Girlfriend is pregnant. I really don't want it

[Rude boy]

She's in the hospital on suicide watch. After I told her it was over she said she was going to kill herself. I called her family after she said that and they drove her to the hospital... I followed them there. I feel horrible that I called them and now she's there... It's all my fault.

[Debanked]

You can say that again. Learn from this and keep it zipped.

[somedude81]

She's in the hospital on suicide watch. After I told her it was over she said she was going to kill herself. I called her family after she said that and they drove her to the hospital... I followed them there. I feel horrible that I called them and now she's there... It's all my fault.

Dude, it's not your fault that your GF is psycho.

[DaisyLeigh1967]

Suicidal is not psychotic. Please educate yourself, PP.

 

Rude Boy: It is not your fault she is in the hospital. Maybe now she can get some help. You actually did a good thing. She can get well, over you and focus on the baby.

[DaisyLeigh1967]

Leave her alone. You going to her would only make things worse.

[Rude boy]

I ended up calling her. We had a nice talk, I told her silly jokes to make her laugh and asked her how she was feeling. She was sad and wanted to go home, but she has to stay for awhile. I held back tears the whole time, I felt so bad.

[Rude boy]

Because I called the woman I've been with for three years in the hospital? Sorry bro, it's not. I came here because I need help. I don't have parents to call up and ask, they're more screwed up than I am.

[pink_sugar]

Because I called the woman I've been with for three years in the hospital? Sorry bro, it's not. I came here because I need help. I don't have parents to call up and ask, they're more screwed up than I am.

 

Continuing communication with her will give her false hopes of reconciliation. You need to give her time alone and staying away. I believe she is manipulating you still. It sounds like she has a decent familial support system she can rely on.

[anna121]

I know it's hard, Rude Boy, but you are very bad for her right now. As she is for you.

 

Please leave her alone.

[Allumere]

{{{RB}}} I haven't read all the post but have caught some. Very rough stuff for sure. Well you did the right thing by contacting her family so she could get the right help. I understand it is difficult on so many levels but I'd let the doctors and her family be her support system right now. Although she may be glad to hear from you, I am afraid it could be a huge trigger after the fact. Also, although not the intent, she may perceive communication as being alot more than what it is (most folks have that problem after breakups as it is) She is not is her right space at the moment and won't be capable of managing the emotions very well. As awful as it may sound to you at the moment, you need to focus on yourself as best you can.

[Rude boy]

I've been thinking about staying even if it isn't my baby. I'm definitely getting clipped though so I don't have any more. I'm worried what will happen to this kid if I don't take it. She'll need help and the other guy is a loser. I think he works at jersey mikes and makes minimum wage. He can't help her...

[somedude81]

I've been thinking about staying even if it isn't my baby. I'm definitely getting clipped though so I don't have any more. I'm worried what will happen to this kid if I don't take it. She'll need help and the other guy is a loser. I think he works at jersey mikes and makes minimum wage. He can't help her...

Why would you help if it isn't your baby?!

 

Stop thinking you owe her something!

 

She cheated on you. She's manipulating you. And she tried to make you a father against your will.

 

This girl is bad news and you should have nothing to do with her.

[pink_sugar]

Why would you help if it isn't your baby?!

 

Stop thinking you owe her something!

 

She cheated on you. She's manipulating you. And she tried to make you a father against your will.

 

This girl is bad news and you should have nothing to do with her.

 

I agree 100%. Once you sign the birth certificate, you will be legally responsible. You don't need this drama. The court can take the child from her if she is too mentally unstable to raise this child. I'm assuming you're fairly young and have your life ahead of you. Get out of this mess while you can. If this child isn't yours, I would run.

[anna121]

I can't be the only one who feels like I've been played.

[Rude boy]

Why would you help if it isn't your baby?!

 

Stop thinking you owe her something!

 

She cheated on you. She's manipulating you. And she tried to make you a father against your will.

 

This girl is bad news and you should have nothing to do with her.

 

I feel you, man. I know I have to stop, but I over analyze everything so I've been all over the place... I know for a fact I won't be a good father. I'm too much like my dad. Lately, things I've been saying and feeling remind me of him.

 

I hate that she cheated on me with such a loser. I mean at least trade up idiot. Not down!

[Els]

I can't be the only one who feels like I've been played.

 

By this thread? I have been feeling that way for the past 5 pages.

[Salvatore85]

My ex got pregnant after we had been together for two years, it was mine but we chose to go the abortion route. 4 years later and I now consider it the biggest mistake of my life. I was just like you, I didn't want it at all.

[Arabella]

I know for a fact I won't be a good father. I'm too much like my dad. Lately, things I've been saying and feeling remind me of him.

 

I've been silently watching you go through the whole range of emotions in this thread, but you seemed to be heading in the right direction so I didn't feel the need to post.

 

Then I read this one line.

 

YOU'RE WRONG.

 

You don't know ANYTHING for a fact. You're YOU, not your father. The only way you're going to be a bad father is if you don't care enough to be a good one.

 

My advice to you is that you wait a while before you make any decisions. This baby isn't coming for another half a year...you have time to think about what you want. In the meantime, stay close but at a safe distance from her.

 

Get a paternity test, so you will have all the facts regardless of what you choose to do. Then spend some time thinking about your relationship with this woman, and whether you're even capable of getting past her cheating.

 

You may choose to be there for the child (even if he isn't yours!), but you're not stuck with her as a partner. You need to think about what you want to do about each of these things separately.

 

Give yourself time.

 

Good luck,

 

-A

[stillafool]

OP what will happen when you meet the girl you want to marry? Don't try to be this baby's father if you don't like kids. This girl will go on to marry someone who wants to be the father to her baby.

[Lauriebell82]

Just to throw me two cents in...I don't think it's a good idea to get "snipped." You will 100% regret that someday!!!!

[DaisyLeigh1967]

Just to throw me two cents in...I don't think it's a good idea to get "snipped." You will 100% regret that someday!!!!

Why not? He does not want kids and wants to walk out on the one he is supposedly going to have, no questions asked. He obviously does not want kids. Get snipped and do the world a favor. That way he cannot accidentally knock someone else up and walk out on more kids.

[somedude81]

Why not? He does not want kids and wants to walk out on the one he is supposedly going to have, no questions asked. He obviously does not want kids. Get snipped and do the world a favor. That way he cannot accidentally knock someone else up and walk out on more kids.

I hope you are able to realize that the situation he is in is far from being normal.

 

He's freaking out and has no idea what to do.

 

Nothing that is going on right now is his fault.

[nescafe1982]

Rudeboy, when you were with your ex-GF, how frequently did the condom break?

[Rude boy]

I went to lunch with my mom today. She sat and talked about how excited she was to be a grandma. I told her I didn't plan on being around much; she asked why. I told her because I was too much like my dad, I have everything about him I hate in me the only difference is I don't beat her. She put her head in her hands and sobbed. I didn't know what to say which just made things worse.

[Rude boy]

Rudeboy, when you were with your ex-GF, how frequently did the condom break?

 

I'm not sure. One night I caught one leaking so I traded it out, she got really annoyed with me but I wasn't sure why. I didn't put much thought into it until now...