How to be attractive

[Leigh 87]

Oh and don't pick your nose in public. That's just gross. Use a tissue and don't drop your boogers in my car! I know it's a sometimes messy and older vehicle, but honestly I don't like to think about accidentally touching your boogers when I'm vacuuming in my car or house! (Or rolling over on them in bed.)

 

 

 

And don't fart. Especially don't blame your dogs for it:sick:

 

My ex would fart and blame his dogs:(

 

Just excuse yourself, laugh it off and admit that it's disgusting and say you won't do it around me again.

 

How difficult is it to excuse yourself and leave the room????!?!??

[Scales]

 

And don't fart. Especially don't blame your dogs for it:sick:

 

My ex would fart and blame his dogs:(

 

Just excuse yourself, laugh it off and admit that it's disgusting and say you won't do it around me again.

 

How difficult is it to excuse yourself and leave the room????!?!??

 

No self respecting man is ashamed of his farts nor does he blame his dogs. I'm gonna fart and I'm gonna own it.

[Eggplant]

If you radiate happiness and smile, and put everybody else in a good mood, your attractiveness goes way up. People recognize that you've got it figured out and want in on a piece of your sunshine.

[LilGirlandOW]

for both genders,

 

humble confidence, optimism and share a smile, transparency

 

people in general are all attracted to different physical qualities. but i've never heard of a person not looking for a good hearted person.

 

work on whats inside

[Lokie]

How to be attractive?

 

Probably foremost is humility and open-mindedness. As in, understanding that your stated ideas on how to be attractive are your preferences only. People who state that they know how "everybody" feels rarely do.

[CrystalCastles]

I'm seeing more men sporting the Terrorist Look. Not attractive and you are begging to be cavity searched at the airport. I personally don't like any facial hair on a man.

 

I think the facial hair part depends. A guy I knew was 25, only without any facial hair, he looked 16. He was my TA for a class and until he started talking, I thought he was one of the students! He looked quite a bit older with facial hair, which suited his age.

 

And men, if you do have to fart and can't make it to the bathroom on time, please warn me first. Especially if it's the silent and deadly kind. I won't dump you. Promise. It would be nice not to wonder why I'm suddenly out of air, however.

[Imported]

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And men, if you do have to fart and can't make it to the bathroom on time, please warn me first. Especially if it's the silent and deadly kind. I won't dump you. Promise. It would be nice not to wonder why I'm suddenly out of air, however.

 

 

I laughed in real life. I have never even thought to consider going to the bathroom to fart lol

 

Luckily, I don't really fart all that much and although I work out a lot, I do not take protein powder or supplement protein unless I am trying to really lean out.

Edited January 5, 2014 by Imported

[Shepp]

Let's discuss facial hair a bit more.

How do I know if I should rock it or not? Sometimes I'm torn. lol.

I quite like doing the facial hair thing, I tend nix it up quite regularly most of the time I shave but if I don't have time or just don't feel like it i'll rock the stubble look for a bit.

Did no shave November the other year, got a fairly tidy beard - I thought it was great - sexy in a ruggedly handsome, survivor-esc kinda way.......unfortunately everyone else thought it was not sexy in a kind of homeless way, so it had to go

 

 

- Have passions. Passions that make you someone who can't be described only in a couple of words.

- Don't be afraid to wear a snorkel if you are going to have fun with it. There is not such thing as "unfeminine" if you re having real fun.

Totally band on with this!!

Especially the bottom one! Maybe some guys wanna date the cardboard-cut-out-wont-break-a-nail-stereotype-of-femininity but I don't know any!

Seeing girls having fun is attractive and seeing girls get stuck in is attractive.

I don't care whats supposedly feminine and what isn't...a girl who'll come play paintball or off-road karting with me and the boys - that's attractive! And if she can kick ass doing it - sexy as hell!

 

 

Things I think are globally attractive in girls (but a lot probably work for both sexes tbh)

• Physical fitness - self explanatory
  
• A genuine smile, with teeth and eyes - a genuine smile like that makes me instantly like someone, instantly think there'd be cool to hang out with and instantly more likely to trust them
  
• A sense of adventure
  
• A positive, optimistic attitude - pessimists bring the room down
  
• Laughing - people who laugh easily. If I walk into any room and a girls laughing she'll be the one who instantly catches my eye first. I must confess a soft spot for infectious laughers.
  
