me too well. Honestly , i do like this guy on internet. Not sure about in real though. So dating / relationship is far but not impossible. Again he is still somewhere linked to his fiance and i don't want to be reason for someone's break up. But today i saw that he spent xmas alone ( his fiance was supposed to with him), idk what happened. One major thing , it's gonna be long distance relationship if we choose to pursue anything in future since he is in Air force , he can be stationed any where. I don't mind LDR as long as he is in states Link to post Share on other sites
Author crazybestie101 Posted January 3, 2014 Author Share Posted January 3, 2014 So i tried to reach out to him as "Real me". I sent him FB request and instagram invite. Since he doesn't recognize me , it's still pending. I am assuming after that incident this guy had become very cautions and doesn't add any stranger. I kinda feels sad that i am not able to tell him the truth. It feels like i spoke to this guy , spend every moment of day and night with him , listened him but i can't tell him that hey its me. I am afraid that if i tell him truth he might cause legal trouble for me. I know it sounds crazy but you never know people's mind and their reactions. There are definitely some cray rules out there. My whole intentions didn't include him at all ,i just met him in process of something else. Even while being with him i always did something which was in his best interest. Yes , at one point i did like talking to him and i do miss speaking to him now though. I was really hoping he might accept my request and later i would tell him truth. I am so stuck here because i don't want to get into trouble for something really stupid. Link to post Share on other sites
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