MissBee Posted January 7, 2014 Share Posted January 7, 2014 A. You're missing the point B. There needs to be a sarcam font C. The homeless I have encountered all had a knife or sharp object that could be used a weapon. If I lived on the streets I would have a weapon too...that reinforces threelaurel's point, if anything, that if you know you're subject to be the victim of violence living on the streets with no respite, you will have protection to defend yourself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
krazikat Posted January 7, 2014 Share Posted January 7, 2014 A. You're missing the point B. There needs to be a sarcam font C. The homeless I have encountered all had a knife or sharp object that could be used a weapon. How the heck does this have anything to do with the crazy ow? Is she a crazy homeless person with a weapon now? I mean seriously...I do understand that crazy can't be unpredictable...but in this situation posse the best call...and that was to the police. I also believe a strongly worded NC letter warning legal action is in order...or perhaps the police can't make am official call to the nutcase. If my situation had escalated to this point I would have simply made a couple phone calls and had her handled. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Lady2163 Posted January 7, 2014 Share Posted January 7, 2014 Really? The connection...both homeless man and OW possibly have mental illness. If I am overly aggressive and tell him what I think about him hanging in the park, he might not respond well. I could be injured. But, I give up. I think I've made my point perfectly clear. Anyone who wants to confront the possibly mentally ill OW that your husband ditched and you want to speak your mind without censoring your thoughts at all, go right ahead. Feel free to tell her he is your husband, you will never let him go and she is a homewrecking sluuut. I'm sure you will get the results you want...not. This is all moot, OP has gone to the authorities, so my scenario for her instance doesn't apply. Hopefully, the police advised her that there should be NO contact. Link to post Share on other sites
krazikat Posted January 7, 2014 Share Posted January 7, 2014 Really? The connection...both homeless man and OW possibly have mental illness. If I am overly aggressive and tell him what I think about him hanging in the park, he might not respond well. I could be injured. But, I give up. I think I've made my point perfectly clear. Anyone who wants to confront the possibly mentally ill OW that your husband ditched and you want to speak your mind without censoring your thoughts at all, go right ahead. Feel free to tell her he is your husband, you will never let him go and she is a homewrecking sluuut. I'm sure you will get the results you want...not. This is all moot, OP has gone to the authorities, so my scenario for her instance doesn't apply. Hopefully, the police advised her that there should be NO contact. ????????? A very interesting comparison...and if a homeless guy was flipping out on me for no reason in the park...then I would call the police. If the homeless guy slept with my husband, and then sent me a ton of emails harrassing me, well then perhaps I would have other words. Link to post Share on other sites
experiencethedevine Posted January 7, 2014 Share Posted January 7, 2014 Really? The connection...both homeless man and OW possibly have mental illness. If I am overly aggressive and tell him what I think about him hanging in the park, he might not respond well. I could be injured. But, I give up. I think I've made my point perfectly clear. Anyone who wants to confront the possibly mentally ill OW that your husband ditched and you want to speak your mind without censoring your thoughts at all, go right ahead. Feel free to tell her he is your husband, you will never let him go and she is a homewrecking sluuut. I'm sure you will get the results you want...not. This is all moot, OP has gone to the authorities, so my scenario for her instance doesn't apply. Hopefully, the police advised her that there should be NO contact. I might add that I have known a relatively small few who have done exactly what you describe, gone to the other person directly and had their say, calling them for exactly what they are and feeling hugely relieved by it, and never contacting the person again. As I said, a small minority, but none the less as valid in their actions as they see fit to be. Personally, we prefer to allow the authorities to deal with our psychotic and deluded other woman these days. 16 years on it amuses us more than causes distress. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
rumbleseat Posted January 7, 2014 Share Posted January 7, 2014 Dealing with someone with a mental illness can be difficult, and often logic does not apply. They can get stuck in "thought circles" that are very difficult to break out of. This ow may have some pre-existing issues, or she may have developed an adjustment disorder or some other reactive illness. Either way, it's best to ignore her and let people with professional training deal with her. They can help to encourage her to get the help that she needs. That's not only best for the bs and her children, but also for the ow. Btw, I am very disappointed to see some of the negative terms being used on here for people with a mental illness (whether or not this particular ow is suffering from one). They are stigmatized enough already. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
AlwaysGrowing Posted January 7, 2014 Share Posted January 7, 2014 When someone is being aggressive/threatening you do not use wordy dialogue, you do not give them a platform, you do not ignore it, you shut it down. The most effective way is consequences. No one working in mental health allows clients to harass them or threaten them. They get consequences. You never reward aggressive behaviours. It is pointless, a waste of time, resources and will only escalate a situation or set a pattern of behaviour. Almost everyone stated to contact authorities and/or a short, to the point NC letter. Lady2163,you like to add a whole lot more to my posts then what I put in them. I never once said to confront personally or to call anyone any name. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
krazikat Posted January 7, 2014 Share Posted January 7, 2014 Dealing with someone with a mental illness can be difficult, and often logic does not apply. They can get stuck in "thought circles" that are very difficult to break out of. This ow may have some pre-existing issues, or she may have developed an adjustment disorder or some other reactive illness. Either way, it's best to ignore her and let people with professional training deal with her. They can help to encourage her to get the help that she needs. That's not only best for the bs and her children, but also for the ow. Btw, I am very disappointed to see some of the negative terms being used on here for people with a mental illness (whether or not this particular ow is suffering from one). They are stigmatized enough already. Just to clarify my use of the term looney toon...that is not a term used by me for simply describing someone with a mental illness, but basically is another way to say someone is abnormally acting stupid, weird, or crazy...but not clinically crazy...for example I typically refer to Miley Cyrus as a looney toon...or Kimye. Just to clarify. I do not find true mental illness as funny, (bi.polar runs in my family) but I also disagree that all homeless people are mentally ill. Link to post Share on other sites
Author snappytomcat Posted January 7, 2014 Author Share Posted January 7, 2014 thank you all for the advice,and im happy to know most ow,don't act out like this one,on dday my husband was scrambling,as he didn't want to lose me,so he asked if I would go to counseling with him,i agreed and on our first meeting with the counselor,she told me not to engage or respond at any point to the ow,even if she does and says things to piss me off,all she was trying to do is get my husband to contact her or me kicking him right out the front door,but I thought after she realized she wasn't going to get her way,she would give up so much time and effort in harassing me,in a way I do kinda feel bad for her,cause im a very compassionate person,i truly believe my husband was her whole life,she didn't know him at all,even though she thought she did,but he was her life,and I can say this because 4 days after dday,she called me I had no idea who she was,she called me by my nickname,only friends and family do that,and when I asked who is this?she told me,and she said she was very devastated that she was losing a friend,i was angry,but I treated her like a human being and told her I was sorry,she was feeling the way she was,but it was none of my concern,and not to ever contact me again,so eventually I changed emails,phone numbers,blocked her and her family from fb,her family never harassed me,but she went on their page since they weren't blocked at the time,but I think now shes an ugly person inside,and out,and I pray I don't have to put up with this for 16 years,like another person on here omg 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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