trudiefrudie Posted January 4, 2014 Share Posted January 4, 2014 I have been to a pain clinic 3 times in 3 years. It is far away and I have to fly to go there. The first time I ever went there, I flirted w/the doctor thinking he'd just think "oh yah, she thinks I'm hot", and then do my assessment and that would be that. But he flirted strong back which took me off guard and certainly taught me why you shouldn't flirt with your doctor - he's a specialist and I need his help. He winked a ton, tapped my leg a couple of times with his fingers when he was making a point, mentioned how I was "alone in a strange country". Stuff like that. I hadn't been there in 2 years and just went back in Oct. I had actually considered finding another place to go, but decided to sleep on it a few nights and see how I felt and I didn't seem to think it was a big deal at all. When I arrived at the clinic and he came in the consult room, he said "I remember you now, you have a nice voice". I said "you remember my voice"? He said yes, that it was nice and calm. Well we did our consult and he was overall professional and I felt relieved about that. But when I sat beside him at the computer to show him on google images which ligaments were causing pain for me and where exactly, he put his hand on my thigh a few times when he was making a point again. It didn't feel "seedy" though so maybe he really was just making a point, i just don't know. When he went to get the ultrasound machine, he came back and made a suggestion of a great place to eat close by (for myself as I am out of town). When we finished up for the day, the nurse handed me the restaurant address he suggested and he must have discussed it with her b/c she was not in the room. The next day, although I was lying on a table for injections, he was, I think, flirting. He said "what do you have a death grip on the table for"?! "Come on! It's not that bad"! And squeezed my elbow twice when he walked by. He asked if I went to the restaurant he recommended. Asked what books I was reading, etc. I got dressed after and when I went to pay he walked by so I thanked him again and he winked at me. So I smiled and then he smiled back. The last day, there wasn't a lot of conversation. But I needed a few more injections (this time on my neck) and the blatant thing is, when he finished, I looked up and he took a peak at my chest. Then he smiled and put his hand out for me to shake it. And that was that! This guy is in a relationship with someone because my first day he asked me exactly where up north I live and when i told him, he said his girlfriend was originally from there. It sounds like she's a doctor or medical professional... I know this doctor doesn't likely respect me or he wouldn't flirt. And I do question if he is being as thorough with me as he is too busy flirting. So I do plan to find another clinic to go to in future. But I still want your input because I am confused. Was he flirting? What the heck?! Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted January 4, 2014 Share Posted January 4, 2014 I think you are reading into it. I just married a doctor and 99.9% would not risk their medical license by flirting with a patient. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted January 4, 2014 Share Posted January 4, 2014 But I still want your input because I am confused. Was he flirting? What the heck?! Depending on your/his cultural norms, what you describe could be perfectly acceptable and 'innocent' flirtation which goes on everyday in the world. I know I've experienced such with married women all my life. It's normal. For the vast majority, it's a fun way to pass time and, in your case, it made your pain treatment visit apparently a bit more enjoyable than perhaps a cold, clinical demeanor, even if a bit confusing. People can multi-task and doctors are usually pretty intelligent and have no issues being competent in their work and still being socially engaging. IMO, if the treatment has been successful and the overall clinic experience positive, I wouldn't abandon the place for one doctor's 'friendliness'. Link to post Share on other sites
Speakingofwhich Posted January 4, 2014 Share Posted January 4, 2014 Some people are just very warm types so idk. Are you trying to figure it out so that you don't have to look for a new place? Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted January 4, 2014 Share Posted January 4, 2014 My doctor has nailed a lot of his patients. When I was laid up in the hospital he tried to make a move on me when I was high on anesthesia. Doctors get horny too... Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted January 4, 2014 Share Posted January 4, 2014 I find the combination of these two statements a little bit mystifying: The first time I ever went there, I flirted w/the doctor... I know this doctor doesn't likely respect me or he wouldn't flirt. Does that mean, then, that you didn't respect him? Do you believe that he should be prevented, by his profession, from flirting back with you? By the cultural norms of my own region of the world, that's called being "a tease." Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 4, 2014 Share Posted January 4, 2014 Some people are flirty. I don't think that anything he said was particularly flirty or in anyway inappropriate. You are over-reading it. Link to post Share on other sites
ae86drift Posted January 12, 2014 Share Posted January 12, 2014 well you are flirting too actually, so what's the point? LOL Link to post Share on other sites
mrs rubble Posted January 12, 2014 Share Posted January 12, 2014 Ummmm you started the flirting!(hoping that he'd think you're hot!!! WTH) It doesn't sound to me like he wants to jump your bones based on your description of events, he sounds friendly and porfessional. I'd suggest you find a female specialist.....(unless you want to try some same sex flirting) and go for the treatment rather than the ego boost. Link to post Share on other sites
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