Ex messaged merry christmas. breaking NC and greeting him for NYE?

[shakepig]

Only you can sort out your feelings. Your friends will do their best to support you but BUs are hard on them too because they don't want you to be in pain. Fake/selfish friends will only tolerate so much before they dump you too so learn to cope with your emotions on your own. Therapy can help so try speaking with a doctor.

 

You need to force yourself to move on, even though you don't want to. Read threads on here and find what works for you. Unfortunately, your ex has already moved on....I would strongly urge you to do the same. "bumping into him" or texting him will only push him further away anyway, let alone set you back.

 

He surly has moved on... I have been reading other threads. one of them states that it's okay sometimes to break NC, get burned again and kill the last drop of hope. Maybe I should do that. I know I havent touched the bottom yet. I might be only able to re-bounce and start healing after that.

[shakepig]

Yeah....and you might see him kiss or get intimate with another girl at the concert. Could you handle seeing that?

 

Also, If I wereny your ex and I happened to see you at my event, I'd think it would be weird and you were stalking me.

 

Ouch...He said he still want me to see his gig.. i dont know. I bought the tickets before we split. I have no intentions to stalk him. yea. He doesnt know about this and may misread. If he think I am trying to stalk him, then he doesnt know me from the start...

[shakepig]

Yeah....and you might see him kiss or get intimate with another girl at the concert. Could you handle seeing that?

 

Also, If I wereny your ex and I happened to see you at my event, I'd think it would be weird and you were stalking me.

 

yea. you are right. even he doesnt think i try to stalk him. bunch of his friends will def think in that way. I cannot put my pride and reputation at risk again. Yea, F**k that. I am not going. who cares if his music is good or bad. who cares if he can make the band big or not. Yea, he sees the band as his life, put tons of efforts into it and ate junk food to save up money for tours. whatsoever, he doesnt want me. why I wanna go back into his life being supportive. It's none of my business. i will let it be and leave him alone.

[Simon Phoenix]

He's the one playing in the concert? If so, do not go. Nothing good can come from this.

[shakepig]

He's the one playing in the concert? If so, do not go. Nothing good can come from this.

 

5 local bands will be there. he will be one of them. I just clicked ungoing on fb.

It's done and i need tell my friends the event is called off for whatever reason.

[Am4Real]

We told her that already -- she agreed -- then got talked into going again and now I'm sure if she is going or not?

 

So OP, are you going or not?

 

He's the one playing in the concert? If so, do not go. Nothing good can come from this.

[shakepig]

We told her that already -- she agreed -- then got talked into going again and now I'm sure if she is going or not?

 

So OP, are you going or not?

 

Big NO this is my first new year resolution!