mixwell Posted January 7, 2005 Share Posted January 7, 2005 Now that I have read this post it brings questions about my situation doing NC. Quick story for the 32432432th time. Im 21 and i was with my ex for 7 years. I moved out of state without her. She broke up with me (thinking I would never come back). I now am back and we still aren't together. This move tore her up inside and left her on her own. She is still hurt and pissed off. She says she doesnt want anything right now. Obviously because she was hurt and doesn't know if she can trust me. Ive let her down deeply i was sorry and i want to help her out. Her being a bitch to me is (in my mind) her way of defending herself. Ive had 2133213 people say don't call her but now that I read this post it brings question as to if NC is the best way in my situation. See my ex might act the way she does because A. She wants revenge on me and its her turn to hurt me. B. She is protecting herself from being hurt again. I am still not sure what her motive is. So NC for "A" would be good for obvious reasons. NC for "B" wouldn't because it might show to her that I don't care about her and I'm not willing to work it out and PROVE to her that I want to be with her. But in either case I have stated my feelings for her. So any insight on this ? I have been doing NC but since reading this post it has opened a new perspective on things. So what do you all think ? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 7, 2005 Share Posted January 7, 2005 Originally posted by mixwell I moved out of state without her. She broke up with me (thinking I would never come back). I now am back and we still aren't together. Ive had 2133213 people say don't call her but now that I read this post it brings question as to if NC is the best way in my situation. See my ex might act the way she does because A. She wants revenge on me and its her turn to hurt me. B. She is protecting herself from being hurt again. I am still not sure what her motive is. So NC for "A" would be good for obvious reasons. NC for "B" wouldn't because it might show to her that I don't care about her and I'm not willing to work it out and PROVE to her that I want to be with her Here is the be all and end all of your situation MIXWELL: If you are 100% sure that she broke up with you because you were moving out of state and that was the main reason AND she tried her darndest to keep you from going....then the answer is B. What you should implement is TNC, which is Temporary No Contact. Then after a period of time send her a dozen red roses with a note that says "I miss you...signed MIXWELL" and sit back and see what happens. good luck Link to post Share on other sites
mixwell Posted January 7, 2005 Share Posted January 7, 2005 haha alpha i for sure thought you were going to bitch me out, after responding to my post yesterday about the txt msgs and now this post.. haha. Seriously though the ONLY reason was because I moved away. For a short while though she was going to move back when I did. However I wasn't sure if that were a good idea so I told her so. If I were to stay out here or her move back there we would still be together. It seems like sometimes she shows she cares about me but then other times she acts like a bitch. Women ! I will take your advice Alpa i swear to alla. I will not contact her for a week or 2 and I will send her flowers saying the following. This is cheezy, I read it on some dating website and it was someones quote. "To the world you might be only 1 person, but to 1 person you might be the world" How lame is that ? But i think it will get to her. haha Link to post Share on other sites
DinNJ Posted January 7, 2005 Share Posted January 7, 2005 a simple "I'm thinking of you..." might do bro.... AHHHHH!! Don't listen to me... I was a "point&click" away from making another sorry sappy move today. Oh why can't Pamela Anderson just MOVE next door to me??? That would takes things off my mind. Link to post Share on other sites
mixwell Posted January 8, 2005 Share Posted January 8, 2005 hey DinNJ when you get a chance post yer shiz on here. maybe we can help you out some bro. Link to post Share on other sites
DinNJ Posted January 8, 2005 Share Posted January 8, 2005 I think I'd rather throw myself, head first out the second floor window.... Trying to get alpha to come up with some strategy for winning this one over.... but it doesn't look good for me..... she's unbreakable... a "Bull" if you will. I sent you the story to your pm messages... Link to post Share on other sites
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