marie337 Posted January 7, 2005 Share Posted January 7, 2005 I have a few weird memories from my early childhood which have only surfaced in the past 5 years or so (I'm 26 now). These memories are vague but sexual in nature. I've always been very weird about sex/very curious since I was a little girl. I have a lot of problems with trust, especially with my husband. I was very promiscuous when I was 18. All of these things lead me to believe I may have been abused, but I have no specific memories. I would guess it was a one time thing but I don't know. How do I pursue this and is it even worth pursuing? I am in counseling for anxiety and depression also, but she hasn't offerred me much help with this particular situation. Any suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
Pocky Posted January 7, 2005 Share Posted January 7, 2005 I think you should see a therapist. Talk to a professional. While I can certainly give my opinion it won't account for much because I'm not a trained professional. Abuse is a serious issue and shouldn't be approached carelessly. Link to post Share on other sites
einahpets Posted January 7, 2005 Share Posted January 7, 2005 i would talk to someone, if you were abused it is worth pursuing. but i would not jump to the conclusion that you were sexually abused. our sexuality starts young. i can remember certain things in my childhood that have made me the sexual being i am today. even things such as spanking a child can lead them to enjoy such things as an adult. it doesn't mean they were abused. you weren't specific with what you may have remembered or how you were "weird" sexually. it makes me think that you are jumping to conclusions rather quickly, for there is nothing in your post to make me think you were. but i am sure there is more to the story than i know. it is worth checking out. for if you were abused you need help to heal, and if you weren't you can put your mind to rest. good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Pocky Posted January 7, 2005 Share Posted January 7, 2005 i can remember certain things in my childhood that have made me the sexual being i am today. even things such as spanking a child can lead them to enjoy such things as an adult. it doesn't mean they were abused. Hell, I used to pretend I was a stripper when I was around five years old. My father used to catch me in the closet dancing with my shirt off and my pants around my ankles. He would be so furious! And I was never sexually abused... Link to post Share on other sites
einahpets Posted January 7, 2005 Share Posted January 7, 2005 exactly! i am not making light of your situation...i'm just saying make sure what the situation really is before you start cutting people out of your life or accusing them of abuse. you may have been abused (we need more info) but make very sure that you know the truth before you make such a serious claim. Link to post Share on other sites
Author marie337 Posted January 7, 2005 Author Share Posted January 7, 2005 OKay here are my weird memories from some age that I'm not sure of but very young. I remember finding a box of condoms. I always had this image of the front of a trojan box (sunset and sillouhettes) in my head throughout my childhood but didn't know why. Now I remember finding a box and asking someone what it was. My next memory is of someone approaching me in a dark room and saying that they were going to show me what those things were used for. I have no idea who it was or where it happened. My weird sexual childhood included laying naked in bed when I was about 7 with a boy and trying to figure out how it worked. I guess maybe that is normal. Is there a way that you can tell physically as a grown woman if anything happened "down there" when you were young? Link to post Share on other sites
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