OWAmy Posted December 30, 2013 Share Posted December 30, 2013 Before I came across this site I downloaded a couple of books that were relatively short but so, so useful for me to put my own affair into perspective. One was written by an OW and the other was more clinical, written by a psychotherapist. I found them extremely useful. They didn't have all the usual judgemental stuff that doesn't make you stop your affair ... more the process of an affair, patterns and trends and a lot of personal affair stories from the OW point of view. Made me realise what we had was just a cliched affair. It stopped me viewing it in quite such a romantic light. One of the books specialised in single woman - married men affair and the author was putting forward his idea that this type of affair set-up could often be classed as a syndrome. Have others found help from books like these? I didn't mention their titles as I wasn't sure if forum rules allowed it? Link to post Share on other sites
Rhema Posted December 30, 2013 Share Posted December 30, 2013 I haven't come across any. What were the titles/authors of the ones you read? Link to post Share on other sites
ElectricTangerine Posted December 30, 2013 Share Posted December 30, 2013 I only read books that dealt with being in a relationship with separated and divorcing men - they have been a huge help in helping me define what should be tolerated because of circumstances and what should not. All supported with stories and examples. The books were: 1. Dating The Divorced Man: Sort Through the Baggage to Decide If He's Right for You 2. How to Survive Your Boyfriend's Divorce: Loving Your Separated Man Without Losing Your Mind (my favorite) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author OWAmy Posted January 15, 2014 Author Share Posted January 15, 2014 Sorry for delay in posting. The books that I have read are:- Dating a Married Man: Memoirs from 'the Other Women' by J Mathews and The Single Woman-Married Man Syndrome by Richard Tuch. Helps you to understand all too similar patterns with affairs and both are non judgemental. They don't contain the usual nonsense that you hear. Hope they are of use to someone. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
gettingstrong Posted January 15, 2014 Share Posted January 15, 2014 I have read, "How to be the Other Woman" by Angie Sullivan, "Will he ever leave her for me" Rona B. Subotnik "The Other Woman's Handbook" Servilla Caepionis "Being the other Woman" Micalle A. Culver The one I related to the best was, "The Other Woman's Handbook" 1 Link to post Share on other sites
OldRover Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 I only read books that dealt with being in a relationship with separated and divorcing men - they have been a huge help in helping me define what should be tolerated because of circumstances and what should not. All supported with stories and examples. The books were: 1. Dating The Divorced Man: Sort Through the Baggage to Decide If He's Right for You 2. How to Survive Your Boyfriend's Divorce: Loving Your Separated Man Without Losing Your Mind (my favorite) I saw the Survive Your Boyfriends Divorce, and was NOTHING about surviving.... it was about destroying the relationship ... the book was horrible! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author OWAmy Posted January 16, 2014 Author Share Posted January 16, 2014 I have read, "How to be the Other Woman" by Angie Sullivan, "Will he ever leave her for me" Rona B. Subotnik "The Other Woman's Handbook" Servilla Caepionis "Being the other Woman" Micalle A. Culver The one I related to the best was, "The Other Woman's Handbook" I have read "Will he ever leave her for me" and found that quite useful, but that's not whats on my mind. I am someone who takes responsibility for my part in all of this and wants to understand why I got involved with a MM in the first place. I have the need to understand so I can have a fulfilling relationship in the future. The books I mention would be good for people on the same track of thinking as me - those that are a little psychologically aware. Link to post Share on other sites
goodyblue Posted January 16, 2014 Share Posted January 16, 2014 Oh man. I have read "How to Survive Your Boyfriend's Divorce. I found it simple and not helpful. My friends will maybe not be happy that I said that, but honestly... it is so much more complicated than what the book touts. After that I stopped reading anything except the forums, because they are at least real. Link to post Share on other sites
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