Jump to content

Anyone actually walked in on your spouse when they were with another person in bed?

Raven3321

By Raven3321,
in General Relationship Discussion

 Share Followers 1

Recommended Posts

Raven3321

Raven3321

Posted
Posted (edited)

Has anyone actually walked in on their WS or heard them? What was your reaction? Finally, has anyone actually reconciled after seeing or hearing them in the act? I would think actually witnessing it would make it near impossilbe.

 

Thanks in advance

Edited by a LoveShack.org Moderator
External link to commercial site redacted per policy
Link to post
Share on other sites
katielee

katielee

Posted
Posted

Yes. He was on top of her but fully clothed, his hands all over her. Took me several EMDR sessions to get through. Struggling mightily through recovery

  • Like 1
Link to post
Share on other sites
  • Author
Raven3321

Raven3321

Posted
  • Author
Posted
That video is so horrifying knowing it's context. I am so glad this wasn't me. I couldn't survive well in prison.

 

Tell me about it. Not only is it horrific but to a serviceman at that. Pisses me off.

Link to post
Share on other sites
BetrayedH

BetrayedH

Posted
Posted

My wife wrote a graphic piece for an internet site. Reading it was bad enough (went to jail for the night for throwing her out the front door); I'm glad I didn't see them in the act. God only knows. And I'm a freaking pacifist.

  • Like 4
Link to post
Share on other sites
  • Author
Raven3321

Raven3321

Posted
  • Author
Posted
My wife wrote a graphic piece for an internet site. Reading it was bad enough (went to jail for the night for throwing her out the front door); I'm glad I didn't see them in the act. God only knows. And I'm a freaking pacifist.

 

I know...I read it a while back after you posted referring to it. Out of all the posts I've seen, your's hit me probably the hardest. I think the reason is because you were heading toward reconciliation and then the hot wife thing came up. By the way, it's good to see a fellow Floridian on here though I no longer reside in the state.

  • Like 2
Link to post
Share on other sites
  • Author
Raven3321

Raven3321

Posted
  • Author
Posted
Yes. He was on top of her but fully clothed, his hands all over her. Took me several EMDR sessions to get through. Struggling mightily through recovery

 

Katie,

 

I just read some of your stuff and I'm truly sorry for you. How are you feeling these days? Is it something that you still think about often or is it just his betrayals overall that get you down?

Link to post
Share on other sites
MissBee

MissBee

Posted
Posted

I'm sorry but it is completely bizarre to me that your first instinct would be to film this...:confused:

 

I would be sooo shocked I wouldn't have the clarity of mind to get out a phone, a camera, be silent and stealthy, video tape, zoom in, I mean I hope this is fake and some weird new kind of voyeur porn, as while it is a horrible thing, I guess I have a hard time having sympathy or finding it believable and authentic as a reaction for someone to do this.

  • Like 2
Link to post
Share on other sites
eleanorrigby

eleanorrigby

Posted
Posted
I'm sorry but it is completely bizarre to me that your first instinct would be to film this...:confused:

 

I would be sooo shocked I wouldn't have the clarity of mind to get out a phone, a camera, be silent and stealthy, video tape, zoom in, I mean I hope this is fake and some weird new kind of voyeur porn, as while it is a horrible thing, I guess I have a hard time having sympathy or finding it believable and authentic as a reaction for someone to do this.

 

I was thinking the same thing. (the camera wasn't even shaking! lol)

  • Like 2
Link to post
Share on other sites
  • Author
Raven3321

Raven3321

Posted
  • Author
Posted
I'm sorry but it is completely bizarre to me that your first instinct would be to film this...:confused:

 

I would be sooo shocked I wouldn't have the clarity of mind to get out a phone, a camera, be silent and stealthy, video tape, zoom in, I mean I hope this is fake and some weird new kind of voyeur porn, as while it is a horrible thing, I guess I have a hard time having sympathy or finding it believable and authentic as a reaction for someone to do this.

 

It's quite real. This particular couple has been married 22 years. He had just filmed his 4yr old daughter the day before so the camera was on the table when he walked in. He posted it online to get back at her for filing for divorce. He said he was set to lose everything and this was payback. I mean he even put her home address as well as her name online.

 

Classy...no. Understandable....yes. I mean you walk in and find your wife mid-coitous? I've heard of other people audio taping with a VAR or filming it so they use it in court if they need to; so it's not entirely unheard of.

Link to post
Share on other sites
MissBee

MissBee

Posted
Posted
It's quite real. This particular couple has been married 22 years. He had just filmed his 4yr old daughter the day before so the camera was on the table when he walked in. He posted it online to get back at her for filing for divorce. He said he was set to lose everything and this was payback. I mean he even put her home address as well as her name online.

 

Classy...no. Understandable....yes. I mean you walk in and find your wife mid-coitous? I've heard of other people audio taping with a VAR or filming it so they use it in court if they need to; so it's not entirely unheard of.

 

It may very well be real, but is so far from any reaction I would have that I cannot relate and I think these people should indeed get a divorce if one is having sex with one person and the other is videotaping it secretly and putting it online. It's all very dysfunctional.

  • Like 2
Link to post
Share on other sites
katielee

katielee

Posted
Posted

It wasn't the worst thing. The inaction AFTER that has been awful. Now maybe ppl will understand why I should NEVER have to see her again

  • Like 2
Link to post
Share on other sites
  • Author
Raven3321

Raven3321

Posted
  • Author
Posted
It wasn't the worst thing. The inaction AFTER that has been awful. Now maybe ppl will understand why I should NEVER have to see her again

 

Understood and you're right.

