liloldlady Posted January 1, 2014 Share Posted January 1, 2014 I always heard it's not if you get caught, it's when. I see this on my LinkedIn page, and it gave me the creeps (recently viewed): Manager at Goodwill Industries of Southeastern Wisconsin, Inc. Yesterday That person my friend whom I've been seeing lives with is from that region. Someone in University of California, Los Angeles in the Hospital & Health Care industry Yesterday That's the industry she works in. (I need to be prepared, just in case; that's why I know these two things about that person. I have since immediately removed my office information from LinkedIn!) Link to post Share on other sites
lilmisscantbewrong Posted January 1, 2014 Share Posted January 1, 2014 I always heard it's not if you get caught, it's when. I see this on my LinkedIn page, and it gave me the creeps (recently viewed): That person my friend whom I've been seeing lives with is from that region. That's the industry she works in. (I need to be prepared, just in case; that's why I know these two things about that person. I have since immediately removed my office information from LinkedIn!) If you click on it it should give you a list of people in that industry and you can narrow it down. But, yeah, my guess is someone is looking for information. Be prepared. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted January 1, 2014 Share Posted January 1, 2014 Since your R has started you've been worrying about dday. It seems like sooner or later it will happen. In my own case, to be honest, it was never a huge concern and no dday ever did occur. However, in your case, you have made several references to ddays so trust your gut, probably means that it might be on the horizon for you. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted January 1, 2014 Share Posted January 1, 2014 I always heard it's not if you get caught, it's when. I see this on my LinkedIn page, and it gave me the creeps (recently viewed): That person my friend whom I've been seeing lives with is from that region. That's the industry she works in. (I need to be prepared, just in case; that's why I know these two things about that person. I have since immediately removed my office information from LinkedIn!) Yes I've had this before. It scared the bejeezus out of me. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
flowingmane Posted January 1, 2014 Share Posted January 1, 2014 One heads up - LinkedIn software can do some sneaky things. I have seen it link me to ex wife of a guy I previously dated as "someone you might know" although there was no reason to do so. Realized the algorithm can pull things from who you look at, where you work, and your address book on your PC to make connections. It's creepy. So you might show up on BS's page if you are connected to your MM. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author liloldlady Posted January 1, 2014 Author Share Posted January 1, 2014 you might show up on BS's page if you are connected to your MM. That's more likely to happen on Facebook. Link to post Share on other sites
flowingmane Posted January 1, 2014 Share Posted January 1, 2014 That's more likely to happen on Facebook. You'd be surprised. LI has some of the same technology in how they make suggestions for new contacts 2 Link to post Share on other sites
EasternStandard Posted January 1, 2014 Share Posted January 1, 2014 If you click on it it should give you a list of people in that industry and you can narrow it down. But, yeah, my guess is someone is looking for information. Be prepared. How is your partner with covering their tracks? Do they use their cell phone to contact you? Personal email? I think those things are important. Using different email and cell phones are key. Link to post Share on other sites
flowingmane Posted January 2, 2014 Share Posted January 2, 2014 How is your partner with covering their tracks? Do they use their cell phone to contact you? Personal email? I think those things are important. Using different email and cell phones are key. And don't bill the other phone to your home account. Knew someone who did this... Link to post Share on other sites
Author liloldlady Posted January 2, 2014 Author Share Posted January 2, 2014 How is your partner with covering their tracks? Do they use their cell phone to contact you? Yes. Personal email? Rarely. And I noticed this: he tends to return my emails with a call. So I keep emails strictly business. There's only one computer in their apartment. Link to post Share on other sites
BrokenPrincess Posted January 2, 2014 Share Posted January 2, 2014 One heads up - LinkedIn software can do some sneaky things. I have seen it link me to ex wife of a guy I previously dated as "someone you might know" although there was no reason to do so. Realized the algorithm can pull things from who you look at, where you work, and your address book on your PC to make connections. It's creepy. So you might show up on BS's page if you are connected to your MM. Yes I just got back on there this year and was shocked at how big it's gotten & seemingly more sophisticated! It right away listed a suggestion of a guy I knew fairly well from elementary thru high school and it really shocked me. I do not have his email address of phone # in my contacts, there's no mention of school before college on either of our profiles (and we went to different colleges), no hometowns, we live on different coasts, totally different fields, degrees, companies, professional groups etc We don't even have ANY people connections in our network. How did it know?!?? Luckily my xMM and W are not even on LI because that's definitely not the place to go if you want to lurk anonymously! Link to post Share on other sites
Author liloldlady Posted January 2, 2014 Author Share Posted January 2, 2014 Luckily my xMM and W are not even on LI because that's definitely not the place to go if you want to lurk anonymously! LOL! Seriously. Hahahaha. My friend doesn't use it. LinkedIn suggested some profile that suggested it's him, but I think they just got that from combing my address book and in turn hoping to enable to suggest to him that he join LinkedIn. But my true love is my contact on LinkedIn (twice) and he knows the person I suspect failed at an anonymous lurk(s). I've never combed his contacts to see if she's there. I'm over it. Documented and thusly moving on... Link to post Share on other sites
solostand Posted January 2, 2014 Share Posted January 2, 2014 One day I discovered my ex mm's ADULT SON had viewed my profile on linkedin. I don't know him, never met him (except one day he saw me and his dad together at the beach) and can only assume he was lurking for a reason. Also, eMM's adult daughter told him "Mom thinks you have a girlfriend". Now there are lots of anonymous checks on linkedin. Link to post Share on other sites
Speakingofwhich Posted January 2, 2014 Share Posted January 2, 2014 One day I discovered my ex mm's ADULT SON had viewed my profile on linkedin. I don't know him, never met him (except one day he saw me and his dad together at the beach) and can only assume he was lurking for a reason. Also, eMM's adult daughter told him "Mom thinks you have a girlfriend". Now there are lots of anonymous checks on linkedin. Solo, why don't you post for an update? Have wondered how you are and planned to track down one of your threads to post on to inquire. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author liloldlady Posted January 2, 2014 Author Share Posted January 2, 2014 One day I discovered my ex mm's ADULT SON had viewed my profile on linkedin. I don't know him, never met him (except one day he saw me and his dad together at the beach) and can only assume he was lurking for a reason. Also, eMM's adult daughter told him "Mom thinks you have a girlfriend". Creepy! Gotta watch out for the kids. From what I understand, my friend also lives with this ladies' two grown kids (male & female). Sounds like they're kinda bad/lacking ambition. Apparently the female kid resents my friend for rejecting her mom the first time around decades ago. smh Link to post Share on other sites
Author liloldlady Posted January 2, 2014 Author Share Posted January 2, 2014 If you click on it it should give you a list of people in that industry and you can narrow it down. Thanks! I clicked on the first category. It narrowed it down to 7,000. Perhaps I'll scroll through. Link to post Share on other sites
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