update on my story. Now I really am confused about her !

[mixwell]

well for those of you that know my story here is an update. basically I found out that my ex lies to me. I caught her in a lie today when I talked to her. She was supposedly sleep at her house. I call back and this douche bag shes been hanging out with answers. WOW. It makes me wonder now if everything shes told me since the breakup is a lie. So basically I called back and told her that she could've told me the truth and that everything shes told me was probly a lie. I said WOW its unbelieveable how you would lie to me. I said i dont even want to be friends as long as shesl like this and if the old Linda I used to know comes back around to call me. I have deleted her outta my cell phone. It honestly hurts me that she lied to me. For all I know now she could be going out with this guy and have lied and said no. She said she didn't want a b/f because I hurt her. Was that a lie because she was really going out with this guy ? Who knows. I have no clue. Im soo pissed off right now to find this out and I have no idea if anything she said was a lie. I know she cares about me that is true but everything else about hanging out and getting blown off and her not going out with this guy could all just be a lie. Im sick of playing detective and NC is going to be a lot easier now that I have strong convictions and motives to not call her. At this point now I really don't care if she calls because I'm soo hurt by what I've found out. what a bitch !! so thats that.

[uriel]

For what it's worth, I think no contact is the right decision.

 

-- uriel

[SilentPrayer]

Your a GOOD boy. You dont need to play these tough games with this tricky tricky girl.

 

Seems to me like this girl is a player who kinda tripped in game time.

 

She messed up, probably got her pretty nervious that he answered or it was her way of letting you know that YOUR OUT?

 

 

I suggest that when you go...leave her a note....tell her everything youve wanted to tell her...and let her sit on that HOT egg. Believe me it would be the best way to get pissed at her, is to not let her get ahold of you to let her aggression out on.

 

Dont let this girls conscience feel better, dont let her exsplain. Im a girl I know how that feels and it aint nice.

 

adios,

[DinNJ]

Aloofness... show it when she calls. As if what she did to you didn't phase you in the least bit. Don't be angry, don't be sad... Aloofness.... let her know without telling her.... you can live with or without her. Be strong...

[mixwell]

haha yeah. i was being a dick and i hit her up today and asked her for $200 she owed me for the deposit on her cell phone. she got mad whatever hung up. then txt messaged me and said im an a**h*** ? for what ? i did her the favor. So i threw her a guilt trip but it was all true. I said seriously you broke my heart by the way you act. I said how could you act the way you do to someone you've been with for 7 years. I said i feel sorry for you. I said it shouldnt take more than 1 hand to count your TRUE friends. I said I was your true friend and i woulda done anything for you and I would have yer back for anything when the shiz hits the fan. I said but now with the way you act I dont know. I said I used to think the same for you but the way you act now i dont know. I said you should stop and think about who your TRUE friends are ! I said I knew I was your true friend and thats why i moved back because i wanted to help you and be there for you and I love you like you'll never know. then i said whatever though maybe someday you'll realize what your're doing. I said dont worry about the 200 you need it more than i do and use it to pay your bills or whatever.

 

So i think this will get to her and she's going to have to realize what she has lost. Other than that I am going to do NC but i at least wanted her to know what shes throwing away and to open her eyes and see that.

 

So thats about it for now.

 

Take care of yourself.... and each other ! haha.

[DinNJ]

Broooooo..........and after all that complaining you did.... do you know what she actually heard???? "Blah blah blah... he still loves me... blah blah blah.... I hurt him...... blah blah blah....he can't live without me.... blah blah blah....."

 

I told you.... NO CONTACT.... FULL FORCE!!!!.... All you did was validate her feelings...

 

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If you find yourself looking for an excuse to call her or text her... write it down on paper....keep it for yourself.

[mixwell]

I know Din this is making me CRAZY ! She seemed to understand and I said maybe we can get some coffee later tonight. She said maybe and she'd call. She calls and says not tonight its raining. im like since when has the rain been an issue ? i was like you drive in the rain and i do too. i said ill drive. she said not tonite. I was like ok but you could just say you had plans. The rain is a lame excuse and you know it is. God. She txt mesaged me back too after the ones i sent earlier that i post and she basically said. that since im back im back to my old self, going to the gym and staying up all late.

