Lonewarrior Posted January 2, 2014 Share Posted January 2, 2014 Hello everyone, I am having a bit of an dilemma trying to figure out why I am doing this and trying to understand her thinking. I have met her 3 months ago through a mutual friend of mine. In short, she has a BF whom she is very in love with going on 4 years now and I knew this before hand. Now I am not the type to do this and I still don't agree with my actions but I can't stop talking to her. I think Maybe because we live a distance away from each other it isn't that bad. This is mainly a emotional relationship as we have not done anything physical yet, although she really wants to. She says she really loves her BF and respects his opinion's about things, yet she is talking to me. I told her that and she says yeah she does feel a little bad about it but idk it doesn't stop her from saying certain things to me minutes later... Can she truly be as in love with her bf as she states? She tells me that from time to time but it truly confuses me. She also said she loved me... I just don't get why she choose to talk to me when she is still in love with her bf. Link to post Share on other sites
BOREDouttaMymind Posted January 2, 2014 Share Posted January 2, 2014 lets do a reality check.. if shes doing this to her bf, what makes you so sure she wouldn't do it to you if you were to ever date her? you have plans of doing something physical with her because you said you haven't 'yet'. be careful. this is one of those 'new fun things' that's going to get old and boring soon after you do anything physical with her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lonewarrior Posted January 2, 2014 Author Share Posted January 2, 2014 Hmmm, I don't know she tells me she isn't really that sexually attracted to him. But at the same time she says she values him the most in the world and would marry him whenever the time comes. I asked her that flat out and she reassured me, says she would never do that to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lonewarrior Posted January 3, 2014 Author Share Posted January 3, 2014 While we were talking today she says it feels as if I am holding back. She wants me to go all out with her and I believe I will do just that. I just don't think its fair I am thinking what will happen if he finds out? My 100% may be meaningless then. Its just hard to avoid her because we have a lot in common. Link to post Share on other sites
chelsea2011 Posted January 3, 2014 Share Posted January 3, 2014 While we were talking today she says it feels as if I am holding back. She wants me to go all out with her and I believe I will do just that. I just don't think its fair I am thinking what will happen if he finds out? My 100% may be meaningless then. Its just hard to avoid her because we have a lot in common. Good reason to hold back. Why would someone invest 100% under those circumstances? I think it would be hard to give "all" to someone who is not only attached to someone else, but would drop you flat the moment trouble hits. Not a good gamble for your heart. Ouch. Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted January 3, 2014 Share Posted January 3, 2014 Can she truly be as in love with her bf as she states? She tells me that from time to time but it truly confuses me. She also said she loved me... I just don't get why she choose to talk to me when she is still in love with her bf. I can not love two people at once. I can like (a lot!) two people at once though. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lonewarrior Posted January 3, 2014 Author Share Posted January 3, 2014 Good reason to hold back. Why would someone invest 100% under those circumstances? I think it would be hard to give "all" to someone who is not only attached to someone else, but would drop you flat the moment trouble hits. Not a good gamble for your heart. Ouch. Yes, that is what I told her as well said it wouldn't be fair. She tells me she won't hold back on me either and that we should take things a step at a time. Funny thing is in the beginning she told me to promise I won't fall in love with her, yet she told me she loved me first. And yeah Popsicle, I don't think I am capable of that either which is why I am trying to understand her. Link to post Share on other sites
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