if you still love her, wish her Merry Christmas.

[Vicente]

i don't need to be patronized now.

 

a lot of you guys probably had a bad breakup, and your ex's wanted you out of their lives.

 

but my ex was good about our breakup. she wanted to be in each others lives still, but i didn't. i told her off and hurt her. i lied when i said the things i said, and left her with this monster she invasions of me. she said i'm a good person, but the way i've been acting is making it difficult for her. i realize it was my fault she left me.

Edited December 24, 2013 by Vicente

[EuTuBrute]

Worst idea ever... For what she did to me I hope she gets coal

[radiodarcy]

i don't need to be patronized now.

 

a lot of you guys probably had a bad breakup, and your ex's wanted you out of their lives.

 

but my ex was good about our breakup. she wanted to be in each others lives still be i didn't. i told her off and hurt her. i lied when i said the things i said, and left her with this monster she invasions of me, when she thought i was a good person this whole time.

 

On the contrary we've all been there. So we know how it feels to reach out to an ex and - - no matter how much we tell ourselves it's ok if the ex doesn't respond, or we just wanted to show there are no hard feelings, etc -- it still takes a lot to reach out to them when we are in pain that they caused when they dumped us.

 

It sounds like she wants to keep you in her life as a friend as a way to ease her conscience for breaking up with you. But that's not going to be a good place for you to stay if you are still hurting and have feelings for her.

Particularly when she decides to start dating again.

 

I've never dumped anyone before but I can imagine it can be a very difficult thing to do for some people. But regardless of how bad she feels about ending things, it doesn't change their decision.

[Vicente]

On the contrary we've all been there. So we know how it feels to reach out to an ex and - - no matter how much we tell ourselves it's ok if the ex doesn't respond, or we just wanted to show there are no hard feelings, etc -- it still takes a lot to reach out to them when we are in pain that they caused when they dumped us.

 

It sounds like she wants to keep you in her life as a friend as a way to ease her conscience for breaking up with you. But that's not going to be a good place for you to stay if you are still hurting and have feelings for her.

Particularly when she decides to start dating again.

 

I've never dumped anyone before but I can imagine it can be a very difficult thing to do for some people. But regardless of how bad she feels about ending things, it doesn't change their decision.

 

 

i mean, my breakup is different than the run of the mill, because my ex gets mad when i say "you dumped me." she told me that its hard because she has to walk away from someone she still loves and we're on different pages in our lives. she doesn't want to date anybody else, because she's in pain still. she said she would have reconsidered getting back together if i didn't tell her off.

 

 

i let my emotions push her to her limits, and now i finally realise i was a douche when she was suffering.

[chris21422]

STOP BEING A DOORMAT AND GROW UP

 

Greeting her won't do you any good. So what if you said bad things to her??

 

She broke up with you. Good break up or bad break up She doesn't want you in her life anymore..

 

Why not show it to her instead of being in the picture? Show her your the man that you can live your life without her..

 

Stop being "OH IM SORRY YOUR HIGHNESS YOU HURTED ME SO I'M SO SORRY NOW I SAID BAD THINGS TO YOU! I'M GONNA APOLOGIZE AND GREET YOU MERRY CHRISTMAS YOUR HIGHNESS!"

 

Stop putting her in the pedestal man and have some self respect for yourself.. it's ok to be mad to someone she broke up with you. I'm sure she is the mature one that she understand that you got mad at her because she broke up with you that's why she said to just leave her alone..

 

If you won't listen to the advice people gave you here.. Then do us a favor and just kiss her feet for me and say

 

I WILL DO EVERYTHING YOU WANT YOUR HIGHNESS!

[radiodarcy]

i mean, my breakup is different than the run of the mill, because my ex gets mad when i say "you dumped me." she told me that its hard because she has to walk away from someone she still loves and we're on different pages in our lives. she doesn't want to date anybody else, because she's in pain still. she said she would have reconsidered getting back together if i didn't tell her off.

 

 

i let my emotions push her to her limits, and now i finally realise i was a douche when she was suffering.

 

Just because she feels bad about breaking up with you doesn't mean that your break up is different from anyone else's.

 

My ex would also get upset when I rejected his offers of friendship and told him he dumped me. Well sorry but the truth hurts.

 

I highly doubt she would have reconsidered the break up if you hadn't said the things you did. Yes it may have been hurtful for her to hear them and that's why she said that. But that may have been her trying to hurt you as much as your words hurt her.

 

I mean if you had smiled and given her a kiss on the cheek and said, " I understand, best of luck" that she would have reconsidered? Probably not. She probably would have been relieved you took it as well as you did and just carried on; leaving you seething in pain on the inside.

 

You can't be bothered to ease her conscience for a decision she made when you are struggling with the emotional effects of that very decision.

