Was I wrong?

[MsKenji]

My mother is an unhappy person who is suffering financially, romantically, and socially with her family members. About two months ago my Uncle's wife sorta blew up at her, called her "not family", and threatened to fight her over some crap that occurred years ago. Basically my Uncle told my aunt something my mother had said... My mother from then on told me not to talk to my Uncle and his wife. I listened to her. Though, for Christmas I called my Uncle and wished him a Merry Christmas. He then put her on the phone. I wished her a Merry Christmas (but it was awkward as hell). My mom found out when she looked through my phone history and yelled at me so much. What annoys me the most is that she thinks because I did this that I don't care about her and have no respect for her. Also, she does this passive aggressive crap where she's like "from now on I don't care...do whatever you want I don't care". Was I really wrong? I don't want to have a relationship with people who disrespect my mom. But at the end of the day my Uncle really didn't do anything so I at least just wanted to say "Merry Christmas"

[Bearx]

My Mum faces the same thing with my Step Sister. They argue over dumb reasons. For example, once my Mum asked my Step Sisters Husband to take my Brother to work with him for 2 days. But, he said no. And my Mum goes on about how she always cares and looks after his kids. Personally, I think their both in the wrong. 1. We're family, we should look out for each other, whether it's by lending money, helping with work, health etc. and 2. We shouldn't point out what we done for each other. We're meant to do it anyway because we're family. The only reason people point their so called "good doings" is to be right. Basically, they want to WIN. Who wouldn't in an argument?

 

So, you should sit your family down, including your Uncle, his wife and your mum and talk about what happened, how they all felt and put each other in their position. Don't take your mums side nor your Uncle/ His wife's side because everyone has different views of the story. Take the side of justice.

 

It was Christmas and it's nearly the New Year. Don't let bitterness get the best of you. Anyways, I hope you had a wonderful Christmas and have a wonderful new year.

[turnera]

Your mom's beef with them isn't yours. Do what you want to do.