peonybloomer Posted December 27, 2013 Share Posted December 27, 2013 my mother as far as I can remember, has always had bizarre mood swings. Now she is in her early 50s and I guess she'll start menopause someday, but I don't think this is contributing to the problem. I always act patient as possible with my mum when we speak. But several minutes ago when I was casually speaking to her, she had been in a good mood, laughing even. All of a sudden she begins to speak about depressing things, mainly how most people are nasty. When I try to speak I give neutral responses such as "most people are nasty", and keeping my mood up. Yet she starts to get very defensive, raising her voice and ignores whatever I say. She starts to get extremely tense, which I never feel comfortable around people like this. I simply walked away and told her calmly, "I don't want to talk with you." Just yesterday she was teaching me how to bake a special good. I was learning but then she began to go from calm to extremely angry and grabbing the food item out of my hands every second to show me how to do it right, or basically her way. Suffice to say, this didn't end too well because I finally lost my patience and simply stormed off. 'Course we made up but still... Her mother had severe mood problems too though, from her records. Both are a ball of nerves essentially. My half sister is the same but severely worse. However I'm completely different... I act with such care and caution and yet I still, without fail, can get snared in the rabbit's trap and find myself in boiling water. Can I do anything? Do I just have to grit it? Thank Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpybutfun Posted December 27, 2013 Share Posted December 27, 2013 Regardless of whether she has a disorder or is clinically depressed, you need to place healthy boundaries for yourself. No one has a right to verbally or mentally abuse you. Protect yourself and never be afraid to walk away and demand space if you need it. Good luck, Grumps Link to post Share on other sites
Eau Claire Posted December 27, 2013 Share Posted December 27, 2013 Family members are who they are. Accept it. All you can control is your own level of contact, tolerance, etc. Been like this in every family for thousands of years. Nobody is going to 'change'. Mothers, sisters, etc. are no more or no less cuckoo today than yesterday...they will be just as cuckoo next Christmas. Just keep your own standards and be proud of your own integrity. Link to post Share on other sites
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