Author haggard969 Posted January 5, 2014 Author Share Posted January 5, 2014 things may n may not though , im taking things slow, were together , but not official. because i said i wasnt ready yet, no relationship is perfect, i guess you could call my relationship wabi-sabi the japanese art of imperfections are what make perfections Link to post Share on other sites
pickflicker Posted January 5, 2014 Share Posted January 5, 2014 things may n may not though , im taking things slow, were together , but not official. because i said i wasnt ready yet, no relationship is perfect, i guess you could call my relationship wabi-sabi the japanese art of imperfections are what make perfections Together is official. Call a spade a spade. There's nothing philosophical here, it's just 2 people who have a whole bucketload of issues, piling them together and hoping that fixes them. Link to post Share on other sites
barky2 Posted January 5, 2014 Share Posted January 5, 2014 man clearly alot of you who are unsupportive are just pissed off for some reason, im just posting what happend if you dont want to hear it then dont read it, no one forced you too Hold up. Bite your tongue, hold your fingers. First off, what I'm saying bro is a glimpse into the future ( not 100% but I'd say 99.9%) I'm not bitter, or unsupportive about anything. I'm a stranger who's observing your situation from a distance and giving my two cents. Don't flip out on anyone here giving their opinion. You wrote it, bc u wanted it. You don't understand, we all want the best for you. But like I said in my initial thread is that, right now you're the knight in shining armor. That **** wears off. Then what? Then you fall back into the same routine. Then he gets out of jail and they have contact. Refer to my first post on the rest. So watch ur lip before u bug on everyone. We including myself, want you to open your eyes and see what this crap is. Oh you slept with people during the breakup? Great so did I. Did I grow while we were broken up? Yes I sure did. Guess what. My ex didn't. She was with someone else. Your ex didn't either. You grew, she didn't. She ran to you for COMFORT And familiarity!!! It'll wear off and you'll be right back to where you were. Open your freakin eyes dude. Your a saving grace. If she loved you or wanted to be with you FIRST, she wouldn't have had her ass kicked by some loser ****bag. She woulda been with you the whole time. You my friend, are second best. With all due respect. Barky 8 Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted January 5, 2014 Share Posted January 5, 2014 (edited) lol. if everyone new the place i came from. i live in the land of drugs and alchohal, and id said im doing pretty good avoiding all of that, i pulled my self and my gf out of a harderlife then i live now, and im a man, i can do it again, im not the type to give up This is going nowhere. Edited January 5, 2014 by ConfusedHumanBeing 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TylerDurdenn Posted January 5, 2014 Share Posted January 5, 2014 lol. if everyone new the place i came from. i live in the land of drugs and alchohal, and id said im doing pretty good avoiding all of that, i pulled my self and my gf out of a harderlife then i live now, and im a man, i can do it again, im not the type to give up Where do you come from? How easy is to migrate there? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author haggard969 Posted January 5, 2014 Author Share Posted January 5, 2014 trust me you dont want to come here, a city of 300000, small enough where everyone knows everyone, nothing to do but drink. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted January 5, 2014 Share Posted January 5, 2014 like is said before, sometimes two dysfunctions make a functional.( two negatives equal a posative) If its meant to be it will be if not, then its not, im not god. ive tried to lead my life in the same direction hundreds of times. but i always seem to get pointed in another, my life path is random and it is uncontrolable This is one of the most absurd things I've ever read. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted January 5, 2014 Share Posted January 5, 2014 trust me you dont want to come here, a city of 300000, small enough where everyone knows everyone, nothing to do but drink. A 300,000-person city is not small. You basically live in Pittsburgh. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpybutfun Posted January 6, 2014 Share Posted January 6, 2014 OP How are you? Seriously, how are you doing? You seem to be lost in the euphoric and haven't really determined if this is really a good situation for you. You think you have won something but you seem wounded because you know that you are just getting the cast offs from someone. Being a knight isn't always healthy. You deserve someone who loves you for you and doesn't need this drama. Best, G 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Fangorn Posted January 6, 2014 Share Posted January 6, 2014 Matey has deluded himself into thinking he and this lady are special and pulled the "I'm a badass gangsta" card. Brother, a city of 300,000 is not the 'Land of Drugs', if there is nothing to do but drink you are not looking hard enough, you are not a hero, nothing about this situation is special. You are a regular joe wih delusions of grandeur. Everyone here is united in telling you that this situation is bad news and will only end in heartbreak and suffering. If you choose not to listen, then stop reading and stop trying to qualify yourself on an online forum. If you do choose to listen, then listen and understand what everyone is saying and stop trying to justify a broken relationship. Either sign off or move on. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted January 6, 2014 Share Posted January 6, 2014 like is said before, sometimes two dysfunctions make a functional.( two negatives equal a posative) If its meant to be it will be if not, then its not, im not god. ive tried to lead my life in the same direction hundreds of times. but i always seem to get pointed in another, my life path is random and it is uncontrolable http://www.avforums.com/attachments/not-sure-if-serious-400x179-jpg.305582/ Link to post Share on other sites
