Was It A One Night Stand Or Would There Be More Down The Road In the Future.

[cybotron]

Okay this first part is a question and the second is a about a friend of mine. Can a guy and a girl just be friends. What I mean by that is just being friends and not sleeping together. Can they hang out just like hanging out with the guys. What if the girl has a boyfriend and the guy doesn't have one? Wouldn't he be jealous and would sexual tension arise. How about the girl's boyfriend does he get jealous if his girlfriend goes out with her guy friend? I know some of your responses will be it's all about trust but can you really trust anyone these days.

 

 

Here is my story. A new girl started at his work and my friend recently broke up with his girl after like a 6 year relationship. The break up happened around Jan last year. He dated off and on but nothing serious. I think it was just hard after 6 years to just get into a relationship so he didn't feel like jumping back into one. The new girl started at his work around March and my friend didn't start talking to her until June. They started talking because she lived like the next town over. So from there they just chatted and my friend didn't really want to bother with her. She is 25 and my friend is 31. I guess he didn't want an office romance. She said we should grab a drink sometime. This girl just got out of a relationship also. She was just dating and appears she didn't want a relationship. My friend was still hurt from the relationship he got out of. He was actually talking to the ex and trying to work things out with her but was unsuccesful. I think maybe he wasn't ready for a relationship but he was still dating but nothing serious. So both him and her were on the same page. He let his ex have her space and let her miss him. He needed his space as did she. I will get back to the ex in a moment. The girl he met was having a cook out and invited a bunch of people at there work. It was a good time as I went and we met some cool people.

 

 

So from there on my friend and the girl became good friends. After work they would hang out and do stuff together. They had a good time as they dined out, went bowling, worked out and went tanning together. After work they would spend time together as much as they can. They didn't really hook up on the weekends that much but did once in awhile. So after spending like about 6 weeks together they slept together. After that happened they emailed each other about that they had a good time. It was rushed because the girl has a roommate and she was just coming home. So it seemed like a quickie. My friend was like that was good but we didn't really have enough time. In her email she states there would be more times for that. So my friend was kinda like was this a sex with no strings attached thing or maybe we are developing something. They became close and my friend enjoyed spending time with her. So the girl starts school at night and my friend didn't spend so much time hanging out with her. She worked like 2 jobs and was going to school at night. She became very busy. He understood. They still spent time together but not as much.

 

 

Okay so they go out to eat one night and the girl seems upset. My friend was like what's your problem and she was like nothing. He was like tell me something is bothering you. So she says I think I'm pregnant as she missed her period. My friend was like a used a condom and she says I know it's not yours. It was not her exes but the kid she dated after she broke up with her ex. They dated for maybe 3 months. She broke up with him and dated my friend. Now my friend was pissed but happy that it wasn't his. So her parents were also pissed and she tells her ex and he get's very angry. She didn't know what to do. After trying to figure out what to do she decides to have an abortion. She didn't want to do it but didn't want to have the kid with that kid she slept with. He was a jerk anyways and they broke up right before she dated my friend. So the ex is pissed but supports her and they start to become close again.

 

 

Both my friend and the girl knew about there exes and how the break ups happened. His ex wanted to be friends with him as well as hers. Both of them talked to there exes from time to time. My friend kept on talking to his ex to try to get back together but still it didn't work. The girl broke up with her ex before 2 times already and this would be the 3rd time back together. So after all that abortion thing she seems to be back with her ex. My friend is kinda like what about me. My friend to get her jealous said that him and her ex were maybe getting back together. He did this to see what she would do or say. She seemed to get a little jealous but didn't say anything. So weeks passed and what do you know she is back with the ex.

 

 

Th ex is a jerk and I heard all about him. Here is a guy who is an alcoholic and used to hit and beat this girl. He lived with her before they broke up and now it seems he is going to live with her again. So my friend was like she is back with her ex so oh well. He was like I'm gonna try to get back with mine. My friend didn't get back with his ex but they still talk about getting back together. It may happen but that's another issue. So my friend is still friends with this girl and even met her ex. He seems nice to him and my friend says he's alright but really a jerk. The girl got another job at a new company and my friend was like good luck maybe I'll see you around. The girl was like we will keep in touch all the time.

 

 

So the girl has a new job and is back with her ex. My friend didn't really contact her after that. She called him to say hello and they chatted. So she kept on calling him. My friend called her once in awhile and she called also. They kept in touch. It was like they became friends like before. They didn't hang out anymore because she had him. My friend didn't really have anyone as he was still single. My friend still went tanning with her as she worked there and got free tanning. Every Saturday she invites him to hang out with her and her friends and her boyfriend. My friend doesn't go because he feels uncomfortable around the ex and thinks he's a jerk which he is.

 

 

So she is back with the ex now and he is almost over her house all the time. I think he is moving back in again or from what I heard going to buy his own house with her. My friend goes tanning with her after work and they still get along well. They joke about sleeping together but nothing happens. When they email each other they joke around and he talks about what kind of panties she has on today. So there friends and they joke around like that. I know the ex doesn't know about the emails but he knows they go tanning together and sometimes hang together. The ex doesn't seem to mind and trusts her. She said that they both trust each other. So this girl still talks to my friend from time to time. He went out with her tanning one night and her phone rings and it is her ex and she ends up fighting with him. My friend noticed everytime he calls they end up fighting and one time she said she had an argument with him. She seemed like she wasn't really getting along with this guy. After all this is the 3rd time back together with this guy. This guy was a jerk before and still is in my opinion as he used to hit her and drink all the time. She tells my friend that things seem different now and we are doing better and his drinking his better.

 

 

Okay so the point is she is back with her ex and she seems unhappy with him. She seems more close to my friend and gets along better with him. The truth finally came out and she states she is only with this guy because her parents like him. I guess her parents like him because he has a good job and makes good money. Not saying my friend doesn't make good money. He does alright. They started off as friends it became more than that and then all this happened. So she doesn't really seem to happy with this guy and I doubt they will stay together. My friend is very good friends with this girl but not sleeping with her anymore since she went back to the ex. Now he is looking to get back into a relationship and dating other girls. He mentions other girls to this girl or getting back with the ex and she gets jealous. Why should she get jealous when she is back with her ex. Could it be she kinda likes this guy and really doesn't like being back with her ex. My friend kinda thinks about maybe he should be together with her for good. He is thinking this might be that they are friends and will one day they might be lovers. Could this possibly happen? I am guessing 2 things. This girl is still young and confused and doesn't really know what she wants. Also I have heard people start off as friends for many years then end up marrying each other. What do you all think? There is a lot of possibilities on this..I would love to hear what everyone says.

[Pocky]

I think your friend should move on with his life since the girl has decided to remain in a relationship with her boyfriend.