 

she said you're not looking for a job. If i did move in how would get survive? she then said what do you think that id forget about you moving away? So I guess she is waiting to see if I am serious about being back out here. I am because its do or die for me. I have to get a job and start working. But when she said "do you think id forget you moving away" let me know that she still is hurt. I txt messaged her back and said I wish she would tell me whats going on and lets talk about it as adults for once. Everytime its like she hangs up or when we are hanging out she gets annoyed and asks me to not talk about it. so i just said we should talk about it at least 1 friggin time like adults ! no hidden feelings or BS. just the truth. I doubt we will tho. I think she wants me to prove to her that I'm serious and I am not back to my old self.

 

But whatever I am getting a job and a place for myself and that will show her. Im not doing this to prove shiz, its because i need to do this to survive ! i dont know. I thought we made a little progress today but then when she said she didn't want to hang out cuz the rain i was like thats BS the rain has never been an issue before for us to not go anywhere. So yet again another BS excuse to not hang out. NO CONTACT.. someone needs to like lock me in a padded cell for a little while so I can't contact anyone. haha. Ok for the 3242365456th time i will go back to NC. God once she calls or acts nice it makes me think things are ok for me to call and yet again i regret it and wish i woulda stuck with NC.. Its funny how she can manipulate me like this. Thats no excuse though for me breaking NC. ok back on it i swear on my testis !

[DinNJ]

listening to how she's got you squirming makes me stronger about not sending my girl an email.... thanks. Seriously bro.... cut it off.... it's hard, I know... BELIEVE ME I KNOW.... but right now she's got your testi's in the palm of her hands. GET EM' BACK!

[mixwell]

i know Din ! after txt msging back and forth today she was like why you wana hang out soo bad.. i was like dood if yer acting this way cuz yer hurt and mad yer making it worse. you dont ignore ur problems you talk them out but I doubt she will. I said you want me to be friends but then you hold sumthin from our relationship against me. i was like so if you want me as a friend then act like its only fair. I was like its obvious you dont wana talk or hang out and by acting this way yer about to lose me forever. I was like yer gona have to learn to forgive me for moving away from you and if you cant then ima be gone for good. I said its your call..

 

 

Why do I know that I should do NC but then give in ? Jesus ! I had a dream last night that i was with her and we were like kissing and stuff and things were getting intimate.. Dayam what a tease even in my dream.. I need to get some axion. haha.

 

Ive been talking to this one chick though on AIM Din and she seems ko0 and all. Like I been talking to her a lot the last 3 days and yesterday I was like hey call me and she was like I don't know. She said she was nervous. So i was like ok thats ko0.. I bugged her tho to call but she still didnt. this was like around 7-8 pm. then I was at my homies house playing Halo 2 and this chick calls me outta nowhere.. I think she might be interested. Who knows tho. Shes kinda weird tho. Shes 19 and she says she Bi but she told me her ex is like 35 tho.. WTF is that shiz.. so i dont know. haha im out.

 

Later.

[strange love]

Well you dont seem to have any updates as of late.

What I can say from your posts, it seems that you could probably get her back but some work is required.

 

I think number one at the top of the list is getting a job and a place.

I think these are pretty important, I have always had a job or at least if I didnt have a job which in that case I had my own little side bussiness going. A place most women dont feel comfortable hanging out with u and mommy and daddy. With some exceptions my brother was able to nail chicks while living at home (might I add rentfree), but while living at my aunts I wasnt allowed any overnight guests.

 

Do you have any updates? btw have a look at my situation any comments would be welcome.

[mixwell]

hey strang love i actually do have an update.. i had checked her email (shouldnt have but glad i did) and she is going out with this guy.. So I dont know.. I havent been calling her. this is like the 5-6th day i havent called.. she did call me a couple days ago but i didnt answer cuz i was sleeping. I was thinking about calling her back but i was like nope im not going to call back just to let her know that im still interested. Im just going to dissappear outta the picture for a little while. So yeah next time she calls i might answer though and see what she wants.. I'm just going to act like whatever though because I still am hurt that she lied to me and said they weren't together. I asked her soo many times too and she was like "you're stupid i dont know what you think is going on, were just friends."

 

So I going to let her decide on her own if she wants to lose me for this joke relationship with this guy or if she wants to be serious and try to work things out.

 

I ran into this one girl at in and out that went to school with me and i got her phone number the other day so who knows whats up with this. I dont know though if I want to be in a relationship with someone else right now though. I would still like to work things out with my ex because she was a good chick and I love her like crazy. I think she is just still confused with me moving away and leaving her and then im back and shiz so i dont know. I think this relationship she has now is more of a crutch for her but I dont know.

 

So thats my update !!