acrosstheuniverse Posted January 5, 2014 Share Posted January 5, 2014 Photos with half-naked women. I have seen this. Like, a guy posing with two strippers or two playboy bunnies or something, or two underdressed croupiers. Are photos showing that you think it's cool to pose with a woman who has to expose her body for her job supposed to impress me? Link to post Share on other sites
deathandtaxes Posted January 5, 2014 Share Posted January 5, 2014 Only headshots. Too many pictures of groups. Excessive travel photos. These photo turn-offs are generally more annoying than stuff I come across in profiles. Link to post Share on other sites
bene Posted January 5, 2014 Share Posted January 5, 2014 My pet peeve is rhetorical question in the profile like "I wonder if there are any normal women out there anymore who are not golddiggers/smokers/cheaters/liars/whatnot". It will not encourage women to prove that they are not like these horrible, horrible other women. It just sounds bitter. I sort of understand that people can be frustrated or burnt in previous relationships but in general, negativity and hostility is a turn-off. Instead of what you don't like, say what you like. Instead of who you don't want, say who you want. The same goes also to arguing people into liking you and getting angry at not answering or rejection (unless it is done in some extraordinarily rude way but even then you are better off just walking away). If someone manages to pick up a fight before even meeting in person what would it be like to actually date them? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
samsungxoxo Posted January 5, 2014 Share Posted January 5, 2014 26 with upcoming birthday on April 7 1) Entitled pump and dumper shamer demanding virtuous women. LOL, what makes you think I'm going to go for you anyway... 2) Drug/porn addiction, heavy drinker/smoker, has a police record and any of those destructive and dangerous traits. 3) Talks bad about marriage or says ''It's just a piece of paper'' and is a close minded guy that only wants to have things done his way. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
nerd Posted January 5, 2014 Share Posted January 5, 2014 i'm going to throw in the towel for a while. 9/10 profiles i read there's something that makes me click away, or if i want to message it's just to deride someone for something stupid in their profile. Link to post Share on other sites
Frank2thepoint Posted January 5, 2014 Share Posted January 5, 2014 Real age: 34.8 years. Perceived age: 13.3 years 1. Girls say they love to laugh 2. Girls say they love their family 3. Girls say they don't really know, just whatever is fun Link to post Share on other sites
what_a_blonde Posted January 6, 2014 Share Posted January 6, 2014 I post an unrealistic income of over $1,000,000. Hopefully people can tell its a joke, because I think it's better to post that instead of dislosing my actual income to strangers. Interesting. Maybe this is why you're attracting bad women. I know plenty of women who take the income thing pretty serious, and would assume that whatever you disclose is true. So... Wonder if you've found yourself with any women only interested in the money bags? Lol Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted January 6, 2014 Share Posted January 6, 2014 I've seen some pretty strange things in the background of bathroom mirror pics... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Elias33 Posted January 6, 2014 Share Posted January 6, 2014 The list with demands. And the anecdotes that reflect their bitterness about past creeps. Isn't that a given, and do I need to know that? And the always popular "my family comes first" statement. Also common sense. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kaylan Posted January 6, 2014 Author Share Posted January 6, 2014 Interesting. Maybe this is why you're attracting bad women. I know plenty of women who take the income thing pretty serious, and would assume that whatever you disclose is true. So... Wonder if you've found yourself with any women only interested in the money bags? Lol Most women I date I do not meet online. And it would be apparent from my car and clothing that I'm no millionaire lol Link to post Share on other sites
SpiralOut Posted January 6, 2014 Share Posted January 6, 2014 - picture of himself with his arm around a woman (or two). I know we all have a past, but that should stay in the past. - talking in his profile about something he doesn't like in a woman, then messages me even though my profile says that I AM that thing he doesn't like. Either he didn't bother to read my profile or he is lowering his standards already. - profile reads like a resume where he lists his accomplishments. "I've been here and I've done that, and I've won this award," etc. It means he defines himself by his achievements, not by who he is. He might do the same to me and I don't want that. I want a man who values me for my personality. Link to post Share on other sites
