ae86drift Posted January 12, 2014 Share Posted January 12, 2014 this guys is a PIMP lol so he had a g/f that lives with him, another gf on fb, and you? LOL you guys must be desperate hahaha Link to post Share on other sites
Snipercatt Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 Anyway, it's none of my business. That's true, it isn't any of your business, so give it a rest. Don't get hung up on the thread title You are the original poster, and responsible for the thread title. Don't post a title that isn't appropriate to the intended discussion. Don't post a thread title just to be inflammatory. Local guy is not ready to give his heart to anyone. From your posts it would appear neither of you are ready. Link to post Share on other sites
Author liloldlady Posted January 13, 2014 Author Share Posted January 13, 2014 another gf on fb I don't think so. Link to post Share on other sites
aliveagain Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 I got a headache reading your post. Why don't you clean up your very confusing life, you will be a lot more happy. This can't be what you want your life to be like, seriously? The man you really love your letting another woman take from you without a fight, the guy your making it with is in a relationship with someone else and will always have a someone else. Come on girl do what your heart is telling you needs to be done to get closure than move on with no further doubts. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Snipercatt Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 I don't think so. Regardless of what you think, you absolutely can not know. Link to post Share on other sites
Snipercatt Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 You ask us not to post to the evidence that points to him being a cheater, yet, that probability is exactly what has you twisted in knots. Listen to your intuition! The problem is his need for external validation. This is a core problem of a philanderer! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author liloldlady Posted January 13, 2014 Author Share Posted January 13, 2014 (edited) The man you really love your letting another woman take from you without a fight Oh, no, no one is taking away the man I really love. He and I are in a very good place. Come on girl do what your heart is telling you needs to be done Thank you! High five! I am exactly in that frame of mind! The man I truly love has class and dignity! The universe works in mysterious ways: I've been able to see first hand via local guy what I do not want nor deserve. Local guy knows I'm just not that into him. He can tell by now, LOL. Local guy knows who I truly love, and never should have pursued anything more than a platonic friendship with me in the first place. But I guess it was what I needed at the time. And like I told local guy: I'm not the same person he met a couple of years ago. When local guy met me, I was heartbroken, & he totally took advantage of that fact. He swooped in like a scavenger. But those days are over. My heart is healed. I feel loved. I'm back on the right track. Local guy is a confused mess, and I pray for him. I would neverrrrr want to walk in his shoes. This is a core problem of a philanderer! You said it! I had a small epiphany this morning. I thought: what mentality would I be in if I went around saying, "I don't know, I've just always wanted two boyfriends." (That's so juvenile, but so too, frequently, is his mentality...) So if I felt that way, I thought to myself, I'd be feeling like half a woman. That's why I'd need something from the outside to inflate my ego and make me feel whole. That's a sad way to live. I am so grateful when I look at the lives some people live, knowing that a different, beautiful destiny awaits me. Edited January 13, 2014 by liloldlady Link to post Share on other sites
Snipercatt Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 Lil, that simply can't be true. If you weren't into him the postings on his Facebook by a female, and his response, would not have bothered you. It bothered you so much you were angry, etc . Why are your postings so inconsistent with each other, on a regular basis? What beautiful destiny awaits you? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author liloldlady Posted January 13, 2014 Author Share Posted January 13, 2014 If you weren't into him the postings on his Facebook by a female, and his response, would not have bothered you. Well, cleaning out my text messages recently, I see that his behavior has been bothering me in one form or another since November, so my affection for him has been dwindling for a few months now. Relationships are a process. Link to post Share on other sites
beach Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 Well, cleaning out my text messages recently, I see that his behavior has been bothering me in one form or another since November, so my affection for him has been dwindling for a few months now. Relationships are a process. A process? I disagree - relationships are either nurtured and grow stronger or they don't when you're not feeding into it. If time and energy isn't spent GROWING the R - then it's just fizzling out and bound to end - it's just a matter of acknowledging that it's ended - or the end. Link to post Share on other sites
Snipercatt Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 I see that his behavior has been bothering me in one form or another since November, so my affection for him has been dwindling for a few months now. The opposite of affection is indifference, not anger. Anger means you are still emotionally involved. Link to post Share on other sites
Quiet Storm Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 (edited) No, I believe him when he says he hasn't slept with her. He has no reason to lie to me about things of this nature because it's an open relationship. At this point, I don't even care. There's something very bad in the air... He does have many reasons to lie: He wants to avoid your questions. He doesn't want any drama. He doesn't feel like he owes you an explanation. He wants to keep you on his roster. He wants to protect his relationship with his #1 and upsetting you is a threat to that. He is dishonest and lies because he's a liar (reason not needed) Have you ever considered that if his others ask about you, he will probably say you are crazy? Edited January 13, 2014 by Quiet Storm 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author liloldlady Posted January 13, 2014 Author Share Posted January 13, 2014 If time and energy isn't spent GROWING the R - then it's just fizzling out That's what it is: a fizzling out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author liloldlady Posted January 13, 2014 Author Share Posted January 13, 2014 Have you ever considered that if his others ask about you, he will probably say you are crazy? I know someone who has known him for 25 years, and he described him as 2-faced. And yes, I have also observed that trait in him. Link to post Share on other sites
nescafe1982 Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 Why waste so much energy on a man like this? That comes off as desperate to me. I don't get it. You guys sound like an episode of Maury Povich. If you want something better, you're going to have to clean up all of this and work for it. Do you want something better? Link to post Share on other sites
tlegend Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 I know someone who has known him for 25 years, and he described him as 2-faced. And yes, I have also observed that trait in him. Seems like you are the one who is playing games. I don't even know which way is up in your thread anymore. This is worse than a woman finding out none of the 15 guys on the stage is the father of her son on Jerry Springer. Seriously. Link to post Share on other sites
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