DinNJ Posted January 7, 2005 Share Posted January 7, 2005 If you only knew my pathetic story... you'd wonder how I got myself into the mess and didn't see it coming.... haha Link to post Share on other sites
Author mixwell Posted January 7, 2005 Author Share Posted January 7, 2005 if you have time post yer story man ! haha. it might help you vent a lil. If yer bored. haha Link to post Share on other sites
theone44 Posted January 16, 2005 Share Posted January 16, 2005 Originally posted by mixwell ok here is the deal. For the last 2 weeks ive been asking my ex if she wants to hang out etc.. Everytime she says maybe or i dont know. She says its because I always talk about US when we hang out but I said I dont. I actually went into her work yesterday and talked to her a little bit on her break outside. She seemed happy to see me though and gave me a nice firm hug when she saw me and when I left, unlike the weak ones I'd recieve before. But the thing is, is that she makes plans with her other friend all the time. So i ask her why she can make plans with other people but with me its always no or maybe or i dont know. so after asking her to go to lunch today she says i dont know. I ask her later to see yes or no. She says no thanks. Well im fed up with it so i txt msged her saying the following: 1st txt msg: i dont know what thebig deal is with hanging out with me. I dont know why you make plans with other people but when i want to hang out its maybe. You hang out with your other friend all the time. your always with him. You should telll me the real reason you dont want to hang out. Sorry but I dont want to be friends with someone that doesnt want to hang out or care about me. you're too busy for me i guess. its cool. Do what you want as long as your happy. Try acting like you care if you do. bye. next txt msg: If you want to be friends act like it. Sorry for whatever I did to make you act like this. final txt msg: Dont get me wrong id like to be friends but until i feel that the feelings mutual I cant keep on being the only one making the effort to hang out and talk. Hope you understand... the reason i sent 3 was because I thought of things I didn't get to say in the other messages. She didn't respond to anything though. she was the one that dumped me for those of you that dont know, basically because i moved away. I am not back and she still says she doesnt want a b/f and she is hurt. So I'm asking, do you think I said the right things in the text messages ? I really am fed up with being the only one to make effort in hanging out so I am going to NC but I want to basically let her know that this is the last straw and I'm done with this BS. Do you think I went too far or what ? I do want to be with her but she seems like shes always too busy for me. I dont know why because we used to hang out more when I first moved back. ANY help would be appreciated Man!!!!!!!! women are strange and crazy. once we open our mouth and and express our feeling toward them then they start to repel from us. one thing i learn from women is that they like to do the chasing and pursuing . Also women choose the men who they want to date,be with or sleep with. Womin want strong men not some weak momma boy,who have no backbone. So,mixwell,just lay back and play it cool,and let her come chasing after you. just be a challenge and play hard to get. I promise you she will smelt like butter in your hand. Just go out and live your life and have fun. "Just another man trying to help another man" Link to post Share on other sites
Author mixwell Posted January 16, 2005 Author Share Posted January 16, 2005 thanks theone but i have an update and she is going out with this "friend" so I dont know. She still acts jealous and what not and asks me if im seeing other girls and this and that. I have not called her in like 6 days and she called me a couple days ago from work but i was sleeping. I didnt return her call though even though i really wanted to see what she had to say. Im going to just keep on with NC and maybe she will realize she is going to lose me. Its really her call, if she wants to be with me then shes going to have to show it and put in some work but if she is happy with this guy (which i think he is a crutch for her, for the time being) then by all means shes going to be with him. It sucks knowing that its going to be her choice because you cant make someone want to be with you or love you. So the only thing is to just let her decided that the deal is. So im just going to live my life as if she wasn't in it until she wants to be in it. Peace Link to post Share on other sites
theone44 Posted January 16, 2005 Share Posted January 16, 2005 Originally posted by mixwell thanks theone but i have an update and she is going out with this "friend" so I dont know. She still acts jealous and what not and asks me if im seeing other girls and this and that. I have not called her in like 6 days and she called me a couple days ago from work but i was sleeping. I didnt return her call though even though i really wanted to see what she had to say. Im going to just keep on with NC and maybe she will realize she is going to lose me. Its really her call, if she wants to be with me then shes going to have to show it and put in some work but if she is happy with this guy (which i think he is a crutch for her, for the time being) then by all means shes going to be with him. It sucks knowing that its going to be her choice because you cant make someone want to be with you or love you. So the only thing is to just let her decided that the deal is. So im just going to live my life as if she wasn't in it until she wants to be in it. Peace Don't worry about her seeing another dude. men and women do that all the time when they break-up. they just testing the water out there. like i said earlier just lay back,play it cool for a while and just chill,but have a good time while you during so. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mixwell Posted January 16, 2005 Author Share Posted January 16, 2005 thanks alot theone ! I think you're right but you know sometimes you get thoughts in your head. I keep thinking this is it were not going to be together. But you know what i dated other girls when I broke up with her and she probablly thought that that was it for us too but I always came back to her because I love her and wanted to be with her. So I think thats how she is but then theres always that thought in the back of mind saying what if it isn't the same as it was when I broke up with her. What if that is the end of us.. You know what im saying bro. So I'm trying to keep those thoughts outta my head, but its making me crazy !! Ha Take care Link to post Share on other sites
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