Lady2163 Posted January 2, 2014 Share Posted January 2, 2014 That is, if you got caught? I'm the OW and while there hasn't been a dday, there have been some suspicions raised. Mainly when texts have not been deleted or in the beginning when we used his work email rather than a separate email to communicate. It was his habit to leave his work page open at home. Link to post Share on other sites
lilmisscantbewrong Posted January 2, 2014 Share Posted January 2, 2014 That is, if you got caught? I'm the OW and while there hasn't been a dday, there have been some suspicions raised. Mainly when texts have not been deleted or in the beginning when we used his work email rather than a separate email to communicate. It was his habit to leave his work page open at home. Doing exactly what you are doing. And if suspicions are already raised, dday is coming. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
glowing Posted January 2, 2014 Share Posted January 2, 2014 It's coming. No doubt about that. We were caught out in public getting coffee at a tiny, quiet, out of the way, not well known coffee shop together. Someone who knew his wife saw us. It's a much smaller world than you realize. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whatatangledweb Posted January 2, 2014 Share Posted January 2, 2014 I'm not sure if u want to hear from a BS on how I caught them, so I apologize if you didn't. My husband forgot to clear the browser on the home computer. It showed her name and his secret email address. Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted January 2, 2014 Share Posted January 2, 2014 Discussing divorce and then copious amount of emails, travel, etc. of accounts hacked as well as paper copies of phone bills filed in his home office. He did very little hiding so everything was there. Link to post Share on other sites
Speakingofwhich Posted January 2, 2014 Share Posted January 2, 2014 Guilt is a horrible feeling. ^^^^^ Oh, yes. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted January 2, 2014 Share Posted January 2, 2014 It's coming. No doubt about that. We were caught out in public getting coffee at a tiny, quiet, out of the way, not well known coffee shop together. Someone who knew his wife saw us. It's a much smaller world than you realize. The bold is true. You never know who knows who and people are imperfect, so usually no matter how careful, you get careless or simply overlook certain things. In my own case there was no dday (that I knew of). It is possible that she was suspicious or found something out and he just never mentioned it. He had a leg up though because his SO worked out of town and basically lived out of town, and I lived in a different country, so he was essentially in two LDRs and could keep things separate without as much suspicion. Were it a case of her being under the same roof, I am sure there would have probably been a dday. Link to post Share on other sites
megamommy Posted January 3, 2014 Share Posted January 3, 2014 I have and haven't been caught. I am the OW. My ex husband hacked into my facebook and found some messages, I just posted a thread about it, luckily I have the ex believing it was just messages. The married man has no idea, as he won't talk to me at the moment because my ex called him. We both agreed to meticulously delete conversations, call logs, photos, receipts ANYTHING that coudl bust us. Well...I forgot to delete the conversation from the facebook messanger app. Apparently it stores the conversation even if it has been deleted in FB. Also, my ex found the married mans phone number on our call logs. Checking the call logs online. The married man has the same carrier as I do, and apparently it shows the NAME of the person as well as the phone number, which we were both clueless to. MM's wife has had a few little remarks as well, she has mentioned him staying late at work to see his gf, has had dreams of a girl going to visit him while he was working out of state...which I almost did, and she texted him while we were alone in a hotel together, asking him how work was. Which is out of character for her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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