[Vicente]

STOP BEING A DOORMAT AND GROW UP

 

Greeting her won't do you any good. So what if you said bad things to her??

 

She broke up with you. Good break up or bad break up She doesn't want you in her life anymore..

 

Why not show it to her instead of being in the picture? Show her your the man that you can live your life without her..

 

Stop being "OH IM SORRY YOUR HIGHNESS YOU HURTED ME SO I'M SO SORRY NOW I SAID BAD THINGS TO YOU! I'M GONNA APOLOGIZE AND GREET YOU MERRY CHRISTMAS YOUR HIGHNESS!"

 

Stop putting her in the pedestal man and have some self respect for yourself.. it's ok to be mad to someone she broke up with you. I'm sure she is the mature one that she understand that you got mad at her because she broke up with you that's why she said to just leave her alone..

 

If you won't listen to the advice people gave you here.. Then do us a favor and just kiss her feet for me and say

 

I WILL DO EVERYTHING YOU WANT YOUR HIGHNESS!

 

 

i'm not putting her on a pedestal. look, after our breakup we were cool, more than just friends, if you know what i mean. i said to her its like we didn't even break up. then i forced her to officially get back together, she was iffy. but i was persistent. i accused her, and bombarded her. she wanted us to work it out but i rushed and forced things to happen.

[barky2]

Didn't read the whole thread just responding to title.

 

Instead of being the first one to say it, only respond.

 

Not a game, but it also gives you a little power.

 

Plus if you say it first and get no response, your Christmas will be ruined.

 

 

 

 

Barky

[Vicente]

Just because she feels bad about breaking up with you doesn't mean that your break up is different from anyone else's.

 

My ex would also get upset when I rejected his offers of friendship and told him he dumped me. Well sorry but the truth hurts.

 

I highly doubt she would have reconsidered the break up if you hadn't said the things you did. Yes it may have been hurtful for her to hear them and that's why she said that. But that may have been her trying to hurt you as much as your words hurt her.

 

I mean if you had smiled and given her a kiss on the cheek and said, " I understand, best of luck" that she would have reconsidered? Probably not. She probably would have been relieved you took it as well as you did and just carried on; leaving you seething in pain on the inside.

 

You can't be bothered to ease her conscience for a decision she made when you are struggling with the emotional effects of that very decision.

 

 

i do believe her when she said we could have gotten back together.

 

here's the things i said to her...

-i wish i never met you.

-i could get any girl i want, so many girls want me.

-you're never going to have another BF, because nobody wants to be with you because youre just a bitch.

-i don't want to be your friend

 

i was a douche, and i made up lies to hurt her and make her jealous. she's a good person, and at least deserves an apology.

[chris21422]

I bold all the things man.. Greeting her won't do you any good right now and will not make her want you back..

 

Your greeting might considered again as the things I put on bold there..

 

If she wanted to talk to you she will contact you.. If you wanted to reply go ahead but just stop initiating things and being clingy and needy.

 

Girls doesn't like that..

 

 

 

i'm not putting her on a pedestal. look, after our breakup we were cool, more than just friends, if you know what i mean. i said to her its like we didn't even break up. then i forced her to officially get back together, she was iffy. but i was persistent. i accused her, and bombarded her. she wanted us to work it out but i rushed and forced things to happen.

[Vicente]

I bold all the things man.. Greeting her won't do you any good right now and will not make her want you back..

 

Your greeting might considered again as the things I put on bold there..

 

If she wanted to talk to you she will contact you.. If you wanted to reply go ahead but just stop initiating things and being clingy and needy.

 

Girls doesn't like that..

 

so don't apologize or say merry xmas? i don't want to seem too desperate asking for forgiveness.

 

if girls don't like that, then what do girls like? should i play hard to get?

[ConfusedHumanBeing]

so don't apologize or say merry xmas? i don't want to seem too desperate asking for forgiveness.

 

if girls don't like that, then what do girls like? should i play hard to get?

 

You shouldnt do anything other than move on! Quit planning out your attack on what to do because its just wasting time of you actually moving on.

 

Whats done is done. You made mistakes or whatever thats fine....we all have...but its done. Leave it alone.

[Vicente]

You shouldnt do anything other than move on! Quit planning out your attack on what to do because its just wasting time of you actually moving on.

 

Whats done is done. You made mistakes or whatever thats fine....we all have...but its done. Leave it alone.

 

i just can't let go. i had my chance, i blew it without thinking. she was going to reconsider us getting back, and i stupid. she's a good woman, and i ruined it to save my relationship. all i want to do is make things right, but i guess you guys say i should just let it go

[chris21422]

Yea man don't apologize or greet. You don't need to ask for forgiveness.

