Play lab Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 Seriously, I know this sounds silly and so simple but I find it virtually impossible to meet new people. I'm 21 and the only guy who I ever saw something happening with recently turned out to be engaged and moved away anyway. I met him through summer work. I go out a lot, although granted it's generally to the same places with mostly the same group of people. I've even signed up to online dating recently and although I get a fair amount of responses they aren't people I'm interested in or connect with when I talk to them. Am I just being too picky? Link to post Share on other sites
Thegreatestthing Posted December 26, 2013 Share Posted December 26, 2013 Why do you not like the ones you meet online they are no different from the people you would meet offline,for me i wish I did the online thing earlier.i wasted years with wrong guy when I could have been happy with someone else. I get lots of messages and I reply to every single person because nobody likes to be forgotten or ignored and every has in them beautiful and specific details.people really mostly have good souls and are worth knowing even if you don't date them etc,give them a chance and try not to judge them,if you judge people you have no time to love them. Link to post Share on other sites
PPamgirl Posted December 28, 2013 Share Posted December 28, 2013 yeah how to meet a virgin guy, decent, not a cheater, with almost no past, intelligent, cute, independent .... i am too picky the list is huge.....:laugh: does exist someone like that ? :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
Esoteric Elf Posted December 29, 2013 Share Posted December 29, 2013 Seriously, I know this sounds silly and so simple but I find it virtually impossible to meet new people. I'm 21 and the only guy who I ever saw something happening with recently turned out to be engaged and moved away anyway. I met him through summer work. I go out a lot, although granted it's generally to the same places with mostly the same group of people. I've even signed up to online dating recently and although I get a fair amount of responses they aren't people I'm interested in or connect with when I talk to them. Am I just being too picky? Where you look will largely determine what type of people you will find. I wouldn't, for instance, suggest going to bars to look for a guy who is ready, willing and able to substantiate a long-term relationship and expect to find him pronto. If you are in college, this task is made easier by interest groups and such. I would look at your interests (specific ones), and then see just where guys like that might hang out. Link to post Share on other sites
Softie Posted December 29, 2013 Share Posted December 29, 2013 Society has become one that is always looking for the next upgrade or next best thing, incl people so when it comes to OLD there is always the possibility of someone better with the next click. So in my opinion people have a great date, but think there might be something better so carry on looking instead of enjoying what they have right In front of them. This obviously doesn't apply to everybody. I'm going to try a new approach in NY and join in Meetup/clubs/single events and try to see if that is a better way. I still believe the old fashioned way of meeting someone in person is better than OLD, again a lot try to date online instead of using it for its purpose which is to bring two people together to take it offline. Too many messers online, f*** it right up for us genuine searchers. Link to post Share on other sites
PPamgirl Posted December 29, 2013 Share Posted December 29, 2013 Take out virgin. Deal breakers are not aggregate, they're logic gates... it only takes a few before you eliminate most of the population. nah i prefer be alone than date a non virgin guy,i am a virgin and i will date just guys like me, who think the same way like me,and only intend to lose it after marriage, to me is like impossible deal with the past of a person who already slept with tons of girls, plus i would feel disgusted and not special ...... Link to post Share on other sites
jacksi Posted December 30, 2013 Share Posted December 30, 2013 I asked that question many times, until someone turned around and asked me a better question. They asked, “Where are you trying to meet women?” I stammered. I cringed. I finally admitted I glanced around the office. I would try to figure out who was single at church. I put a profile on a dating site and never sent anyone a message. I went to a couple bars, had a drink, and disappeared into the woodwork. He just shook his head and replied, “You’re not even trying.” He was right. I’m trying to learn new places myself by participating in a few forums and so far a few that have caught my attention include places like free cooking classes, dance classes for singles, joining a volleyball team at the rec center, taking classes at a local junior college. I did not even explore the singles groups at local churches until he challenged me. I discovered one of the larger churches sponsors a Christian singles group that has over 300 members that meet monthly, most of them in my age bracket. I have to start looking if I want to find. Is that your challenge, too? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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