Kopite Posted January 6, 2014 Share Posted January 6, 2014 Some on here actually have real concerns for the OP. Others just seem to be taking enjoyment from telling the OP that he is wrong and he will fail. Some people need to get a grip. Jeez. Stop being so bitter. Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted January 6, 2014 Share Posted January 6, 2014 (edited) Some on here actually have real concerns for the OP. Others just seem to be taking enjoyment from telling the OP that he is wrong and he will fail. Some people need to get a grip. Jeez. Stop being so bitter. Some on here have been helping the OP with this situation for MONTHS. SOME of us just signed up a little over two weeks ago. See where I'm getting at? And to clarify, NO one is taking enjoyment. How is 100 people telling him the truth and someone being so stubborn to not listen to anything enjoyment? By those standards, the DMV is the new Disneyland. Edited January 6, 2014 by ConfusedHumanBeing 10 Link to post Share on other sites
barky2 Posted January 6, 2014 Share Posted January 6, 2014 Some on here actually have real concerns for the OP. Others just seem to be taking enjoyment from telling the OP that he is wrong and he will fail. Some people need to get a grip. Jeez. Stop being so bitter. I have zero enjoyment from this. If you cannot see that I truly care of ops well being than you my friend need to take the step back. This is the last time I'll be posting on this thread and or for any thread for haggard. Good luck. Barky 3 Link to post Share on other sites
AlphaC Posted January 6, 2014 Share Posted January 6, 2014 yea i duno. hes in jail. i guess hes been beating her fora while now. im not concerned if she leaves me or not. i mainly posted this post to show heartbroken ppl that people do get back together when it seems impossible. i tried to type somthing that i was once looking to read when i was smashed to pieces. i hope it helped some people on here. weather me n my gf are sucessful or not Dude, he's in jail, you need to bail him out so your ex/gf, or whatever you call her, can go back to him. The only advice I will take from this story is the part about moving on, accepting and letting go. When you get your life back, you become the confident person you were when you attracted your ex. Once you heal you need to move forward, life is too short my man. I would have loved to read that you changed your number and got her arrested for stalking you, not that you took her back, JEEZ!! Link to post Share on other sites
LovelyDaze Posted January 6, 2014 Share Posted January 6, 2014 Some on here actually have real concerns for the OP. Others just seem to be taking enjoyment from telling the OP that he is wrong and he will fail. Some people need to get a grip. Jeez. Stop being so bitter. I honestly thought everyone was just being honest(?). It may not be what haggard WANTS to here but most of the things said needs to be said. I was seeing LS members trying to keep haggard from continuing to stay in a broken relationship. Just my opinion... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted January 6, 2014 Share Posted January 6, 2014 Haggard mate, listen to the advice here. No one is laughing at you but the outcome is obvious. Maybe later then sooner. But i would curb the old drinking and maybe switch to something a bit softer? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Canadiangirl78 Posted January 6, 2014 Share Posted January 6, 2014 I don't think anyone who has given their opinion here is out to get the OP or bitter. I don't think they are saying that reconciliation is not possible, they have simply been pointing out that with the OP's specific circumstances that it is unlikely in this situation. I have said this many many times, LS is a great place because of the different points of view, experiences and wisdom being shared. Just because many people are pointing out that this reconciliation has a slim chance of working doesn't equate being bitter or uncaring, it's just fact that an outsider looking in most times has a better view of the situation. I am someone who has hope for everyone here that things turn out as they want with their exes, but in many situations it is crystal clear that the happily ever after is just not possible. A lot of work needs to he done by BOTH parties for that to even be remotely possible. People here do care about the OP, and the proof of that is that when/if this relationship implodes, these people will all be here to support the OP all over again. If a family member is dating someone who is a complete douchebag and you can tell the relationship is not at all good for them or their well being do you tell your family member what you think about it? Yes you do. Why? Because you care about their well being. Same thing is happening here..people care. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
ravssss Posted January 6, 2014 Share Posted January 6, 2014 congratz dude ... its a risk but unlike many here i really believe in forgiving ppl for the sake of the past ....anyone can claim date new chicks i mean whats the point ...cant they be the same as well ??? ... its a personal choice .... but ya be content being single as well because u never know and am not being bitter ... jst that have a strong backup mindset to recover ready ... Link to post Share on other sites
barky2 Posted January 6, 2014 Share Posted January 6, 2014 congratz dude ... its a risk but unlike many here i really believe in forgiving ppl for the sake of the past ....anyone can claim date new chicks i mean whats the point ...cant they be the same as well ??? ... its a personal choice .... but ya be content being single as well because u never know and am not being bitter ... jst that have a strong backup mindset to recover ready ... Huh?? Barky 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted January 6, 2014 Share Posted January 6, 2014 Ditto Barkster. Huh?? Barky 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mtnbiker3000 Posted January 6, 2014 Share Posted January 6, 2014 ^^^ Whew!!! Thought I was the only one who couldn't figure this out 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted January 6, 2014 Share Posted January 6, 2014 congratz dude ... its a risk but unlike many here i really believe in forgiving ppl for the sake of the past ....anyone can claim date new chicks i mean whats the point ...cant they be the same as well ??? ... its a personal choice .... but ya be content being single as well because u never know and am not being bitter ... jst that have a strong backup mindset to recover ready ... http://gifs.gifbin.com/122011/1324316240_cat_jumps_off_balcony_ledge.gif 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted January 6, 2014 Share Posted January 6, 2014 ....... sake Simon. Too good. http://gifs.gifbin.com/122011/1324316240_cat_jumps_off_balcony_ledge.gif Link to post Share on other sites
Jules78 Posted January 6, 2014 Share Posted January 6, 2014 That made me laugh really loud. http://gifs.gifbin.com/122011/1324316240_cat_jumps_off_balcony_ledge.gif 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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