MsOptimist Posted January 6, 2014 Share Posted January 6, 2014 So glad to hear your meeting went well today and you got some things in place - I was sorry to hear that things took a wrong turn from your healing process, but it sounds like you have a handle on things. And yes, it can always be worse. Rooting for you!! Have a great week! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shocked Suzie Posted January 7, 2014 Author Share Posted January 7, 2014 So glad to hear your meeting went well today and you got some things in place - I was sorry to hear that things took a wrong turn from your healing process, but it sounds like you have a handle on things. And yes, it can always be worse. Rooting for you!! Have a great week! Thanks and hope your doing well too, I think 'mentally' I though the new year would be MY real fresh start... Divorce underway (I mean in the correct way) not like this. He has thrown such a huge curve ball that it just set me back... I also think that as it's not in my nature to be cold/heartless, I find all this so hard to grasp... Probably never will and probably really should stop trying! My mind just wanders sometimes ... Just wanted this all to get sorted so I can totally move forward and focus on me... It will come Xxx hope u r well MsO 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shocked Suzie Posted January 9, 2014 Author Share Posted January 9, 2014 Had the best night sleep last night that I've had for a while, my jaw and now whole body tension was driving me mad, didn't realise how much it was also effecting my overall sleep. Went to my GP yesterday and got a mild Valium and advise me to try valerian forte... Feel rested this morning. I also remembered something from my counseling session a while back, that the body and mind can revisit trauma, she said that as it was in December/January it all happened it can resurface a year later.... Has anyone experienced this?? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
RightThere Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 I also remembered something from my counseling session a while back, that the body and mind can revisit trauma, she said that as it was in December/January it all happened it can resurface a year later.... Has anyone experienced this?? I have suffered from panic attacks in the past. I know sometimes if I think about the divorce or the affairs too much, I start to trigger and know I'm falling into a panic attack. Feels like I'm revisiting the trauma of D-Day and the days after. But definitely not as intense. Or else I'm used to those specific feelings more now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shocked Suzie Posted January 9, 2014 Author Share Posted January 9, 2014 I have suffered from panic attacks in the past. I know sometimes if I think about the divorce or the affairs too much, I start to trigger and know I'm falling into a panic attack. Feels like I'm revisiting the trauma of D-Day and the days after. But definitely not as intense. Or else I'm used to those specific feelings more now. Recon you probably learn how to deal with them after a while, as you know they pass soon enough... Those first few are scary! From this experience I've had my first panic attacks, the last big one was my second move into my rental home... Think reality hit home that day. I've had this tension jaw thing a lot in the first 7 months and then it went, since all the above happened it's kicked off big time again...did wonder if it's also the time of year too though. Anyway I'm glad I went to the doctors Hate this journey Link to post Share on other sites
RightThere Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 Recon you probably learn how to deal with them after a while, as you know they pass soon enough... Those first few are scary! I've had them since I was quite young. I didn't know what they were at the time, so as the kept happening I didn't really freak out from them. When I was older I had a few big ones, but knowing what they were, I always handled them until they passed. They are scary. I would have them previously for no reason really. But compound your situation with having a panic attack, it can be paralyzing. Biggest things for me to help with them. Avoid too much caffeine and stress at the same time if you can. And corny as it is, good breathing exercises. Yoga has taught me some great breathing techniques to bring me back to normal very quickly. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shocked Suzie Posted January 10, 2014 Author Share Posted January 10, 2014 Biggest things for me to help with them. Avoid too much caffeine and stress at the same time if you can. And corny as it is, good breathing exercises. Yoga has taught me some great breathing techniques to bring me back to normal very quickly. I was going yoga it really helped and highlighted I don't breath properly, with all this going on I've let it slip... The gym joining does yoga classes and a huge pool so will make time to start it up again. Was thinking about caffeine too, I usually have 2 teas and at times 2-3 coffees a day recently so will cut those back too. Thanks SS x 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shocked Suzie Posted January 11, 2014 Author Share Posted January 11, 2014 This is so frustrating!! I feel as flat as since the new year... Have done so well last year considering everything, all this recent stuff seems to have just left me so low. Missing my family in the UK heaps and it's really bothering me that my ex seems to have found complete happiness..even tells his kids this (he only sees then few hours a week) how does he think that makes them feel when he says that. All just seems so unfair how a person can behave this way, do what he is doing, build a relationship on poor foundations and fall on their feet I dunno just having a really crap day today, finding it hard to snap out of this Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shocked Suzie Posted January 18, 2014 Author Share Posted January 18, 2014 (edited) Quick update, been pretty busy...Feeling much better, the trip to the doctor helped and my sleep is now rested. Although advised I'm more than capable to represent myself at my divorce hearing, I've decided to bite the bullet and pay for representation...I don't want to think about all this up until the D'hearing , I feel a weight has been lifted, been able to relax and focus on finding a new job... Also finish a short course I've enrolled in. Feel ok considering the ex is sitting on a beach on his fake honeymoon, they went ahead with the planned wedding as a commitment ceremony due to his lack of divorce papers. How mad this path is, imagine a screen shot of a fast forward of all this just before your own wedding day... So unreal what people are capable of! So much has happened in 1 year! My kids are settled... Legal stuff is over soon... I've changed my email address, zero contact, unless he knocks on my front door 'which he won't cause he's a coward'. Just gonna face the fact that I'm on my own financially until the Child support agency pull their finger out! Not much else I can do really, if he thinks not paying for his kids is ok then that just 100% sums him up. SS x Edited January 18, 2014 by Shocked Suzie Link to post Share on other sites
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