• Good table manners!!
  
• Drive - for whatever, it will be different for everyone but drive for something, because drive is substance
  
• Nice teeth
  
• Good skin
  
• Clothes - are important but im not the right person to describe what is and what isn't, I don't know enough about womens fashion, I just know when I see it! Like some clothes seem to scruffy and some seem like your trying to hard - somewhere in the middles good.
  
• Easy going, not to het up on the little things in life
  

Things that I think are clearly obviously attractive...but im not sure if anyone else agrees:

• Clumsiness - I just think its attractive, probably because its the opposite of the flawless cardboard cut out, I like people to be real! And maybe partly because I'm clumsy and it makes me feel less so - particularly if she's worse than me because then i know what people feel like around me.
  
• Talking with your hands - I think people who do this tend to be more practical/visual and I kind of feel a girl who talks with her hands has conviction in what she's saying, it makes me have conviction in what she's saying too.
  
• Sparky, a bit of feistiness, a bit of fight.
  
• An underdog - I love an underdog (don't all Brits?), if you took two identical girls in every other way and they'd both achieved the same thing but one of them had overcome xyz to get there and i'd instantly find her more attractive! It just shows a good attitude, a winner, a fighter, a bit of grit and shows shes not a quitter, and a quitters dead unattractive.
  
• Eating - food is one of my big loves in life! Can't be taking a girl out who orders a side salad. Constant dieting is a drag!
  

[darkmoon]

I do not like men's hairy armpits uurrggh

[Onethirtyeight]

How to be attractive?

 

Probably foremost is humility and open-mindedness. As in, understanding that your stated ideas on how to be attractive are your preferences only. People who state that they know how "everybody" feels rarely do.

 

Maybe to an extent. The things I and most other people listed are not really ground breaking or overly personal. Just some tips to help everyone do better in dating by being a little more appealing.

 

I mean I don't think that anyone is going to argue that health and hygiene are negatives and it certainly isn't going to hurt someone's chances to practice those. That just manages to escape some people and they need someone to tell them.

[Onethirtyeight]

I do not like men's hairy armpits uurrggh

 

I've never heard this before. Would you recommend that men shave? and is that a common opinion?

[GravityMan]

A lot of the advice given regarding clothes, hygiene (including cologne usage), and facial hair should be common sense IMO when it comes to looking presentable out in public. Having nasty teeth, wearing ill-fitting or occasion-inappropriate clothing, or overdoing it with cologne may net you some dirty looks from all sorts of people...kids, the elderly, coworkers, you name it. It might get you warned or reprimanded by your boss at work, depending on the company and their written/unwritten policies. Forget not being attractive...the bottom line is that you come across as downright BAD, and also disrespectful of others around you.

 

When it comes to attraction, I think your demeanor and how you carry yourself carries a lot of weight. For both men and women. Being comfortable in your own skin (your real self) is important. Most people can easily tell if you lack genuine self-confidence...one possible symptom is being a try-hard. If you're extremely insecure you're going to have difficulty attracting others and keeping them attracted...no matter how well you dress or how clean you are.

 

I also think a positive and tasteful sense of humor and a sharp & clever wit can greatly improve how attractive you are to others (individual type-of-humor preferences aside). That said, your sense of humor is a natural aspect of who you are...in other words you either got it or you don't.

[Targetlock]

Its all very subjective, and most this is useful common sense stuff that makes sense in most social situations. i suppose you just got to be yourself and comfortable and confident in your own skin (which can be tricky, i know i never know what to do with my hair for example)

[ponchsox]

The women I date like guys that do guy stuff.

[Onethirtyeight]

Its all very subjective, and most this is useful common sense stuff that makes sense in most social situations. i suppose you just got to be yourself and comfortable and confident in your own skin (which can be tricky, i know i never know what to do with my hair for example)

 

You say that but this kind of thing escapes so many people. There are a lot of overweight women out there that think their weight isn't effecting their dating lives and men who think its attractive to wear shirts that don't have sleeves.

Edited January 6, 2014 by Onethirtyeight

[Targetlock]

yeah its weird what people don't realise isn't it? anyways, i'm off to singles night on Friday so this advice is useful if obvious to most people