fujidabruin Posted January 7, 2014 Share Posted January 7, 2014 50 1) Request very recent face pics yet refuse to offer their own until "I know you better" 2) Say, "I am actually quite shy". Yet the main profile pic is the angled from-the-top-obvious-pushup-bra-pouty-lips pic 3) Saying their pet is "truly my best friend in the world" (don't get me wrong... I have had cats/dogs/rodents/reptiles/fish.... but if your best relationship is with a different species??? MEH) Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted January 7, 2014 Share Posted January 7, 2014 1) negativity (yea, I know... funny coming from me), lots of telling us what he doesn't want vs what he does want. 2) anything sexual or rife with innuendo in words or pictures. 3) grossly skewed age range Biggest OLD turn-ons... 1) Smiling, happy pics. Ideally a variety of situations or activities that give me a sense of what they find important 2) Positive, relationship oriented outlook without sounding like their life is going to end if they don't find someone ASAP 3) Healthy life balance with work, friends/family, and hobbies 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ChrisPA5126 Posted January 20, 2014 Share Posted January 20, 2014 Posting your income/means of finance Pictures with your abs/shirtless/crotch bulging/your car/drugs in hand/shoe collection Brags about past achievements. NOTE: Consistent bragging, not brief mentioning, I'm 19 years Link to post Share on other sites
ponchsox Posted January 20, 2014 Share Posted January 20, 2014 Guy here. 1. Has kids (I stop reading right there) 2. They right a book on themselves (into themselves much?) 3. They are looking for Mr. Perfect (there is no such thing) Link to post Share on other sites
Arieswoman Posted January 20, 2014 Share Posted January 20, 2014 When I was dating (40ish) the following comments would guarantee I lost interest right away, 1. Likes to live in the fast lane 2. Likes a good laugh. 3. Likes pubbing and clubbing. 4. Smoker 5. Wants a sexy lady 6. Telling you what car they drive. 7. Wants to get into a sexual relationship quickly. 8. Doesn't like pets. 9. Had dependent children 10. Had been to the "University of life" Link to post Share on other sites
acrosstheuniverse Posted January 20, 2014 Share Posted January 20, 2014 2. They right a book on themselves (into themselves much?) Disagree. A short profile with 'fill this out later' or 'whatever really, feel free to ask anything' gets overlooked, if someone writes a lengthy profile I much prefer that. It gives you a better idea of who they are and shows that they are taking it seriously. Link to post Share on other sites
Zeroes Posted January 26, 2014 Share Posted January 26, 2014 Oooh, I could go on forever about this. Female/20's. 1. Photos that are old, Photoshopped/professionally done, taken surrounded by other women, of their kids/car, or when ALL their photos are of him and his friends in a social setting and I can't make out which one is him. Is it that hard to use photos of just yourself, in your back garden or in your room, or something? 2. Negativity in profile. I want to read about him and what and who he is, what he likes and wants, not how he doesn't want "munters and fatties" to bother messaging him or a paragraph long rant about "shallow women" or how rubbish the dating site is and the like. 3. Sleazy or suggestive messages. Link to post Share on other sites
OhThatGirl Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 I know this thread is older but as I just got back on the horse (started an eharmony profile) I couldn't resist posting. For reference I'm a 29 Year old female. Turn offs: 1) "I'm passionate about life" when asked what they are passionate about. This is a question posed to everyone making a profile. I can't tell you HOW MANY I saw that said this. But WHAT exactly about life are you passionate about? Having a heartbeat? 2) Surfing pictures. This may be particularly bad because I'm in Southern California where this is common but OMG. 75% of all profiles have a picture of the guy surfing. How does this help me? I can't even tell who it is.. I'm not going to be more attracted to you based on this.. Why post it? Saying surfing is a hobby is plenty. Post a picture of you, smiling, in a nice setting. And as the other posters said.. WITHOUT OTHER WOMEN unless you specifically mention it's a family member. Also, awkwardly cropping a female out of the picture (though you can clearly see her arm/hair on your shoulder/etc is a terrible idea. 3) Age discrepancy/lying about age. I'm possibly a bit sensitive about this as I recently ended something with a guy quite a bit older than me (who after a year was logging in to use his old dating profile.. on which he had lied about being younger.. This wasn't even how we met and I never knew he had it!) But prior to and especially now after that situation I'm wondering why men feel so entitled to women that are SO MUCH YOUNGER. The only argument I can find remotely valid is a guy really wants to have kids and is interested in finding a younger woman who can still do so. That being said, most of these older guys (my ex included.. ) aren't even sure they want kids. They truly just want a younger piece. I actually called a guy out for saying he was "39" when in Reality he was likely very late 40s-early 50s. 4) Bad spelling/grammar. Using the word "chill" as someone else mentioned. Particularly grammar though. That being said, I might be naive in thinking there are still some great men to be met on OLD sites. I'm generally impressed by the education level and quality of people I've come across. Even if they do all have surfing pictures.. Lol Link to post Share on other sites
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