  • Like 2
Link to post
Share on other sites
BoxOfRain

BoxOfRain

Posted
Posted

I didn't walk in on anything, but I overheard my WW describing her latest session with OM to her friend on Dday. I didn't sleep well that night.

  • Like 2
Link to post
Share on other sites
  • Author
Raven3321

Raven3321

Posted
  • Author
Posted
I was hoping for some Cheaters-style confrontation :(

 

TBH, the video seems fake. It looks like some type of amateur porn that someone just attached a story to. I hope it's fake, at least. Not just because of the cheating, but also because I really don't want to believe that a mother would leave the door open and loudly have sex with her lover while her 4 year old daughter is in the next room :sick:

 

If that was amateur porn than it is the worst I've ever seen. It's at night with dim lighting and it's only about 20 seconds long. If you look up the name on google, you'll find they are a real couple and he's in the army like he says he is.

 

This site is a revenge site. The only people that post are people getting back at an ex anyway. I feel for most of the people on the site because no matter what they've done to you, it's not right to put their intimate business out there. However, having been a BH before, I understand the pain he's going through and the desire for retribution.

 

As for the mom part, well yeah....you've got me there. My wife sometimes doesn't even want to do it with my son asleep and the door locked. Then again, he's figured out how to pick the lock with a penny.

  • Like 1
Link to post
Share on other sites
bubbaganoosh

bubbaganoosh

Posted
Posted

IDK. If it was me, I wouldn't be picking up a camera and watching some guy puncture my wife.

 

I don't own a gun but a Louisville Slugger would work real good and if the guy has any sense, he would be running for his life and dialing 911. I would take that chance with a judge. I might go to jail for assult but that guy would think twice about screwing another mans wife.

  • Like 1
Link to post
Share on other sites
  • Author
Raven3321

Raven3321

Posted
  • Author
Posted
IDK. If it was me, I wouldn't be picking up a camera and watching some guy puncture my wife.

 

I don't own a gun but a Louisville Slugger would work real good and if the guy has any sense, he would be running for his life and dialing 911. I would take that chance with a judge. I might go to jail for assult but that guy would think twice about screwing another mans wife.

 

I couldn't have put it better if I tried.

Link to post
Share on other sites
MissBee

MissBee

Posted
Posted
IDK. If it was me, I wouldn't be picking up a camera and watching some guy puncture my wife.

 

I don't own a gun but a Louisville Slugger would work real good and if the guy has any sense, he would be running for his life and dialing 911. I would take that chance with a judge. I might go to jail for assult but that guy would think twice about screwing another mans wife.

 

Right!

 

I'm like who can watch that calmly and then videotape it...like he was expecting this.

 

I would be shocked out of my wits that either I would be frozen or I would be acting like a lunatic but I won't be grabbing a camera to film...

Link to post
Share on other sites
violet1

violet1

Posted
Posted

This is the exact reason why you never send nude pics to ANYONE. I understand being hurt, but posting nudes of your ex is not cool! All of these revenge sites make me sick.

  • Like 5
Link to post
Share on other sites
atreides

atreides

Posted
Posted

I had a co-worker from a former company i worked for film his ex W for evidence. Took it to her family, did not really have internet to post back then. His vid had the oh sh*** moments though.

 

It might be fake it may not, IDK some people are calculating though, I know i fall in that camp.

 

My wife actually kissed while totally drunk two guys in front of me that once woke up after her black out states she cannot remember. I know she did it for anger issues at me to "get at me" they were my friends who did not kiss back which helped a lot but i was "PISSED" inside but calm and collected on the outside to put an end to it. She later received the wrath of how angry i was. If i were to walk in, i do think i would at least get clear photos or vid for evidence too. Of course i would be pissed and shocked by i have 3 kids and lot's to lose and live in a fault state.

Link to post
Share on other sites
MissBee

MissBee

Posted
Posted
This is the exact reason why you never send nude pics to ANYONE. I understand being hurt, but posting nudes of your ex is not cool! All of these revenge sites make me sick.

 

I must agree.

 

Further, when your spouse's face is on there or they're having sex with someone and you videotape it and put it on the internet, doesn't it make you look bad too? What if your employer sees this, what will they think of you for doing that, the people at your church, your children can Google this, your children's friends can. I mean you've now made this the business of anyone with the internet! Infidelity is crushing enough I wouldn't now want the WORLD to see it online as it would be embarrassing not only for the WS but for me too!

 

There was this woman who came home and caught her husband in bed with another man and the man and her husband had fallen asleep naked together, she comes home, takes their picture, puts it on FB and has some message about how she caught her husband in bed with another man and she hasn't seen him since she caught him...I was like WTF?!!! :confused: How was that helpful? Because if you were my friend I would be thinking something is wrong with you too for putting your dirty laundry out there like that and now everybody will be talking about so and so's husband who was in bed with another man and it was on FB. No way. I have way too much pride.

  • Like 3
Link to post
Share on other sites
atreides

atreides

Posted
Posted

I also agree, revenge sites are not cool and is a modern day "tube culture" thing.

 

BetrayedH's story that his ex wrote i liken to be the same as walking in on it. I still give him props, he threw her *** out, even if he went to jail for a night... good on it. ;)

  • Like 1
Link to post
Share on other sites
  • Author
Raven3321

Raven3321

Posted
  • Author
Posted
.....totally at a loss for words.

 

 

(for some reason, i'm hoping this is a troll thread.)

 

Nope. Not a troll. Just wanted to know if anyone had personally heard or seen their spouse in the act.......and if so was anyone able to reconcile.

Link to post
Share on other sites
 Share
Followers 1
Go to topic listing
×
×
  • Create New...