davidabriner Posted January 5, 2005 Share Posted January 5, 2005 my step mom never leaves me alone. ever since my mother died i have had to go to my dads house. I cant stand being around his new wife and her kids. i hate her and she wont leave me alone. she expects me to do everything and make it perfect. When her kids in in trouble they always blame things on me and she will believe them over me. I want to leave but i don't want to dissapoint my dad because i haven't lived with him in a long time. Her daughter has a crush on me and i don't like her not one bit. I think she is stupid and nasty. i am the only one besides my dads 3 kids that gets in trouble. Her 4 kids bairly ever get in trouble and when they do they don't get in near as much as us Link to post Share on other sites
NiCoLe20 Posted January 5, 2005 Share Posted January 5, 2005 well you cant really do much because your in their house now.. but i would have a talk with everyone...when ur sitting down for dinner or whatever, bring it up and tell them how all this yelling is making you depressed and upset... if that doesnt work then try to do things that occupy your time so your not home as much... you shouldnt run away from the problem but if you dont want to be near ur step moms kids, then go to a friends house or something like that Link to post Share on other sites
Elmo Posted January 6, 2005 Share Posted January 6, 2005 How old are you? I think we need to know this to give any advice. Link to post Share on other sites
Author davidabriner Posted January 6, 2005 Author Share Posted January 6, 2005 Originally posted by Elmo How old are you? I think we need to know this to give any advice. im only 16 but im not even aloud to leave the house. even when someone offers to pick me up. I have to stay in my room to get away from them all. We dont eat together so i cant really talk to them Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted January 6, 2005 Share Posted January 6, 2005 I'm so sorry about the loss of your mother. I can only imagine what the pain must be like. Please be aware that I truly sympathize. Link to post Share on other sites
thebeesknees Posted January 6, 2005 Share Posted January 6, 2005 First of all, I'm sorry about the loss of your mom, that is hard enough to deal with on its own without all these other major changes. Secondly, I don't know if it's a good idea to bring up your problems in front of everyone, that will probably just start another yelling match. You should try to get your dad and step mom alone and talk to them about how you are feeling. It is always hard transitioning to a 'new' parent, for you and for the parent, hopefully your step mom (and your dad) will take the time to listen and understand what you are trying to say. Link to post Share on other sites
Elmo Posted January 7, 2005 Share Posted January 7, 2005 Hmmmm.... 16 is very young. I moved out at 16 and it was almost impossible. I was lucky that things went my way. Do you have other relatives that will take you in? Figure out all your options BEFORE you confront your Dad and new family. In fact, why don't you let us know your options? I'm sure you will get some feedback. Just, PLEASE, don't create a situation where you have to leave. It is a very hard world, and even harder if you are very young and have no way of making a living. Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted January 7, 2005 Share Posted January 7, 2005 I moved out at 16 and it was almost impossible. But do-able. ( I left at 15 ). That's not the point. I'd avoid leaving if at all possible. I had to leave because it was a physical threat to be there. I agree with thebeesknees. Corner your Dad and Step Mom and explain to them how you feel. Sometimes you teen agers need to act as the adult and engage the conversation rather than wait on your parents to do it. Link to post Share on other sites
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