youdunsay Posted January 3, 2014 Share Posted January 3, 2014 My father said "when you get married, I hope I can moved in with you. Hope you can spare me a room". Last time, he used to hope I marry a son-in-law of HIS type (asian, same religion, conservative, etc). He knows I have no interest to follow what he wants but since young he has always imbibed me with religious theories, karma etc. He kept re-emphasizing that I'm the youngest and I would be the most doted. He hopes to retire soon and urge me to get married. If I have kids, he wants to take care of my children. To be honest, I want to get married. But I don't want his type. That's what he wished for, not what I want. I understand he is clingy partly because he's not in good terms with my mum. I know I shouldn't say anymore to oppose him because I'm more afraid of it karma getting to me when I grow old. But his clingyness scares me. I haven't even got a stable career and his happily-retired, perfect-son-in-law dreams is adding stress to my life. Sometimes it got so bad I wonder if I am able to be happily married? Will I get his best wishes if I ever get to walk to the alter? Does he sincerely, really care about me, my wishes? Sometimes I wonder if I am born to this world to clear debts? My mum is more independent and never have any problems to what I want to do. What are your views on this? Link to post Share on other sites
mammasita Posted January 3, 2014 Share Posted January 3, 2014 I've never been one to live my life to make my parents happy so my advice to you is to live your life for YOU. Do with that as you will. Link to post Share on other sites
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