 

Girls likes confident man.. Show her you have a great life and your moving on.

 

That you don't need her in your life.. Yes you want her but you don't need her..

 

If you want to respond when she greets you go ahead but don't initiate anything..

 

 

so don't apologize or say merry xmas? i don't want to seem too desperate asking for forgiveness.

 

if girls don't like that, then what do girls like? should i play hard to get?

[Vicente]

Yea man don't apologize or greet. You don't need to ask for forgiveness.

 

Girls likes confident man.. Show her you have a great life and your moving on.

 

That you don't need her in your life.. Yes you want her but you don't need her..

 

If you want to respond when she greets you go ahead but don't initiate anything..

 

she thinks that i've moved on, that i'm dating all these girls and i don't want her in my life. which is all lies, i said that to hurt her and she has no idea that i still love her and want her back.

 

i don't think she'll greet me first after the way i acted.

[sportzhl24]

i just can't let go. i had my chance, i blew it without thinking. she was going to reconsider us getting back, and i stupid. she's a good woman, and i ruined it to save my relationship. all i want to do is make things right, but i guess you guys say i should just let it go

 

Ya man believe me, just let it go. Stop fighting this and listen to the advice that everybody is giving you. I know how hard all of this is to take in but no matter what you did or said, apologizing right now isn't going to help anything. Give her space. All the space she needs.

 

My ex dumped me and I completely blamed myself and I apologized to HER about it. Twice. Let me tell you something: **** that.

[ConfusedHumanBeing]

i just can't let go. i had my chance, i blew it without thinking. she was going to reconsider us getting back, and i stupid. she's a good woman, and i ruined it to save my relationship. all i want to do is make things right, but i guess you guys say i should just let it go

 

Yeah she might have said she was going to "reconsider" but who really knows? IF she really wanted to, she would have by now. I wouldn't put too much stock into that honestly.

 

What happened happened ya know? Not much can be said and mistakes were probably made on both sides (dont put her on a huge pedestal either. I'm sure there are things that she caused too) so now its just the process of moving forward.

[Vicente]

man this sucks, i just want to make things clear. she wanted to be with me, but i left this bad image of me in her mind, and i don't know if i'll ever hear from her again.

[Vicente]

Yeah she might have said she was going to "reconsider" but who really knows? IF she really wanted to, she would have by now. I wouldn't put too much stock into that honestly.

 

What happened happened ya know? Not much can be said and mistakes were probably made on both sides (dont put her on a huge pedestal either. I'm sure there are things that she caused too) so now its just the process of moving forward.

 

i wondered the same thing, did she really want to reconsider?

 

i asked her sister how she was, and she said my ex has been crying, and doesn't leave the house. she said she was depressed and all that, so it makes me believe she was telling the truth.

[Softie]

It's not the right time to do it at Christmas x

[chris21422]

She will in time! Also if a person wants you back she will not think about it like your ex did.. She is just saying that because she is confused or wants to keep you in her life but doesn't want to commit..

 

So man just let her go and work on yourself.

 

 

man this sucks, i just want to make things clear. she wanted to be with me, but i left this bad image of me in her mind, and i don't know if i'll ever hear from her again.

[Zoe Lilith]

man this sucks, i just want to make things clear. she wanted to be with me, but i left this bad image of me in her mind, and i don't know if i'll ever hear from her again.

 

 

You two have been together,during that time, you got to know each other..My point is, she knows that your reaction was emotional...you don't need to clear up anything!

[EnigmaWolf92]

Just a bad idea really I fell into the trap around thanksgiving. Even worse for Christmas as we spent it together. I refuse to break again silence is pretty clear.

[Mondmellonw]

she thinks that i've moved on, that i'm dating all these girls and i don't want her in my life. which is all lies, i said that to hurt her and she has no idea that i still love her and want her back.

 

i don't think she'll greet me first after the way i acted.

My ex said pretty nasty things to me when I left him.

He even said he never wanted to see me ever again.

It felt like crap.

I miss him (I miss the "good-everything" we had) but everytime I remind about the things he said I just feel like I hate him and should forget about him...

As your ex gf, I'm not currently dating, but the rumors are he did about a week after or BU. I left him, but he inmediately just treated me like ****.

I guess that love is not enough.

I would never be back with him after that.

And he will never ever apologize... That's what I believe.

I know it might sound like I'm selfish, cause' I left him, but the whole things was stupid. I'm not selfish, I'm hurt by his words, and his acts. (Before and after the day of the BU).

[Coping17]

Heal yourself, put yourself first. You are still thinking with your heart. You said the reason for sending the text is to show her you are no longer angry. Then you followed it up by saying you want to apologize. That's expecting a lot out of Merry Christmas text. Send it to us instead. We are the only ones you can be sure of that truly care about you.