dealing with ex completely ignoring me.

[Jay C]

earlier this month i came into contact with my ex. she wanted something back, so i mailed it to her house. a couple of days later she texted me to say thank you. we talked casually, then i brought up if i could see our dog. then she stopped texting, and that was the end of the convo. 3 weeks later, i texted her this... "don't take it like i'm mad or anything, but i would like some acknowledgment if you will let me see our dog or not. thank you." still nothing.

i got upset after no response, and sent her an email on why we can't be civil about this. the dog was mine at first, then we shared it when our relationship got serious.

 

i'm just pissed off that i can't at least get a courtesy response like "no, i don't want you in my life." i go out of my way to send her her stuff and she can't even talk to me. this passive agressive behavior is abusive.

[reddragon588]

Your ex is completely ignoring you? Why aren't you doing the same?

[chris21422]

Who broke up with who?

[Jay C]

Who broke up with who?

 

she broke it off with me

[smuggy95]

i've had similar situations in the past. I don't know what they're thinking...i guess maybe they're afraid to encourage anything? Maybe she blocked your number? It seems odd, the switch, but it does show you how easy it is for them to just go on their day and not feel bad for being impolite to someone who used to matter much to them!!!!

[pickflicker]

She doesn't owe you a courtesy response. You're broken up, which means she doesn't have to engage. If it was a child that you wanted to see, that would bee a different story, but a dog is not a child. And as much as I love animals, you need to chalk the dog up to spoils of war.

 

You should be ignoring her, as reddragon said.

[xUnknown]

For most, a dog IS a child...to them. Hell, I see my kitten as a child. I can't imagine having a dog for years that I love and care about. If it was yours at first, screw it, go and take it back. Its yours. But yeah, NC is the way to go, thats what she's doing.

[stillafool]

Get yourself another dog.

[ponchsox]

Your ex is doing you a favor.

[pickflicker]

For most, a dog IS a child...to them. Hell, I see my kitten as a child. I can't imagine having a dog for years that I love and care about. If it was yours at first, screw it, go and take it back. Its yours. But yeah, NC is the way to go, thats what she's doing.

 

But a dog is NOT a child. So he can't fight for custody and he can't compel her to let him see the dog. As ponchsox says - get another dog.

[Jay C]

fu*k that. It's mine too, I bought it, I paid for all the medical bills, even after the breakup. my ex force me to take it to the vet and she said she will pay half the bill. She never paid and i paid for it all. when she needs something I do it, then goes NC when I ask to at least visit our dog.

[Jay C]

Your ex is doing you a favor.

 

oh yeah? don't see it

[pickflicker]

fu*k that. It's mine too, I bought it, I paid for all the medical bills, even after the breakup. my ex force me to take it to the vet and she said she will pay half the bill. She never paid and i paid for it all. when she needs something I do it, then goes NC when I ask to at least visit our dog.

 

Well, you can't make her talk to you, so I'm no sure what else you need from us.

 

Good luck.

[HorseLuck]

Why did you leave the dog with her? Do you have paperwork under your name like adoption papers or purchase of the dog, vet bills, etc.

 

I think a small claims actions is possible, asking for possession of the pet back. If you're serious about this it wouldn't hurt to talk to a lawyer and see what your options are.

 

If not, perhaps she doesn't feel comfortable running into you yet. You'll have to wait it out.

[ConfusedHumanBeing]

fu*k that. It's mine too, I bought it, I paid for all the medical bills, even after the breakup. my ex force me to take it to the vet and she said she will pay half the bill. She never paid and i paid for it all. when she needs something I do it, then goes NC when I ask to at least visit our dog.

 

All you're doing is using your dog as a way to keep contact with your ex. Many of us told you in your last thread to move forward with this and you aren't so there isn't much we can do for you

 

Get a new dog and let it go.

[Haydn]

Once again lost you have impressed me with the jargon i dont know. `Get a new dog` (Joke,

but you have a way)

 

 

 

All you're doing is using your dog as a way to keep contact with your ex. Many of us told you in your last thread to move forward with this and you aren't so there isn't much we can do for you

 

Get a new dog and let it go.

[Haydn]

I mean if you used that line in the UK........It could mean all but a few things! Love it!. But yes op is using the `dog` as an excuse.

 

 

 

Once again lost you have impressed me with the jargon i dont know. `Get a new dog` (Joke,

but you have a way)

[somedude81]

If this is about the dog, are you able to permanently take care of it?

[Jay C]

I'm not using it as an excuse. She makes it a point to contact me, and get her things. but I can't even get a 'no' from her.

[pickflicker]

I'm not using it as an excuse. She makes it a point to contact me, and get her things. but I can't even get a 'no' from her.

 

Just because you're willing to answer her, does not mean she needs to extend you the same courtesy.

 

That's the law of the jungle (and break ups).

[reddragon588]

I'm not using it as an excuse. She makes it a point to contact me, and get her things. but I can't even get a 'no' from her.

 

Why do you care?

[stillafool]

fu*k that. It's mine too, I bought it, I paid for all the medical bills, even after the breakup. my ex force me to take it to the vet and she said she will pay half the bill. She never paid and i paid for it all. when she needs something I do it, then goes NC when I ask to at least visit our dog.

 

Then take her to court and seek custody of the dog. See an attorney but leave her alone.

[LovelyDaze]

I get the feeling she may not be responding about the dog so she can "dangle carrots" at you.

 

I think she could possibly text you at a later time for some other miscellaneous missing item left behind from your break up.

She KNOWS you will ask to see the dog. She KNOWS she will respond with dead silence. She KNOWS you will be baffled by that. Wash, rinse, and repeat.

 

Dumpees are known to enjoy that kind of entertainment.

[chris21422]

I remember the same thing happened like this before with my other ex but it's the other way around..

 

My ex girlfriend wants to see our dog and asking about our dog but I'm ignoring her.

 

so I can give you a bit of advice.. Just let it go. It's her dog It's your dog..

 

It doesn't matter anymore.. It's time to move on. Let go of your ex girlfriend and the dog.

 

as others suggested get one yourself if you really want a dog.

[Jay C]

I get the feeling she may not be responding about the dog so she can "dangle carrots" at you.

 

I think she could possibly text you at a later time for some other miscellaneous missing item left behind from your break up.

She KNOWS you will ask to see the dog. She KNOWS she will respond with dead silence. She KNOWS you will be baffled by that. Wash, rinse, and repeat.

 

Dumpees are known to enjoy that kind of entertainment.

 

i'm the dumpee