RedHawk08 Posted January 4, 2014 Share Posted January 4, 2014 Whatever we all label their behaviour as, it all unifies under one thing. Our spouses are taking NO responsibility for their actions. I have no idea how to reverse that myself. If any of us did, we would be reversing our impending divorces. When something major happens in their lives, they will match it with behaviour of a magnitude to counteract the guilt and shame in their heads. The history revision will be jaw dropping! None of us will get anywhere until we can get our spouses to take some responsibility. We will hear the classic responses to every attempt we make to save things, their friends will supply them and validate them. "It's too late" "Why did it take so long?" "I never said that" "We've grown apart: "It was a mistake getting married" (That's the most painful) I was brave enough to stand up to all this in an age where marriage is seen as disposable at the first sign of trouble. You'll be perceived as "sad" or "pathetic" by some, which tells you a lot about them as people. You will find out a lot about your own values. I'll admit, I was an OM myself for only a few weeks 10 years ago. I HATED myself for that, and I'm genuinely pleased for them that they worked it out. I still see them walking around town holding hands. Good for them! Because OM/OW's are the lowest forms of life around. They need to be exposed and shamed! Link to post Share on other sites
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