LDR dilema! Should I move to be with him?

[Eternal Sunshine]

I wouldn't even consider it unless the guy proposed and even then it's a long shot. And I don't even have a child. You really need to think things through. Making decisions based on emotions often turn out to be costly mistakes.

[justwhoiam]

I really clicked with his brother, he's very good looking, funny, he's got that gung-ho charm that I've always been attracted too, but he's a lot lot softer than his brother, than any guy I've dated, a little shy, a little clumsy.

He's one of these people that just brims with honesty and integrity. He's not my usual type but we clicked. I liked him, a lot.

But are you in love with him? Like swept off your feet? Your words make me think you are not fully convinced he's the one for you. Just because you see yourself living a nice life with him, it doesn't mean you love him.

 

I fell hard for him, in that week, and in all the weeks after when we'd talk on the phone and Skype.

Ok. You claim you fell hard for him. Now you need to test that. How good are you with the distance? And how good is he? Use that to test the relationship. If he is ready to wait not to lose you. And your child must be the priority at any time. Also, how far is he willing to go? I'd need to be 200% sure about his feelings and his commitment before moving for good.

 

Also, does he live on his own? Does he have his own place? Is he fully independent?

 

Any advice on Long distance?

You need a lot of patience. Constance. It requires endurance. Devotion. Passion. Trust. Understanding. Commitment. That only to make things work in a decent way. That's not ideal, that's just necessary not to break up. But he's not even your boyfriend now, is he?

 

Anyone been in a long distance relationship with kids?

Been and currently in a LDR with kids on both sides. And although our kids are more or less the same age, I'm at a different stage of life than you are. So our goals might be different. We are not moving anywhere for now. But we will continue to have a home in both countries and spending some time here and some time there.