please help me get her back!!!!

[joker]

well its my first time posting here but anyways, me and my ex broke up on december 12th because she told me that she started having feeling for another guy so it was a mutual agreement to break up and everything was fine and it didnt seem like anything had changed between us at school( im 17 shes 16) and then on the 17 at my friends christmas party she came with me and everything was exactly how it was supposed to be we were cuddling and holding hands then she had made plans to meet her friends at the bowling alley because one of them was leaving the next day and i drove her there and on the way there she said that one of her friends is bringing this guy and my ex didnt know who this guy was.

 

at around 12:30 i went to pick her up and the drive home she was silent untill i asked who the guy was and then she said that she wanted to wait untill the car had stopped before she told so by that time my heart was in my throat. so we stoped infront of her house and she looked over to me and told me that the guy that she broke up with me for was the guy and that he asked her out and she said yes(and i was not as mad as u would think more depressed) and so then we moved inside to talk somemore and i ended up staying at her house untill around 3:30 in the morning and we had everything figgured out and that she just needs to see whats going on with this guy and that she thinks that it should be done before feb.1.

 

and then i started coming over to her house for the rest of the weekend where we were still kissing and and everything but then on the sunday all the way up untill jan.1 we had took our relationship to another step of her giving me a BJ so that was great and she was like im so sorry for going out with him and everything and she never told him about what we had done the whole christmas break and then on jan.3 we went back to school and i went over to her house to pick up a pair of shoes that i forgot when i was at her house on the saturday.

 

From the tuesday untill wednesday i was sick so i wasnt at school and we were still talking on the phone and she was tellin me that it is very weird to be with him and she had hit him on wednesday when he put his arm around her lol anyways they havnt kissed yet and they havnt seen eachother outside of school cause her parents wont let her because they really like me lol.

 

on thursday i was aat school all day and at lunch i come and sit with her and her friends around the middle of lunch but on thursday i didnt show up because i had been told by a teacher to come do homework with him so i did and then l8er that night i was talking on the phone and she was like where were u at lunch today and i told her and she was like o cause i swear that ur mad at me and i kept on saying that i was not matter and she just kept on saying how that actions speak louder than words and then all of a sudden she was like my throat hurts bye and hung up in my ear.

 

Today at school i saw her at our locker and she only said hi to me and then i closed the locker and she was already leaving and i just walked beside her and she never said a word and then where i leave to get lunch i said bye to her and she didnt say anything and that pissed me off and got me all depressed and then i came back to see her at lunch just so she would see that it maybe didnt hurt me but then what the last thing that i wanted to see while she was going out with this other guy was i walk in and they are sitting on trwo seperate desks but beside each other and he had his arm around her and was holding her hand and she looked really uncomfortable and the the dumba** decides to make jokes with me and when they held hands it wasnt actual holding hands with like fingers grasping in between and stuff it was more his hand in hers it was like they were friends holding hands.

 

so what i want to know is what to do to get her back and not think that i am mad at her. she can be very sarcastic at times so maybe that was why she thinks that im made at her. i want to get back with her because i love her so much she is all i can think about and the whole thing of with them going out for two days and she cheated on him with me was that a big mistake on my part. i also told her that after the whole christmas break was over that we couldnt make out anymore because they never talked during chritmas break so they wernt really a couple lol and so i just realy need alot of help please!!!!!!

[Groovy]

Let me ask, was this your first sexual experience? I am asking only because I know the first person I got involved with sexually was hard to recover from. I know for men it can be that way too, whether they admit it or not. And you are pretty young so I thought it may be.

 

I know this is not what you want to hear, but a relationship (of any kind) takes two. No matter how much you love her, you are only half of the ingredients for success. She is not there to reciprocate and put in her part. She may have genuinely liked you at some time but some people at you age can be pretty confused about what they want, though not everyone.

 

It would be up to you if you want to tell her you don't understand why it's a big problem you missed lunch with her, but you do know your sorry you upset her and care about her.

 

Keep in mind though she may be making excuses to leave you without feeling guilt by making you out to be a deserving bad guy (...who did nothing so bad after all).

 

If it doesn't work out with her be with someone else who wants your attention, focus, charm and appreciates what you do. You sound like a great guy.

[mixwell]

just be honest with her. Ask her why she's hooking up with you and giving you a BJ when shes with the other guy ? I mean seriously it doesn't make sense. Is this the 1st chick that has given you a Bj and are you the 1st guy shes given a BJ to ? If soo thats weird. My ex right now is the 1st chick i did everything with. ive been with her for like 7 years (im 21) I was with her since 8th grade summer !! haha. anyways I dont know. Basically its like you two are together and what not but yet she is going out with this lame o. My advice would be to get as much action as you can from her. haha j/k. Just ask her what the deal is with the two of you. tell her you'd like to see how things go and you'd like to continue a relationship with her. But the previous post is true. You cannot make someone love you no matter what. that is going to be up to her if she wants a relationship with you or not.. I know it sucks. Im in the same boat except my ex isnt going out with anyone but i still cannot understand after 7 years how we aren't together.

 

Hope this helps.