Am I Really Ugly ?

[Jet96]

Recently turned 17 nearly All of my life I have been called ugly except from my family members. I went to a nearly all white middle school and a few girls liked me (I didn't know why).

 

Then I went to a nearly all black high school and I here I'm ugly nearly all the time (I.e don't look at me your ugly),(your not cute),(out of no where why are you so ugly or why do you look like that ) are there ANY nice girls out here?.

 

I have younger friends in the 9th & 10th grade already had girlfriends and Lost their virginity already and I haven't even kissed anyone .(I almost given up on believing their is someone out their for everyone . The girls go after losers that don't treat them right or the man whores anyway(Are there any girls out there that likes to be treated with respect properly by a gentalmen .

 

I even resorted trying to find some easy (the ones who give it up more) to no avail (is there REALLY SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME) . I'm now looking up colleges with the least committed relationships because I never had a loving relationship or any relationships before because it just so painful and no one can understand my pain .

 

Please help me someone . I'm just tired of all the shame and the pain

 

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Edited January 4, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[d0nnivain]

You look fine.

 

 

High School kids are mean. I was called all sorts of awful things as a kid. I grew up to be more secure in my skin.

 

 

When you get out of high school & into the wider world, things will get better.

 

 

Hang in there.

[Sand Man Dan]

Bro are you kidding me? You look so above what is considered "ugly" it's not even funny. You have a good body type naturally too, develop that through hard weightlifting and you will be a beast!

 

I promise you're not bad looking. You're a champ and don't you dare let anyone tell you otherwise. Be your biggest fan, and everyone else will follow

[Frank2thepoint]

Listen player. You look good. Next time girls say mean stuff, like you're ugly, just throw it back to them that their jealous they can't have you to bump uglies with. Or if girls say other stuff, tell them you love them back and call them babe or baby doll. Just don't get too crass.

 

I had a girl tell me once I suck. I responded back to her that I don't suck, I lick. She was completely nonplussed.

 

As for college choice, I recommend you find one that has a lot of white chicks. You had some positive compliments when you were in a nearly all white middle school. It's college, and that's where you can have some fun. Also it's 2014.

[regine_phalange]

You are far from ugly, and you are also very young still. Men usually bloom around 21, and you are in a good path! Don't worry about anything and dont listen to anyone.

[ponchsox]

Losing the hat and getting some nice clothes (nice collared shirts) will make a huge difference. You're fine man, your confidence is just shot.

[MidwestUSA]

You're far from ugly, and you look REALLY young. You're one of those guys who's going to look 30 when he's 50. If you think that there is a particular college at which you'll fare best, do find it. But I suspect a lot of things will smooth over for you in the next few years. Good luck!

[William]

As 'rate me' threads with pictures are disallowed on LoveShack, references to that content have been deleted. Postings which responded to it have been retained. With that water under the bridge, members are welcomed to work the thread starter's issues in the realm of self-improvement and personal well-being. Thanks!

[Allumere]

You are so NOT ugly.

 

I'll tell you what's wrong with you. You are a genuine young man, with a good heart and sense enough to see whats wrong with the things going on around him. It's tough though because you live in the middle of all that stuff and being a normal dudem dating and all the other stuff that goes with it is something you want.

 

You are calling it exactly as it is. The girls are stupid (we can be at that age) and the guys are tools. The girls have no self-esteem. It's all tied into "who they are with" Sex in 9th and 10th grade....stupid. Sure the hormones and curiosity is there but at that age let me tell you, they ain't got a clue what it is really all about. The hot bad boys all these girls chase after...yeah, they'll be working 3 jobs while supporting their baby mommas in a couple of years (and that is actually the positive outcome). You have soooo much more going for you so you need to keep your eye on the big picture. I know it is hard. I'm old by your standards but I remember high school like yesterday (and believe it or not you will encounter some of the same silly crap as an older adult as you do now). Know who you are and stick with it....trust me it will serve you much better than being the "guy-of-the-day" that's getting laid.

 

Hmmmm....10 minutes of pleasure every now with a some girl that you won't even remember when you get to college verses living a meaningful life, making good choices, enjoying and taking advantages of all opportunities to learn, travel, making new friends, falling in love, etc. Which is more attractive to you?

[Heatemyheart89]

Hello I got called ugly all the time at school. I get called ugly now too. Anyone who actually tells you you are ugly is the truly hideous one. At your age things are extremely shallow. Also I am 24 and have found that once people start drinking and eating more junk they often put on weight and start looking worse as they get older. Someone who is considered pretty/ handsome now may not in a few years.

 

 

I can't see you but I doubt you are ugly. Please ignore these rude comments by horrible people.

[Elias33]

I've read this somewhere but I like the saying;

 

"What you think of me is none of my business".

 

And this is true. What others think of you should never allow you to identify as such. Do not look for validation either. If you look at any person at any time whom we now consider as successful or genius, they have never ever listened to other people.

 

Being beautiful, good looking, or any desireable trait always starts with yourself. What others think shouldn't be validation, nor critique that somehow sways the way your see yourself. If you don't, compliments will make your head swell, and criticism will make you feel depressed. It sounds silly doesn't it.