Contact, Confusion and Coincedences.

[Pendawn]

Okay so after 3 weeks of NC, with me telling him not to conact me till I contacted him. I emailed him last night.

 

Basically said that if he wanted to talk about us, I'd be there becuase I still want to know why we broke up. Also if he had reconsidered, what I would want (ie commitment and him to be sure).

 

Also said if he had decided the break up was for the best I was okay with that and wanted to be friends but it would take some time. And laid out why we couldn't have the friendship HE wanted.

 

Ended up by saying let me know how you are.

 

So today I kept checking email etc, then tonight he pinged me on IM. And we talked for about 40 mins but just catching up stuff, how was Christmas etc. Asking about family and friends.

 

I asked him if he got my email he said yes then changed the subject. Then later I asked him if he had a new girlfriend yet...and nothing. He sent me a text saying his line had dropped and he couldn't get reconnected.

 

Coincedence? I think not. I said okay, whatever and he text back "okay I'll speak to you soon."

 

It's left me frustrated and annoyed. Becuase it's the first time I've talked to him and not cried (go me!) and I think I could handle whatever he wants to say to me. But avoiding talking about is is just driving me MAD!

Talking about movies while there's this huge pink elephant in the conversation.

 

Of course I realise there comes a point where we will have to chat and not talk about "us" but I just didn't think that time was yet as a week ago he was telling friends he was still unsure.

 

I just wish he could honestly and openly express what exactly has gone on and where he is emotionally now so I could get that dreaded word CLOSURE!

[moon]

Reading through your post is like a case in point why I will not call my ex again. One of these silly little misunderstanding is not something I want to go looking for. It just opens up old wounds. That's horrible that he cut you off basically when you asked about his current dating life. I am sure he didn't want to hurt you, but the way he did it makes it pretty obvious that he's dating somebody. Do you really want to know about this? I would cut off all contact. It's just going to cause you more hurt. Why worry about the "friendship." It doesn't sound like you are ready to be friends.

 

If he does make a real effort to get in touch with you one day and he's single.......then maybe you can iron things out or decide why things went wrong. But it seems like he's just going to give you the run around now. Do you want that? Cut you losses now and don't call him back. If you really need to contact him to get closure try e-mail.