digdoug Posted February 26, 2014 Share Posted February 26, 2014 My wife and me have been married for 31 years now. i met her when she was 16 and i was 20. we married when she was 19, and i was 23. If anything we have grown closer to each other over the years, and would not have waited for later in life to make our start in life. it seems the later a person waits the more set, independent, self reliant a person becomes, and some times too selfish to share their life with someone or me first instead of putting their mate first. Link to post Share on other sites
Phantom888 Posted February 26, 2014 Share Posted February 26, 2014 You are actually a completely different person by the time you are 30 compared to when you were 20. Your preferences change. You styles change. Even your taste buds change. On top of that, your personal interactions /tolerance /perspectives change over time. Therefore you should not consider marriage until you are done growing for the most part. Sure we are constantly learning new things, but after 30, you tend to stabilize and remain that person until you get old. Then you start smelling like Bengay. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 Late 20's early 30's for sure. I still don't fully understand who I am and I am in my late 20's. It was only the other day that I let myself date a guy who screwed hookers and cheated on me constantly. Obviously, I need a little help before my "self" is healthy enough to realise a healthy relationship. Obviously, being crazy about my partner isn't enough of a reason to get married to him anytime soon:o He is 30. I am late 20's. We think we have found "the one" but want to wait until I finish my degree/have the means to get married and start a family before proposing and stuff. Link to post Share on other sites
Shepp Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 The longest married couples I know wed as teenagers. One couple got married the weekend after she turned 18. They were all passionate about their partners. They grew together. They took on life together as a team. This is definitely true for the happiest couples - grew up together. I mean id never say because of my life experiences and what I want out of life THIS is THE age people should get married - it changes depending on the person, the relationship and what they want out of life. I wouldn't tell someone they we're two young....i'd tell them to think seriously about it but you get one life you've got to live it your way. My brother got married really young, he met his girlfriend at 13, she moved in with us when she was 15 I think, because her parents moved abroad with her dads work, and then wanted to get married...I can't remember exactly how old they were but I know Heath needed my folks to give consent so I think he was 17.....I was kid I wasn't involved in all the discussions but I remember my folks being against it, telling him to just wait, even if they only waited a year.....I don't really remember the rest but he convinced them to do an unofficial wedding ceremony (that they still class as there wedding) I was best man . He's 26 now, coming up to being "married" 10 years - didn't hold either of them back - he's a fisherman, she's a midwife, they've got gorgeous children and they're genuinely one of the happiest couples I know, by a long way. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Shepp Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 You are actually a completely different person by the time you are 30 compared to when you were 20. Your preferences change. You styles change. Even your taste buds change. On top of that, your personal interactions /tolerance /perspectives change over time. Totally true - but a lot of the time when your with someone throughout that time you grow and change with them as a unit. You grow up together, share experiences, share memories, share a life. its true with friends - leaving out holidays there probably hasn't been a week go by where I haven't seen my best mate at the very least 3 times since I was three years old. 17 years on, have we changes - incredibly so, and if we hadn't seen each other at all in the last 16 years would we still be as close? The rules of chance wouldn't probably say it was unlikely. But that level of contact ensures we were as close as we ever were - it doesn't matter that now he likes heavy metal and I think its just noise, that he's gonna be a paramedic while i'm a firefighter or that he's the most patient guy ever and I just see red, or even that I've got babies now - what ever differences we have it doesn't erase 17years of similarities. . . . . . . . . . same can be true for couples who marry young. Plus I guess people would consider me young to be seriously looking at engagement rings1, but we live together, we have baby twins....its not like our lives are forever intertwined now by way of our sons, its not like if we split up now we'd both go our separate ways and that would be that - marriage doesn't really change that aspect an awful lot! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Shepp Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 (edited) Double post Edited February 28, 2014 by Shepp Link to post Share on other sites
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